Pehea ka wiki e luku ai i nā ola
Ua hoʻopiʻiʻiaʻo Pamela Paul ma nā mea i loaʻa iā ia ma ka noiʻiʻana no ka hoʻololiʻana o nā kiʻi pāʻani i ko kāua moʻomeheu: ke hana nei nā mea a pau.
Na ka Nīnauele na Rebeca Phillips
"ʻO Porn ka mea no nā mea āpau," wahi a ka mea kākau ʻo Pamela Paul, nona ka puke hou, "ʻIke ʻia," e kikoʻī ana i ka hoʻohana ākea ʻana o nā ponokala kiʻi e hoʻololi nei i ka moʻomeheu ʻAmelika a me nā pilina. Ua manaʻo ʻo Paul e ʻike i nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni e hoʻohana nui ʻia i ke ao o "nā mea nalo i hiki ʻole ke kiʻi i kahi lā" ke hoʻomaka ʻo ia e noiʻi i ka puke. Ma kahi o ia, ua ʻike ʻo ia ia mea mainstream, bridging haipule, lāhui, hoʻonaʻauao, a me nā pāpili o ka nohona pili waiwai. Ua kahaha nui ʻo ia, akā naʻe, i ka pinepine o ka hoʻohana ʻana o nā ponokala kiʻi i nā pilina ʻōpala, hoʻonui i ka hana moekolohe, a me nā loli e manaʻo ʻia e nā kāne mai nā wahine. Ua kamaʻilio hou ʻo Paul me Beliefnet e pili ana i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i nā ponokala kiʻi, pehea i hoʻololi ai ka pūnaewele i ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka porn, a he aha ka moʻomeheu o ka honua e hiki ke aʻo mai ka hana ʻana o nā hui haipule me nā kiʻi pono ʻole. E alakaʻi ʻo Paul i kahi hui kūkā kamaʻilio he ʻekolu pule e pane i nā nīnau a kūkākūkā me nā mea heluhelu pehea i hoʻololi ai nā kiʻi pono ʻole i ko lākou ola iho.
He aha kāu i kahaha nui ai e pili ana i ka hoʻohanaʻana i nā ponokala iʻAmelika?
ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole wau i manaʻo ʻo ka ponokala kiʻi kahi pilikia nui ma mua o kaʻu kākau ʻana i kēia puke. Ua hoʻomaka wau e kākau i kēia puke ma mua o ka Janet Jackson fiasco, ma mua o ka lipine ʻo Paris Hilton. Ua maopopo iaʻu aia he nui o nā ponokala kiʻi i waho, akā ʻaʻole wau i manaʻo he mea ia i hoʻopili i koʻu ola a i nā ola o kekahi mea aʻu i ʻike ai. ʻO ka nīnau aʻu e makemake ai e nīnau, "Me kēia mau ponokala kiʻi i waho, he hopena paha?"
Ua pīhoihoi loa wau i ka mea i loaʻa iaʻu. Ua kamaʻilio wau me ka poʻe i luku maoli ʻia ko lākou ola e nā ponokala kiʻi. ʻOiai nā poʻe i hoʻopau ʻole i ka hopena –o ka hōʻino porn, ka haki ʻana o ka male, ka nalowale ʻana o ka poʻe i kā lākou mau hana, a ua hiki nō hoʻi – ʻo ka poʻe i hele ʻole i kēlā mea nui i hoʻopilikia ʻia e ka porn. I kekahi manawa maopopo lākou ʻo lākou nō ia, akā ʻaʻole ʻike pinepine lākou i nā hopena o nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni iā lākou.
Hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻoili i kekahi hiʻohiʻona?
Aia kekahi wahine i ʻōlelo mai iaʻu, “Maikaʻi loa wau me ka porn. Manaʻo wau he leʻaleʻa, nānā wau, nānā kuʻu ipo. ” ʻO ka hapalua hola i loko o kā mākou kamaʻilio kelepona ʻana, haʻi ʻo ia iaʻu ʻo kāna ipo kāne a ʻaʻohe ona moekolohe maikaʻi, ʻo ka manawa mua kēia i loaʻa iā ia kahi moekolohe maikaʻi ʻole, nānā ʻo ia i ka porn i nā manawa āpau, a ke manaʻo nei ʻo ia e kiʻi implants umauma. ʻO kēia kahi mea i ʻālohilohi a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi e pili ana i nā ponokala kiʻi, akā inā ʻoe e ʻūlū ma lalo o ka ʻili, ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ia ma nā hihia āpau.
