I ke kūmākena i helu ʻia ʻo R-rate Don Jon, wehe ʻo Sept. 27, ke pāʻani nei ʻo Joseph Gordon-Levitt i kahi twentysomething New Jersey i ka kiʻī pika a me nā kāne nona ka manaʻo like pono nona e mālama i nā pilina maʻamau me nā wahine i pale ʻia e ka nānā ʻana i ka porn. [loiloi a ma ka male ma Reddit] ʻOiai kona kaikuahine, hoʻokani ʻia e Scarlett Johansson, e holo ana no nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni i hōʻike ʻia ma Hollywood comedies romanties, ʻo Jon (Gordon-Levitt) e kahakaha ana ʻo ka pehea o ka wahine-a-koko wahine āna e hālāwai ai ke hiki ke helu i nā vixens virtual i kāna papakō kamepiula . ^ E Ha yM.
Inā like kēia me he kumuhana racy maikaʻi loa no kahi kiʻi ʻoniʻoni mainstream-ʻo ia nō. Akā ʻo Gordon-Levitt, nāna i kākau a kuhikuhi Don Jon, 'ōleloʻo ia hoihoi i ka ʻimi ʻana pehea e hana ai ka pāpaho i kā mākou ʻike a me nā mea i manaʻo ʻia. "ʻO nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni kahi ʻāpana nui a nui o kā mākou moʻomeheu media," haʻi ʻo ia iā EW i hōʻike uhi o kēia pule. ^ E Ha yM. "ʻO ka leka Don Jon hoʻāʻo ʻia e lawe mai i ka mālamalama - a ʻoliʻoli ʻo ia - ke hōʻemi nei i nā kānaka, ʻoi aku ka wahine, ʻaʻohe mea ʻē aʻe wale nō.
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i hoʻohiki i ka male ma kahi o 1991, maopopo iā ʻoe ʻo ka Pūnaewele, i ka nui, hoʻokahi ʻōnaehana lawe porn nui. Ma kekahi ana o kēia manawa, 30 pākēneka o nā ʻike āpau i hoʻoili ʻia ma o ka pūnaewele kekahi ʻano ponokala kiʻi, a ʻo nā pūnaewele porn e hoʻokipa hou aku i nā malihini kipa i kēlā me kēia mahina ma mua o Amazon, Twitter, a me Netflix i hui pū ʻia. ʻO ka mea e maopopo ʻole ai i ka mea e pili ana iā mākou, akā, i ka hopena o ka poʻe i hānai ʻia i ka wā Pūnaewele. He aha ke ʻano o ka mana e ulu ana i ke au o ka manawa koke i ka porn pūnaewele i loaʻa i nā kāne-a, no ia mea, nā wahine - aia i kēia mau makahiki he 20? Ehia mau ola maoli Don Jons i waho e hakakā nei me nā hopena o kā lākou hoʻohana porn?
ʻO Gen-Xers a me nā Millennials kahiko hiki ke hoʻomanaʻo mau i kēlā mau lā ma mua o ka Pūnaewele i ka wā i paʻa ai ka porn i ka ʻimi kapu, kahi i huna ʻia ma nā kua o nā pā hale nūhou a me nā wahi i hoʻopau ʻia i nā hale kūʻai wikiō. “I koʻu wā kamaliʻi, ʻo ke ala wale nō e ʻike ai i kahi wahine ʻōpiopio i loko Playboy a i ʻole ʻo HBO ma hope o ke aumoe, a nānā ʻoe i nānā Hōʻa hopena i ka hopena pule ma Bernie's 2 a me ka manuahi i ka pana i ka mea ke huki lākou i ka bikini, "wahi a kekahi 29 makahiki ke ʻano e hana nei i ka ʻoihana ʻoihana. “I kēia manawa ke kaʻa nei au e hiki ke huki i kahi wikiō o nā wikiō ikaika i ʻekolu mau kāne me ka wahine hoʻokahi a nānā iā ia. ʻAʻohe kūpono ʻole kēlā kiʻekiʻe o ka huakaʻi. "
A, no ka hapanui o nā kāne, ʻo ka ʻoluʻolu koke a me ka ʻōlelo o ke ʻano mea ʻole loa e hiki ke pale aku, ʻoiai inā lākou āpau a lākou i ʻike mua ai. "No nā kāne, ke ʻano like o ka wikiō e like me ka pāʻani wikiō - he pakele ia," wahi a "Jake," he kāne ʻo 25 makahiki mai luna mai o New York. "Aia kahi hiʻohiʻona i ka trailer no ka mea, Don Jon kahi i hopu ai ʻo Scarlett Johansson i ka hele ʻana o Gordon-Levitt e nānā ana i ka porn a manaʻo wau, 'Ua loaʻa iā Scarlett Johansson ma kou moena, a ke nānā nei ʻoe. Porno? ' Akā e hana e nā kāne. He ʻano ala e moe ai i ka honua kahi āu e hoʻomalu ai. Kuhi aku i ka manaʻo e ʻoi aku ka mākele o kou moekolohe ma mua o ka mea maoli. No laila ke hele nei ʻoe me ka wahine maoli, me ka wahine maoli, a me ka pilina maoli, hiki ke ʻanuʻu loa. ”
