“Pukikua? He ala hou synaptic hou. Alae ʻoe i kakahiaka, wehe i kahi palapala paʻi, a alakaʻi iā ia i ka pahu momona o ka Pandora. Ua hala paha nā lā i koʻu ʻike ʻana i ka puʻu 300 ma mua o koʻu puka ʻana mai kahi moe. "- ʻO John Mayer, mea kani.
Kiʻi hou: kaomi ma aneʻi no ʻāpana 7.
ʻO ka lawehala ʻo ia kekahi o nā kumuhana pili i ka manaʻo i noʻonoʻo ʻole ʻia i kā mākou noiʻi mua i ka ʻano kanaka a me kona pili ʻana i ka huahana. No ke aha mai? ʻAe, no ka hapa ʻokoʻa, ʻo ke nānā ʻana i ke kiʻi o ke kiʻi he mea pilikino ia - ʻaʻole ia ke ʻano o nā mea āu e kamaʻilio pū ai me kāu mau hoaaloha (aloha ʻia ʻole paha i kau ʻia ka inoa o kahi hōkū porn i ke kamaʻilio ʻana?) Ma muli o ia mea, ʻaʻole loa mākou ka nānā ʻana i nā hopena huahana a hiki i kekahi mau lā heluhelu AE e hoʻomaka ana i ka nīnau no ia.
O ka nui a makou i eli ai, ke loaa ka loaa ia makou hopena koʻikoʻi ma ke kaiāulu, ma kāu ʻano, a ʻoiaʻiʻo, ma kāu huahana.
I ka ʻōlelo ʻia ʻana, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke kōkua akā ke manaʻo e nui ka hewa o nā mea naysayers e pili ana i ka ponokala a me ka ʻoihana hoʻonaʻauao maikaʻi hoʻi he hewa - ʻoiaʻiʻo, aia kekahi mau kumu i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka ʻike pili kino. E hopohopo anei i ka hopena o nā hana komohana o ke komohana e like me ko mākou ʻike? ʻAʻole paha.
Ua kākau ʻia kēia ʻatikala no nā kāne. ^ E Ha yM. E ʻoluʻolu e ka wahine i ka heluhelu, akā e alo iā ia - ʻo nā kāne kā nā mea kūʻai nui loa o nā kiʻi paʻi kiʻi. ^ E Ha yM. Inā makemake ʻoe e ʻike i ke kumu, noʻonoʻo hou i ka Coolidge Effect - ʻoi aku ka nui o ka ʻōlelo i ka heluna kāne.
Inā he hola a i ʻole e puhi ai, e nānā i ka ʻO kou Kumupaʻa ma luna o Youtube Youtube Series - He nānā kikoʻī loa ia i ka mea a mākou e kūkākūkā ai ma aneʻi. E lawe wale i ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia me ka palaoa o ka paʻakai akā - ua "hoʻoponopono ʻia" ka hapa nui o kā lākou ʻike e hana i ka politika a me ka presentable, ma mua o ka pono.
ʻO ka pane hoʻolāʻau
- ʻO ka huahana a me ka porno kahi hoʻohālikelike maʻalahi. Hōʻike liʻiliʻi porn = liʻiliʻi i ka manawa maka ʻāmi = ʻoi aku ka nui o ka huahana.
- ʻO ka pilikia me porn loaʻa kahi hoʻohui dopamine. ʻO ka mea āu e nānā, ʻoi aku ka makemake āu. Ma nā pae hoʻohui, he kaohi mau iho ka mea e hoʻololi ai i kāu lolo a me nā ʻano hana.
- ʻAʻole pili ka wahine i ka lawehala o nā kāne.
- ʻO kēia ka hopena maʻalahi ʻo ka hoʻōki i ka nānā ʻana i nā kiʻi kikowaena.
- ʻO ka manawa āu e noho nei ke nānā aku i ka porn e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi me ka wahine maoli ola.
Ka Poʻomanaʻo Mīkini
Manaʻo wau e ʻae ka hapanui o ka poʻe i ka male kāne o ka nānā aku i ke kiʻi me ka masturbation. E hiki paha iā ia ke ulu i kahi o kou ʻai ʻana i ka ponokala ʻole me ka masturbation, akā no ka hapanui o nā kānaka, pili nā mea ʻelua.