I mea e pane ai i kāu nīnau kumu, no ka mea ua pīhoihoi nā mea āpau iaʻu – a ʻaʻole wau e noʻonoʻo iaʻu iho he kanaka naif - Ua pīhoihoi wau i ka nui o nā kāne a me nā wahine e ʻōlelo nei hiki i ka porn ke kōkua i ka poʻe i ka moekolohe, kōkua ia iā lākou e wehe. i luna, he mea leʻaleʻa a hōʻino ʻole ia, akā i ka manawa like e hōʻike ana nā kāne pā i nā ponokala kiʻi e hōʻino ʻia kā lākou moekolohe. Ua pilikia lākou i ka mālama ʻana i nā kūkulu, ua pilikia lākou i ka moekolohe ʻana me kā lākou mau wahine, ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hauʻoli hou i ka moekolohe kanaka maoli. Ua hoʻolālā ʻia kēia mau kāne iā lākou iho i ka moekolohe wale nō i ka lolokila, a me nā ponokala kiʻi.
Ua'ōleloʻoeʻaʻole nā mea a pau e lawe i nā kiʻi pilikino a hiki i ka hopena, akāʻo kāu puke kākalakala nā moʻolelo o nā poʻe he nui. Pehea e hele ai nā kānaka mai ka lilo maʻaʻole o ka puke paʻikala pono i kekahi mea i hoʻonāukiukiʻia?
Ua kākau wau i kahi mokuna e pili ana i ka hopena o nā ponokala kiʻi i nā kāne a hele wau i nā ʻanuʻu no ka hopena ʻana i nā mea hoʻohana maʻamau: desensitizes ia iā lākou, a laila piʻi aʻe i ka hoihoi nui a nui loa. A laila ua hana wau i kahi mokuna ma luna o nā kāne i hele i lalo loa a lilo i ka ponokala. A hele wau i nā ʻanuʻu like. He mea weliweli – ke hōʻike nei ka mea hoʻohana maʻamau i nā hopena like, ma kahi kekelē liʻiliʻi wale nō ma mua o ka mea addict.
Ua manaʻo wau e pale aku nā mea paʻi kiʻi i kā lākou hoʻohana ʻana i nā ponokala kiʻi, a i kekahi ʻano o lākou, akā ua hauʻoli pinepine lākou e pili ana i ia mea a haʻaheo hoʻi. Akā i kaʻu nīnau ʻana iā lākou, "Manaʻo ʻoe hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i ka porn?" ʻelua hapakolu o nā kāne i manaʻo ʻole ua hana ʻāpala lākou, "ʻAe, ua hiki nō iaʻu ke ʻike i kēlā hana." Ma mua o ka pūnaewele, manaʻo au ʻaʻole mākou e loaʻa i kēia pilikia.
No laila ua hoʻololi maoli ke'enewele i nā mea?
Aia kahi conundrum moa-a-hua manu e nīnau ana inā ua hoʻokumu ka pūnaewele i kēia pilikia a i ʻole inā kōkua ka porn i ka hoʻolaha ʻana o ka pūnaewele. Hoʻohui paha ia. Loaʻa iā mākou nā ponokala pūnaewele a me nā kiʻi kīwī kīwī a me nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni DVD, a ma nā wahi āpau a loaʻa mau. I ʻumikūmālima mau makahiki i hala aku nei, ua kiʻi paha kekahi iā Playboy i kēia manawa a laila, hoʻolimalima paha i kahi videocassette – ua lilo kēia poʻe i mea hoʻohana i kēlā me kēia lā. Ua hele ka mea hoʻohana maʻamau mai kahi mea e nānā i ka makasina i nā manawa a hoʻolimalima paha i kahi wikiō ke hele ʻo ia no kahi ʻoihana i kekahi mea e hoʻolilo nei i ka hapalua hola a i ʻole 45 mau minuke ma ka pūnaewele i ka lā.
Aia kahi hōʻike o kahi mea pono kiʻi kiʻi kiʻiʻoniʻoni?
