Aia ʻo ia ma ka uhi o ka makasina maka aniani i loaʻa iā ia e pāʻani ana i ke kaiāulu me kāna mau hoaaloha. "Playboy," heluhelu ʻo ia. ʻAʻole maopopo iā ia, ʻo ka Playboy Magazine ka hoʻomaka ʻana o kā Gabe ʻai nui ʻana i nā kiʻi pono ʻole. I ke kula waena, e noho ʻo ia e nānā i nā wikiō mele i ke aumoe ma MTV a me BET a me ka porn softcore ma HBO.
Ma ke kula kula kiʻekiʻe, ua wehe ʻo ke ao o ke kiʻi me ka pūnaewele kiʻekiʻe - hiki iā ia ke nānā maka ʻole i nā pūnaewele nui i ka manawa hoʻokahi, hiki iā lākou ke ʻimi i nā kiʻi ʻokoʻa like ʻole a nānā i nā wikiō hardcore. ʻIke pinepine ʻo Gabe a me kāna mau hoa i ka porn like pu - ma ke kula.
I ka manawa, ʻaʻohe manaʻo o Gabe i kāna ʻano. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole i hele pinepine kahi lā me ia e nānā iā ia. Akā e like ia me nā pāpā ʻē aʻe āna i hoʻopau ai, e like me nā wikiō wikiō a me nā televī paha. Ma waho aʻe o kēia, ua hana ʻo ka hapanui i nā wā ʻōpio, a ʻo ia nō hoʻi ke ʻano.
Eia nō naʻe, i ka wā i hele ai ʻo Gabe i ke kolamu, ua ʻano kekahi mea ʻē aʻe. I kēlā me kēia manawa a laila ʻimi ʻo ia e moe ai me kāna wahine, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia. Me kona nani, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke ala. Erectile dysfunction ma 23? Ua maopopo ʻo Gabe.
"Ua like hoʻi me ka nalo ʻana o koʻu naʻau mai oʻu aku nei," wahi a Gabe. "ʻAʻole wau i hopohopo koʻikoʻi, ʻaʻole wau i hopohopo, ʻike wau pono ia porn. ʻAe, inā hoʻomaka wau e nānā i ke kiʻi porn, e kiʻi koke wau i kahi kuhi. Ma laila ua hoʻoholo wau e hooki ... ʻoi aku ka nui o nā kiʻi i nā kiʻi i koʻu mau lolo i ka noʻonoʻo aʻu. "
ʻAmelika: ʻO ka leʻaleʻa o ke koho no nā miliona o ʻAmelika. Ma 2006, ʻo kāna mau uku kūʻai ʻia ma lalo o $ 13 biliona i kēlā me kēia makahiki. Kani kekona, helu ka lehulehu i ka $ 3,075.64 ma kāna ʻano erotic.
"He piliona miliona ka nui, ʻoi aku ka manawa i kēia manawa ma mua," wahi a Wendy Maltz, kahi lāʻau lapaʻau wahine mai Eugene.
ʻO Maltz ke kumu o ka puke ʻO The Porn Trap:ʻO ka mea e pono ai e hōʻolo i nā pilikia i hanaʻia e nā kiʻi pilikino. Ua hoʻomaka ʻo Maltz i ke kākau ʻana i ka puke ma hope o kona nānā ʻana i kahi ʻano maʻamau o kāna hana, kahi mea ʻaʻole āna i ʻike ai ma mua: hoʻomaka nā mea Kuleana e hele ana i loko o kona keʻena me nā pilikia e loaʻa ʻana i ke kiʻi porno - he manawa paha e hele mai paha kahi kanaka e haʻi nei i ka pōʻino ʻole i ka porn, a i ʻole he wahine e hōʻoia i ua hoʻohui ʻia ʻo ia i ka cybersex. Hōʻike ʻo Maltz i kēia ʻano ke hiki mai o ka pūnaewele kiʻekiʻe.
"Ke hoʻololi nei ka nūnū kiʻi mai kahi mea a mākou e hoʻohana ai i ke ala no ka hoʻohui ʻana i kekahi mea kuʻuna i kou ola aloha, i kahi mea hiki ke hoʻohana ʻole ʻia e nā kānaka - i kēlā me kēia manawa, ma kahi āpau ... e like me ka poʻe nā wīwī e kau mai ana mai ka hulina," wahi a ia.