I ka pae maʻamau loa, kūawaʻa loa. hoʻonui ka masturbation i hoʻonui i ka hana, a me ka liʻiliʻi hoʻi i ka inu ʻana i ka ponokala ʻoi aku ka manawa e nānā ai i kahi mea ʻole.
I ka wā lōʻihi, ʻaʻole ka hilinaʻi ma luna o kahi pouaka uila a i ʻaoʻao paha ke leʻaleʻa no ka ʻoliʻoli ʻo ia ka nui o ka hiki ke hoʻoikaika a hoʻoliʻi i nā hana, pēlā e hoʻonui ai i nā pae huahana.
No laila:
Ka liʻiliʻi porn = emi iki ka nānā ʻana i kahi aniani = emi iho ka masturbation = ʻoi aku ka manawa e hana i nā mea ʻē aʻe.
Kaikua a me ʻAkana
E nānā i kekahi o nā biology a me neuroscience ma hope o ke kumu e hiki ai i nā mea kolohe ke kaumaha.
Ke nānā nei ʻoe i nā porn, e kuhikuhi ana i kou kino e hoʻokuʻu i ka dopamine i kāu pūnaehana. No ke aha mai? ʻAe, aia kekahi ʻano mea e hana i kēia.
- Kūkulu ʻia ke kino kanaka e hoʻolalelima i ʻelua mau mea: ka ʻai, a me ka moena (ʻoihana kūpono). ʻO kēia, no ka manawa mua o ka mahiʻai, ʻelua mau ʻāpana like ʻole i hana ʻia e ka mīkini ke kino o kou kino e pono ai e hana. ʻO nā loli like ʻole o kēia mau wa.
- I ka manawa a oukou e masturbate, hoʻokuʻu kou kino i ka dopamine, e hoʻomehana ana i ka orgasm he nui nui ka dopamine. I ka manawa pinepine a me ka hoʻolaha pinepine ʻana, hoʻomaka ka lolo i ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i ka dopamine ma ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka masturbation a me ka orgasm - i mea maoli i lilo i wired e hoʻokuʻu i ka dopamine i kēlā me kēia manawa ke nānā aku nei ʻoe i ka porn.
- No ka mea koi maoli ʻo dopamine iā mākou e pili ana i nā ʻano kūpono, i ka manawa i hoʻokumu ʻia ai kēia pilina, e nānā ana i ke kiʻi porn e like me ka hoʻokuʻu i ka dopamine.
- Kūkulu ʻia ka puka addiction.
ʻAʻole naʻe kēia ke kiʻi holoʻokoʻa. Aia kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona koʻikoʻi e hana i kēia loiloi i kēia lā.
ʻO ka mua,ʻo ia ʻO ka hopena Coolidge. ^ E Ha yM. Inā e hoʻomanaʻo i kā mākou ʻatikala ma mua ʻO ke aloha a me ka pilina, e ʻike ʻoe e pili ana ka Coolidge Effect i ka ʻimi ʻana i nā hoa kāne hou i hiki ke loaʻa iā ʻoe i nā mea i kēia manawa. ʻO ke ʻano o kēia mea, ʻaʻole nui ka lawa o ka mea like ʻole - pono ʻoe i nā ʻano a me nā mea hou hou i ka wahine. ʻO kēia kahi e hele mai ai nā kiʻi kikoʻī i kēia lā - hāʻawi ia i nā ʻano kī ʻole ʻole kīwaha me nā helu ʻole o nā “mākaukau” hou.
ʻO ka lua, ʻo ia ka ke ʻano kūʻokoʻa o ka ʻ .lelo porn i kēia wā. ^ E Ha yM. Loaʻa ka mana porn i kēia mau lā, maʻamau maʻamau a ma ke kumu kūʻai haʻahaʻa a hiki ke hoʻopau ʻia me ka pilikino ʻole ʻole me ka ram ramona. ʻO ka mea nui, ʻo ka hapa ʻole o ka mea hou a me nā ʻano i loaʻa i ka Pūnaewele, me ka wikiwiki o kāu pili pūnaewele nui e lilo i mea palena. ʻĀnō, ʻaʻohe palena o ka pau ʻana o nā kiʻi kikowaena i kēia lā, a no ka ʻimi ʻana o kou lolo i nā mea hou aku i ka moekolohe (ʻo ka Coolidge Effect), ʻoiai he kiʻi ʻo porn, i mākaukau e lawelawe i nā mea āu e ʻimi ai.