ʻAʻole, a ʻo ia ka mea weliweli pū kekahi. He naif ia ma kaʻu ʻāpana, akā ua noʻonoʻo wau, "ʻAʻole ia he mea aʻu e ʻike ai, ʻaʻole ia he mea i aʻo maoli ʻia a i ʻole ʻike pono iā ia iho a i ʻole i pili i ka pilina koʻikoʻi. ʻO Porn ka mea nalowale i hiki ʻole ke kiʻi i ka lā. ” A ua manaʻo wau no nā keiki ka porn - kahi pae e hele ai nā ʻōpio āpau. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, porn no nā mea āpau; ke hoʻohana nei nā mea āpau i nā kiʻi pono ʻole. Ua kamaʻilio wau me ka poʻe Ivy League-aʻo, ka poʻe i hoʻopalau, ka poʻe i male, ka poʻe i hemo, ka poʻe makua o nā keiki ʻōpio. Ua hele i waena o nā nohona a pau, a me nā lāhui āpau, a me nā lāhui āpau. Ua kamaʻilio wau me nā kāne e manaʻo nei iā lākou iho he poʻe haipule haipule a hoʻokahi kāne i aʻo ma kahi kula Iudaio. Ua kamaʻilio wau me kahi mōneka. Ua kamaʻilio wau i ka poʻe o nā ʻano like ʻole āpau a me nā manaʻoʻiʻo, a ua hoʻohana lākou āpau i nā kiʻi pono ʻole.
E nānā i nā poʻe haipule e hoʻohana nei i nā kiʻi pono ʻole. ʻO kāu helu helu e pili ana i ka nui o nā kāne euanelio e hoʻohana i nā ponokala kiʻi ke kahaha nui. He aha ka hana ma laila?
Manaʻo wau he ʻoi aku ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o kā lākou. Aia kahi nānā 2000 i hoʻokumu ʻia i ka ʻohana i ʻike ʻia he 18% o ka poʻe i kapa iā lākou he poʻe Karistiano hānau hou e ʻae i ka nānā ʻana i nā pūnaewele porn. ʻO kahi kahunapule i kapa ʻia ʻo Henry Rogers e aʻo nei i nā ponokala kiʻi i koho ʻia he 40 a 70% o nā kāne ʻeuanelio e ʻōlelo nei ua hakakā lākou me nā ponokala kiʻi. ʻAʻole paha ia he manaʻo e nānā lākou iā ia, akā manaʻo paha lākou e ʻaʻa nei e hōʻalo i ka nānā ʻana iā ia.
Ma ka lehulehu, ʻike ka poʻe haipule, ka poʻe Kalikiano paha, he pilikia kēia. Ua ʻōlelo lākou ma mua o ka moʻomeheu o ka honua. He mea kēlā e loli. He mea ʻole ka ʻoiaʻiʻo inā haipule ʻoe a i ʻole he sekela ʻoe – e like paha nā manawa āu e nānā ai i ka porn.
He aha ka hana o ka moʻomeheu o ka'āina mai keʻano o ka hana hoʻomana o ka hoʻomana kiʻi i nā kiʻi pono?
Hiki i ke ao honua ke aʻo mai nā pūʻulu haipule e pono ke kūkākūkā. Kamaʻilio nā mea āpau e pili ana i ka nui o porn ma laila, akā e kamaʻilio paha mākou he pilikia ia? Kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i ka hopena i ka poʻe? ʻO ia kekahi mea ma nā ʻano he nui, ua ikaika nui nā kaiāulu hoʻomana.
Ua nui wau i ka nui o nā wāhine o kāu puke eʻoluʻolu nei i nā kiʻi ponoʻole e like me ko lākou pili.
Manaʻo wau he nui nā wahine e ʻoliʻoli e ka ʻano o ka nui o nā kāne e hoʻohana ponokala kiʻi - he "mea kāne" ʻaʻole maopopo iā lākou. Aia kekahi manaʻo e wehe a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi e pili ana i ka porn i ʻike ʻia ma ke ʻano seksi a me ka pūhaka. He mana a hoʻolaha kēlā mau leka.
He aha ka mea e ʻike ai i kekahi e pili ana lākou i nā ponokala?