No kēlā mau iwakāluakūmālua nona ka ʻike moekolohe ma ke ʻano e ka porn pūnaewele, hiki ke hele mai me he mea weliweli lā ke ʻike ʻana i nā kiʻi o ka moekolohe i paʻi ʻia ma kā lākou naʻau ʻōpio pinepine i nā kūlike ʻole me ka ʻano maoli o ka moekolohe. "I ka manawa i hoʻomaka ai wau e moekolohe, ua hoʻāʻo wau e moekolohe e like me nā kāne i ka porn, no ka mea ʻo ia wale nō kaʻu i ʻike," i ʻōlelo ʻo Jake. "He kaikamahine kaʻu i kāohi iaʻu a ʻōlelo," Ke hōʻeha nei ʻoe iaʻu. ʻAʻole wau makemake i kēia. E kū ana kāua. ' E haki ana kēlā. Ua manaʻo wau e hoʻomalu wau iā ia. Ua manaʻo wau ʻo ia ka wahine ia. "
Ua ʻimi ʻo Actor Justin Long i kekahi o kēia mau manaʻo i ka wā i kākau ai ʻo ia i ke ʻano palaka aloha hoʻokūkū e hiki mai ana He hihia iā ʻoe, e hōʻike ana i kahi hiʻohiʻona e koho ai i ka porn porn ma luna o kāna kaikamahine. "ʻO wau paha kekahi hanauna ʻokoʻa," wahi a Long, 35. “ʻO kaʻu wehewehe i kekahi mea like me ia i ʻike ai i kahi paʻa o Kaupuni mai ka '60s a me' 70s. Akā ākea nui loa i kēia manawa. ʻOiai ma kahi pae haʻahaʻa, manaʻo wau i ka hiki ʻana mai o kēia ʻenehana a pau ka paʻakikī i ka kamaʻilio interpersonal. E hele wale ana nō e hoʻopilikia i ka poʻe e hoʻomau i nā pilikia. "
Malia paha, akā maikaʻi ke loaʻa i ka poʻe a pau e ʻae i ke ʻano o kēlā mau pilikia a pehea ākea paha. ʻO nā hana ʻikena a nā kāne ka mea nui loa, a me nā loiloi e pili ana i ka hopena o nā kiʻi kiʻi i nā kiʻi porn, ʻaʻole i hiki ke hilinaʻi ʻia a pinepine ʻia i kahi ʻano haipule, kālaiele, a i ʻole hiʻona. "Mahele ʻokoʻa nui i loko o ka honua moe e pili ana i ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka huaʻōlelo 'porn addiction," wahi a Rebecca Alvarez, kahi mea aʻo i hoʻokumu ʻia ma Philadelphia. "Aia kekahi poʻe e ʻōlelo maoli ana, ke hoʻololi nei i nā loea o ka lolo o nā kānaka, a pono ke kūkākūkā ʻia. A aia kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe — ʻo ka manaʻo maikaʻi ka wahine - e ʻōlelo nei he ʻano kuʻuna, a ʻo ia kekahi ala ʻē aʻe e hakakā ai i ka moe kolohe. ʻAʻole pono ke noiʻi ʻana.
Ka mea, maʻalahi maʻalahi ke loaʻa i nā kāne he nui e hakakā nei me ka loaʻa ʻole o ka manaʻo, a me ke komo ʻana i nā ʻano mea i makemake ʻia i ka makemake o ko lākou naʻau (a i ʻole nā pae ʻāina). Aia wale nō i luna o Reddit, kahi kahi laka anti-masturbation holoʻokoʻa "ʻAʻole Fap"- e ulu wale ana i waena o ka poʻe'ōpio a me 20 -ʻo kekahi mea e hoʻāʻo nei, ʻo ka pinepine me ka manaʻo nui o ka hala a me ka hilahila, e pale ai i kā lākou kiʻi. Ma kahi kokoke i 75,000 i haʻi ʻia "fapstronauts" i hoʻōla iā lākou iho i ka paʻakikī o ka hāʻawi ʻana i ke kiʻi porn no nā lā 90, inā ʻaʻole lōʻihi. ʻO ka poʻe i hoʻokololi ʻia i kā lākou mau pu e hoʻonui aku i ka hilinaʻi iā lākou iho, ʻoi aku ka ikaika a me ka noʻonoʻo noʻonoʻo, a me ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i ka pilina me nā wahine. "Eia kekahi o nā mea maikaʻi loa," e heluhelu ana i kekahi o nā kau i hala mai kahi poʻokela i haʻalele i ke kiʻi porn no nā lā 25. "NĀ KOHO IA I NORMAL / REGULAR (me nā hapa o ka hemahema) LADIES ma mua o ka FAKE PORN / MODELS! Makemake wau i ka piha piha, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ʻole-maikaʻi - ʻo ia ka HUMAN! LELI KINO! "