O ke kolu, he kanaka ka lolo kele. ^ E Ha yM. ʻAʻole maopopo ka hapanui o kēia mau mea iā mākou, akā, he mea maʻalahi loa ka paʻakai o mākou. Mālama ʻia, nā hana a i ʻole nā ʻano e mālama ʻia i nā mea i kapa ʻia nā neurons, i hiki ke noʻonoʻo ʻia i nā alahele i kekahi ʻano. Hoʻohālikelike kēia mau neʻelima e like me nā ala o ke kino - ʻoi aku ka nui o ka hoʻohana ʻia, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka māla a hōʻailona ʻia. ʻO kēia ke kumu e hiki ai i nā kānaka ke aʻo ma o ka hana a me nā hana i hoʻohua ʻia. Me nā kiʻi huna, ʻike ʻia ko mākou mau palekane i nā hiʻohiʻona e pili ana i ka moekolohe ma hope o ka nānā ʻana. Ma muli o ka Haumu ʻohana, inā loaʻa hou kēia mau hiʻohiʻona a lilo i "kahakaha ʻia", ʻimi mākou i nā ala hou. Hoʻopuka kēia me ka pau ʻole o ka huli ʻana i ka ʻimi ʻana i nā kiʻi hou aʻe nei i nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni hou, kahi mea i hoʻohui nui ʻia.
Hoʻohālike i ke ʻano o kēia addiction me nā mea ʻē aʻe e like me ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻana (e hoʻomanaʻo ʻoe ua hele ka ʻili e hoʻolōʻihi i ka meaʻai a me ka wahine), akā he mea ʻē aʻe no ka mea ʻoi aku ka mea hou ma mua o ka nui.
Ano, e noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe - ʻĀ, he maikaʻi kēia ʻike… akā aia kekahi maoli nā pilikia mai ka nānā ʻana i ka nui o nā porn? ʻAe, aia nō:
- E nānā ana ka nānā ʻana i nā kiʻi porn. ʻAʻole paha i like ka nui, akā 10 mau minuke ma aneʻi, ʻo 30 mau minuke ma laila ... e hoʻohui pū i ka manawa hiki ke hana i ka maikaʻi i nā hana ʻē aʻe.
- E like me kā mākou i haʻi mua ai, paʻi ka porn i kahi hōʻike maoli ʻole o nā ʻano wahine a me nā ʻano. Loaʻa kēia i nā hopena i kāu mau pilina, a no laila ke kiʻekiʻe o kou ola a me nā pae huahana.
- Hoʻololi ke kiʻi i ka hoʻokaʻawale i kāu mau mooolelo a me nā makemake i ka wā lōʻihi. ʻO kēia maoli hoihoi. E noʻonoʻo e pili ana iā ia: inā ua makemake ʻia kou lolo e ʻimi hou hou i kāu kiʻi hou a porn hou ... he aha ʻoe e manaʻo ai e hana ʻoe inā ua pau ʻoe i nā “porn” maʻamau? Hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻimi ana i nā fetiki hou a me nā kinks - no laila, ka nui o ka nui o nā kāne i laila e nānā ana i nā kiʻi kiʻi i nā mea ʻole a lākou i makemake ai i ka wahine. Nā hihia:
- ʻO ka hoʻonui manawa kūpono o ka holo erectile. Ua lawa ka'ōlelo.
- Hoʻonui ka nui o nā hopohopo olakino ma muli o ka haʻahaʻa dopamine haʻahaʻa ma waena o nā papa o nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni (i ka wā i loaʻa nā kiʻekiʻe dopamine kiʻekiʻe).
- ʻO ka hemahema o ka hoʻoikaika. Laha paha mai masturbation.
- ʻO nā pilina pili honua maoli ma muli o ka nānā ʻana o ke ʻano wahine.
ʻOiai, ʻo ka ponokona me ka masturbation e pili ana i kou lolo e ʻimi ana i nā kiʻekiʻe dopamine, ʻaʻole ka wahine.
pāʻoihana
ʻO ka ʻōnaehana maʻalahi loa ka mea a mākou i ʻōlelo ai i mau manawa i luna: kū ke nānā ʻana i ke kiʻi porn.