Ua nui ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa e pili ana i ke ʻano ʻole o ka porn. Hiki ke kapa ʻia he mea hoʻohui? Hiki paha ke like me kahi mea hoʻohui i ka cocaine, ʻo ke kālā a me ka waiʻona? Hiki iā ia ke hana i ka porn erectedile erectile dysfunction Gabe i ʻike?
Maikaʻi ʻo Maltz.
"Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei au ua like ia me nā ʻano leʻaleʻa ʻē aʻe, e like me ka mea ʻawaʻawa a me nā lāʻau ʻai ʻona," i ʻōlelo ai ʻo Waltz. "Heck, inā i moe kolohe wau me kaʻu kamepiula, ʻaʻole au e pani."
Manaʻo ʻo Gabe i ka huaʻōlelo "addiction" ʻo ia iho hiki ke hoʻohālikelike. Inā he mea hoʻohui paha a i ʻole, ʻaʻole ia i ʻōlelo no ia. Ma kahi o Gabe, makemake ʻo ia e hoʻokū pili i ke ʻano o ka hoʻoulu ʻana o ke kiʻi i ka naʻau o ke kanaka.
"Kūkulu ka lolo i nā kiʻi a me nā wikiō," i ʻōlelo ai ʻo Gabe. "A ke kau nei i ka manaʻo, a ke manaʻo nei ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻokō iā ʻoe."
A eia kekahi ʻimi e ʻōlelo ana e hiki paha iā Gabe. Mitchell Moffit a me Gregory Brown o Ua hana ʻo AsapSCIENCE i ke wikiō, "The Science of Pornography," kahi a lākou i hōʻike ai i nā loli hiki ke hoʻololi i ka lolo i ka wā e nānā ai ke kanaka i nā porn. Hoʻopuka ka haki wahine i ka dopamine i loko o kā mākouole - kahi mea kanu e hoʻoikaika iā mākou e hana i nā hana he nui e pono ai no ke ola: kaʻai, ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa a me ka hoʻohuli ʻana. No laila, keʻike mākou i nā kiʻekiʻe o ka dopamine i loko o kā mākou palaka, kamaʻilio mākou naʻauka "ʻoi aku ka nui o ka ʻoi aku," ʻoi aʻe, "e mālama i ke ala no ka hoʻohui.
ʻOiai ʻaʻole ia he mea pilikino, ʻ saylelo aku ʻo Moffit a me Brown i ka mea e pili wale ana ke kiʻi a nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni i kēia mau leʻaleʻa e hele pololei i ke ʻano o ke ʻano he lāʻau lapaʻau - e hoʻomohala ana iā mākou, e hoʻowalewale iā mākou e ʻimi. ʻoi aku ka nui o nā kiʻi hou aʻe e hōʻoluʻolu i kā mākou makemake pilikino - a hiki iā mākou ke kūkulu i ka haʻalele no ka manawa manawa inā pau koke mākou i ka hoʻohana ʻana ia mea.
ʻO ke ʻano ʻo Gabe me ka hanana paha e lilo i mea hoʻoikaika i nā ʻōlelo a ka mea ʻelele. No ia, ua hōʻea ʻo ia i kahi kūlana i lilo ʻole ai nā kiʻi i ka porn, akā he mea ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hana me ka ʻole.
“Ua hoʻomaka me nā kiʻi o nā kaikamāhine ʻōlohelohe, a laila ʻo nā mea pono hoʻi, a i nā wikiō paʻakikī. Ua hoʻopau i kahi i koʻu nānā ʻana i nā mea aʻu i makemake ʻole ai e nānā, no ka waiwai maoli. "
"ʻAʻole ʻo ka ʻepekema ʻo kiʻi kiʻi wahine i ke ʻano he mau mea hoʻohālikelike o porn, akā, ʻo kona hiki ke" hoʻomohala i kā mākou mau makemake a me nā makemake. "
No ka mea he ikaika loa nā kiʻi, ʻo Carol Stabile, ka luna o nā ʻO ke kikowaena o ke aʻo ʻana o nā wahine ma ka Hui Pūnaewele, 'ōlelo' ia he hiki ke hoʻohana 'ia' o porno i kā mākou pono. ʻO Stabile, nui nā mākeke pili ʻole i loko o ke kiʻi o nā kiʻi i nā kiʻi. ʻO ka mea maʻalahi, i manaʻo ai, hiki ke lilo i ʻenehana hoʻonaʻauao no ke kāne a me ka wahine. ʻO ka pilikia, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, ʻo ka Mainstream porn e ʻike pono i ka lehulehu lehulehu: nā kāne. Hoʻopuka kekahi i nā manaʻolana kūlohelohe no ka moe kolohe.