ʻIke kekahi i ka hanana "No Fap" a me nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni e like Don Jon a me ka mea hou i hoʻokuʻu ʻia i loko o ke kāne kolohe Mahalo no ke kaʻana like me nā hōʻailona o nā pilikia nui e hiki mai no nā kāne. ʻO Gary Wilson, kahi kumu aʻoaʻo kumu hoʻokipa e hoʻokipa nei i ka pūnaewele kaulana Loubrainonporn.com a ua hoopuka i Pāʻani TED ma ka porn addiction pūnaewele he mea nui i ka 1.5 miliona mau manaʻo YouTube, manaʻo i ka twentysomethings porn i nānā ʻia e hōʻike ana i ke kihi o kahi ʻōkē leo. "Ke ʻike nei mākou i kahi mea āu i ʻike ʻole ai ma nā kāne kahiko," wahi a Wilson. “Ua loli maoli ka makemake o kā lākou mau moemoeā. Ke manaʻo nei wau ua kokoke koke nā pilikia maoli. "
Hoʻopili pū ʻia nā wahine e ka ubiquity o ka porn pūnaewele, akā ma laila kekahi, paʻakikī ka kiʻi. ʻAʻohe kānalua he nui nā wahine ʻōpio i hoʻopilikia ʻia e ka hana porn o kā lākou kāne a kāne paha. "Hoʻohilohi iā ʻoe i kou lawa ʻole," wahi a kahi wahine 22 makahiki e hana ana i ka ʻoihana olakino. "Manaʻo ʻoe e like me" No ke aha ʻo ia e pono ai e hana i kēia? He aha ka porn e hāʻawi nei iā ia ʻaʻole pili kā mākou pilina? ' Ma ke kūpono, noʻu, makemake ʻoe e nānā lākou i ka porn zero mau manawa i ka pule. ”
ʻAʻole paʻakikī kēlā manaʻo i ka honua āpau, akā hāʻawi ʻia i ka nui o nā wahine e lilo i ka manawa e heʻe nalu ʻana i nā pūnaewele porn. "Aia kēia manaʻo e hoʻoluliluli nei nā wahine i ko lākou mau manamana lima, e like me," maikaʻi ʻole ka Porn a ʻo ia kahi mea a kaʻu hoa e hana nei e hoʻomanawanui ai au, "i ʻōlelo ʻia e Alvarez. "Akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o kēia mea, mai ka noiʻi aʻu i heluhelu ai, mai ka hapakolu a i ka hapalua o nā mea kūʻai porn i manaʻo ʻia he wahine."
ʻO ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka pilikia o ka porn mai nā manaʻo a me nā hoʻokolokolo waiwai e hoʻopuni ana iā ia he mea hiki ʻole loa ia. Akā i ka hopena, hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻo Alvarez aia i kēlā me kēia, i kēlā me kēia makahiki, ke kāne, a i ʻole ka moekolohe, e hoʻoholo inā he olakino a hoʻohana ʻole paha lākou i ka porn pūnaewele. "Manaʻo wau inā ʻike ʻoe ia he pilikia iā ʻoe iho, a laila pilikia ia," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. Me he mea lā ua ʻae ʻo Joseph Gordon-Levitt i kēlā loiloi. "Manaʻo wau ʻaʻohe mea kūpono i nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni, a i ʻole ke hōʻike ʻana i ka moekolohe i nā wikiō a i ʻole nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "Aia ia i kāu hana ʻana. ʻAʻole wale ia e hilinaʻi ʻia i ke ʻano o kēlā mau kiʻi ʻoniʻoni, akā pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai kahi mea nānā e nānā iā ia. Ke nānā nei ʻoe i kēia mau kiʻi a hoʻoholo i kēia pehea ke ola maoli? "
Ke nānā nei i nā kiʻi kiʻi ʻoniʻoni Hollywood hiki ke hoʻokaʻawale i ko mākou mau manaʻo maoli, pū kekahi. ʻO ka mea ʻoiaʻiʻo, ke manaʻo nei aia kekahi helu nui o ka ola maoli ʻo Don Jons ma waho, ʻo ka hapa nui o lākou, ʻaʻole like ka Gordon-Levitt's cocky lothario i ka kiʻiʻoniʻoni, e like me kā Wilson ʻObrainonporn's. "Aia kāna hele ʻana i waho e loaʻa ana i kēia mau wahine āpau, akā ʻaʻole ia he ʻano hoʻohālike maikaʻi," wahi a Wilson. “No ka hapa nui o kēia mau kāne, [ke hoʻohana ʻana i ka porn kaua] ke pale nei i kā lākou kaʻa e hele a alualu i nā wahine maoli. Ke hōʻemi nei lākou i ka neʻeʻana i lākou. Hele aku lākou i ka ʻōpala a ua like lākou, 'E ke kanaka, ke hele nei wau e hoʻi i ka home a hoʻohuli i nā pēpē āpau.' ʻAkaʻaka ʻo ia. "Akā, ʻaʻole ia e hoʻokae i ka kiʻiʻoniʻoni hoihoi."
— ʻO ka hōʻike pili ʻana e Lindsey Bahr, Anthony Breznican, Samantha Highfill lāua ʻo Sean Smith ki'i 'atikala
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