Hoʻolilo ia i kāu pornstars punahele punahele.
Aia i maopopo, he mau noonoo.
He hiki nō paha ke hele ma waena o ʻoe nā pilikia hoʻokuʻi i ka oki ʻana i kou hoʻohana ʻana i kāu kiʻi porn. E like me ka lāʻau a me ka mea e hoʻohui paha, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i kēia a ʻike pono i ka hopena - no ka mea ʻo ia e hele ana i ka manawa. ʻO kā mākou manaʻo ke hoʻololi i nā kuko a hoʻoikaika hou i kahi mea i koe - hele i ka hana a i ʻole i hana i kekahi mea i haku ai, a i ʻole kiaʻi maoli ʻoe ma kāu misionari ma ke ola.
Nui nā pūʻulu a me nā hui kākoʻo i ka Pūnaewele e hoʻoneʻe i ka moe a me ka masturbation i ka wā o "reboot" manawa. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole hoʻi a me wau ʻo / a me kekahi mea pili i ka porn, no laila, ʻaʻoheʻike pilikino i kēia pili. Mai kahi hiʻohiʻona huahana, ke kaʻe ʻana i ka masturbation he hele maikaʻi - e piʻi i luna kou pae kiʻekiʻe. ^ E Ha yM. A ʻo ka moekolohe, maikaʻi kekahi, ʻōlelo kekahi poʻe ʻaʻohe mea kōkua ʻo lākou e hele ma ke kaʻina hana. ʻO ko mākou manaʻo he mea maʻamau ke ʻano maʻamau, ʻoi aku ka maʻi maʻamau he nui na pomaikai).
E noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe inā pono ke ʻoki a pau porn mai kou ola, a i ʻole he pilikia ia. Eia kahi hoʻokolohua maikaʻi i hōʻike ʻia ma waena o nā ʻōpio a me nā hui kākoʻo e pili ana i ka pilikia: hiki iā ʻoe ke ala aʻe no kahi wahine maoli?
Inā ʻaʻole i pane, a inā makemake ʻoe e masturbate me nā kiʻi kiʻi ʻole ma mua o ka moekolohe me ka wahine maoli, a laila ua loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi pilikia kiʻi porn.
Hōʻike: ke manaʻo nei kēia he wahine maikaʻi paha ka wahine maoli by ke ao ka wehewehena, ʻaʻole he mea i ka ʻoihana e "wahine huki" i kēia manawa.
ʻO ka mea no ka wehe ʻana i nā porn a pau - maikaʻi ke komo ʻana i ka helehelena. A ma ka noʻonoʻo ʻole, e noʻonoʻo hoʻi i ka wā i loaʻa ai i kou mau mākua i kahi kope hou o Playboy i hoʻokahi manawa i ka mahina ma ka leka uila. Hiki iā ʻoe ke koho iā lākou i ka holo ʻana ʻole ma nā ʻaoʻao 24 / 7 / 365.
Loaʻa ia nā pōmaikaʻi mai No Porn
E ʻike pono ʻia he pono nā pōpoki no ke hōʻoki ʻana mai ka porn a no mākou e haʻi. Ma kahi o ka hoʻonā ʻana i ka hapa nui o nā pilikia i ʻōlelo ʻia ma luna nei, e loaʻa nō hoʻi ʻoe:
- ʻOi aku ka manawa e hana i nā mea ʻē aʻe. Hoʻ emi iki ka manawa papa me porn = ʻoi aku ka manawa ma kahi ʻē.
- Hoʻohana iki ka manawa o ka papa ma ka laulā. I ko mākou manaʻo, ʻoiai ke ʻano kūʻokoʻa ka porn, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi koke i ke kiʻi porn me kāu wikiō punahele punahele a i ʻole wikiō wikiō hoʻi. ʻO ka manawa ʻē aʻe ʻoe e haʻalele ai mai ka kamepiula no ka leʻaleʻa, ʻoi aku ka loaʻa o kou manawa e hana ana ma ka kamepiula kāu.
- Ua hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e ka nānā ʻana i ka porn a ʻaʻole masturbating.