Ma kahi o ka hoʻolaha ʻana i ka porn a i ka momona o nā kāne a me nā wahine, e hoʻomāhuahua i ka mainstream porn i ka orgasm wahine a me ka maikaʻi o ka male a me ka leʻaleʻa. ʻAʻole ʻike ʻia ka wahine e like me ke ʻano ikaika o ka wahine; akā, lilo ia i mea e pili ai ka moena i hoʻopauʻia.
"Ma ke ʻano he wahine wahine, ua paʻa mau wau ma waena o ka hoʻonaʻauao wahine a me nā ʻokoʻa hoʻowahāwahā i ke ʻano o nā kiʻi - a laila ma laila nō hoʻi ke hoʻohana ʻino ʻia ʻana ma ia wahi," wahi a Stabile. "Akā manaʻo wau heʻoiaʻiʻo ka hapanui o ka hoʻolaha ʻana o nā keiki i ka moekolohe - aia i ke kiʻi, hiki ʻia ma laila, he punaʻo ia. A ʻaʻole wau i manaʻo nui. Manaʻo wau i nā kiʻi hoʻohemo, e like me nā ʻano like ʻole o kēia mau ʻano, i kēia mau ʻike maoli a me nā ʻano. Inā ʻo ka mākaukau mua ka wahine, he pilikia. "
ʻO April Haynes, he mea kākau moʻolelo mo University of Oregon, e ʻae me Stabile akā ua lawe hou aku ia, e ʻōlelo ana e like me ka hoʻonaninani ʻo ka porn i ka hapa nui. ʻAʻole hiki ke ʻae ʻia kona ʻano mea ʻole e lilo mākou i mau mea ikaika.
"I ka hopena, makemake wau i ka pae kino i loko o nā ʻikepili like ʻole" wahi a Haynes. "ʻĀnō, ke nānā aku nei ʻoe i ke ʻano like i hoʻohou hou ʻia - ua ala koke nā mea a pau, aia kekahi hiki ʻana i ke kikowaena a puka ʻole nā orgasm. Manaʻo wau e noʻonoʻo pono he aha ka moekolohe i kahi ala ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. ”
ʻElua mau makahiki mai ka manawa i pau ai ʻo Gabe i ka nānā ʻana i nā porn a ua hauʻoli ʻo ia ma mua o ka ʻano. ʻO kēia lā ua moemoeā ʻo ia i lilo i kamaʻilio lehulehu, e haʻi ana i nā kāne a me nā wahine i kāna moʻolelo o nā kiʻi kiʻi kiʻi-ukuhi ʻia ʻo ED me nā manaʻolana e kamaʻilio ai ka "ʻaoʻao ʻaoʻao" ʻole i ke kiʻi.
"Manaʻo wau he ʻano maikaʻi loa kēlā, a makemake wau e hoʻokomo i ke ʻano kūlohelohe me ke ʻano ʻole o nā mana porn," wahi a Gabe. "Ua ʻike au i pehea e hiki ai ke hoʻopilikia iaʻu, a makemake hoʻi au i maopopo e ka poʻe ʻē aʻe e pili ana i nā pōʻino e hiki mai ana."
Inā paha nā hopena o ka palaki i ka lolo a i kona hopena paha i ko mākou kaiāulu, ʻoi aku paha ka nui o ke ao nei o nā kiʻi i nā kiʻi ma mua o ko mākou manaʻo.
http://dailyemerald.com/2013/06/06/sex-the-dark-side-of-pornography/ (Daily Emerald, University of Oregon)
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