- Loaʻa iā ʻoe a ʻoi aku ka loiloi hou o ka nani wahine. ^ E Ha yM. E like me kā mākou i ʻike ai ma luna nei, ʻo ia kēia ʻaʻole e pili ana i ka hoʻopili ʻana i kou manaʻo e manaʻoʻiʻo ana ka mea a ka ʻaha kanaka e ʻōlelo ai he "nani wahine wahine" he kūpono - pili ia i ka ʻike ʻana i kēlā ʻaʻole like ka hapanui o nā wāhine "ʻokoʻa" ma ka honua nei.
- ʻO nā pilina maikaʻi aku me nā wahine. Malia paha paha kēia. ʻO ka hapa nui o nā kāne nāna e hoʻōki i ka hōʻike ʻana i nā kiʻi porn e hana hou ai i ko lākou pilina me nā wahine. Aloha mākou i kēia mea, no ka mea, ua manaʻo mākou he mea nui aku i nā kāne e hoʻokūkū nei i nā hiʻohiʻona wahine (a pēlā hoʻi nā ʻano like ʻole) i ke alakaʻi ʻana i ka moekolohe.
ʻO ke papa hana maikaʻi loa
ʻAʻole kēia he Asian Efficiency inā ʻaʻole mākou i hāʻawi i kekahi ʻano o ka hana hana i hele ʻia e hele ai e pili ana i kēia hana. Eia ua manao la.
- Hoʻokiʻoki i ka nānā ʻana i nā porn, a i ʻole hoʻopau. Uaʻike mākou i ka nā pōmaikaʻi o ka ʻoki aku i ka masturbation, a inā e hana ʻoe i kēlā, e ʻike ʻoe i kāu inu ʻana i kāu wikiō. Kaho: pono iki i kēia manawa a laila me kāu hoa e hana hewa ʻole - ʻoi aʻe ma luna o kēia ma kā mākou kiʻi e hiki mai ana ma Asian Efficient Sex.
- E hele i ka manawa hou aku me nā wahine maoli. ^ E Ha yM. He manaʻo paʻakikī kēia e hoʻolele no ka hapanui o ka "hoʻōla i ka porn" a me nā hui kākoʻo. No ke aha mai? No ka mea ke kūleʻa pinepine ʻia i ke kāne e lilo i mau kāne, i ka ʻānō o kēia manawa, aia nō ka politika. I kēia manawa ke lilo ka manawa i ka manawa me kāu wahine / hoaʻi / kāne, a i ʻole he kumu ia e lilo i ka manawa hou aku i ka pahu / kalepa e nānā nei me ka wahine maoli, ʻo ia ka mea iā ʻoe. ʻO nā mea a mākou e ʻike maopopo ai, ʻo ka hoʻopili ʻana me ka wahine maoli ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka nānā ʻana i ka porn.
- E kiʻi i kahi hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi loa i ka moekolohe. ^ E Ha yM. Ke alakaʻi nei kēia mai #2 - ʻoi aku ka launa pū ʻana me nā wahine, ʻoi aku ka ʻike iā ʻoe i ka nui o nā ʻano mea ʻaneʻane a me nā "ʻano". Ua hoʻokuʻu mākou i nā paʻi a me nā ʻāpana liʻiliʻi i kā mākou hanana moʻolelo, akā, ʻaʻole ʻike ka hapanui o nā ʻōpio (a ʻelemakule) nā kāne a me nā wahine i waho e pāʻani ana i nā hiʻohiʻona mai nā ʻike huki i kēlā me kēia lā. A manaʻoʻiʻo ʻaʻole ʻia paha, aia he mau kāne (a wahine paha) i waho e ola ana i nā hiʻohiʻona "ʻona" maikaʻi aʻe e like me nā makahiki kanikau, e ʻoi aku ka wahine i ka manawa like a hiamoe pū me nā wahine hou i kēlā me kēia pō.
I Ke Kūʻana
- Hōʻike liʻiliʻi porn = liʻiliʻi manawa manawa = ʻoi aku ka nui o ka huahana.
- ʻO ka hoʻohui kiʻi porn he hopohopo e pili ana i ka dopamine, ka Coolidge Effect, nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni hou a me ka palaka o kou lolo.
- ʻAʻole pilikia nā wahine i kēia mea.
- ʻEleʻa maʻalahi: kāpae i ka nānā ʻana i ka porn.
- Lawe i ka manawa āu e mālama ai ma ke nānā ʻole ʻana i ka porn, a hoʻolilo pū me nā wahine maoli.
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