Ua kamaʻilio wau me nā kānaka he ʻumikūmālua paha i lilo i ka ponokala kiʻi. Kamaʻilio lākou e pili ana i ka hōʻole e mau nei no nā makahiki. Ua kamaʻilio wau i nā kāne i ʻōlelo ʻaʻole pili lākou akā ka mea i hoʻolilo i nā hola ma ka pūnaewele, e noho ana a hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha kakahiaka i ka nānā ʻana i ka porn. He like ia me ka waiʻona ma nā ʻano he nui – i kekahi manawa he pōpilikia ia e ʻike ai, i nā manawa ʻē aʻe e hoʻonāukiuki ai kekahi mea i kahi ʻano like me ka hilahila a hewa paha.
Me nā mea leʻaleʻa, pinepine ka pono o nā kiʻi pono i ko lākou ola maoli. Hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomaka e hele i ka poʻe hoʻokamakama, e kau ana i nā hui kala, e hui pū me nā wāhine mai nā lumi kūkākūkā. He mea kakaikahi ka mea iʻike i ko lākou hoihoi i nā kiʻi pīkoi ponoʻole i hoʻolālāʻia i ka nānāʻana i nā'ōpio, aʻo ka liʻuliʻu eʻike ana iā lākou e nānā ana i nā kiʻi kiʻi kiʻi pila. No ka nui o nā kāne aʻu i kamaʻilio ai, he kumu ia no ka ho'ōla houʻana.
He aha kekahi mauʻano ola e hele ai nā kānaka? Aia kekahi mea e like me Pornokalakala Anonymous?
Ae. Aia kekahi mau pūʻulu he ʻelua mau ʻanuʻu, e like me Anonymous Addicts Addicts. ʻAʻole lākou no nā ponokala kiʻi kikoʻī, akā pili lākou āpau me nā ponokala kiʻi, a i ʻole ka mea e hiki mai ana ma hope, ʻoiai e kolo pinepine ana nā kiʻi pono i ke ola maoli. A aia kekahi mau hui hoʻomana. Aia kekahi Ministries Life Maʻemaʻe, a me nā hale pule ʻē aʻe i hana i nā pono hana no ka mālama ʻana no ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i nā ponokala kiʻi.
Kuhi ʻoe ua lilo ka porn i kumuhana kūʻokoʻa, a ʻaʻole pili ka liberal i nā pilikia e pili ana i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa o nā wahine.
Inā pili nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni i nā ʻeleʻele a i ʻole nā Iudaio a i ʻole kekahi hapa ʻē aʻe a i ʻole hui paha, manaʻo wau e pane ka poʻe liberal me ka huhū. Akā he wahine a ʻaʻohe pane. ʻO ia paha no ka mea ua ʻae ʻia ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa anti-ponokala e nā hui i ʻike ʻia ma ke ʻano he reactary a kūpono ʻole paha. ʻO ka mea maʻamau, aia ʻelua mau pūʻulu i anti-ponokala kiʻi. ʻO kekahi ke kuleana haipule, ka mea i ʻōlelo he anti-sex education a me anti-homosexuality, no laila ʻaʻole makemake nā liberal e hui pū me lākou. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻo nā wahine wahine anti-ponokala kiʻi i kahi ala kū kānāwai, a me kahi ala i manaʻo ʻia he mau wahine ʻē aʻe he anti-men. Ke kūlike kēlā mau hui ʻelua e hakakā i nā kiʻi pono ʻole i nā makahiki 1980, ua pio ka hapa nui o nā poʻe liberal.
I ka manawa like, he paio ikaika kā ka pro-ponokala kiʻi i hoʻopiʻi i nā liberal. E pili ana i ka Hoʻololi Mua, nā pono kīvila, nā pono kanaka. He mea hoʻohenehene ia, no ka mea, ke hoʻokūkū nei paha lākou i nā pono o ka poʻe e nānā i nā kiʻi pono ʻole, akā ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻokūkū nei i nā pono o nā wahine i loko o nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni a i ʻole nā kuleana o ka poʻe makemake ʻole i nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni e kīkē ʻia i ko lākou alo ma nā wahi āpau a lākou e huli ai.
ʻO kekahi mea e like me ke kiʻi ʻoniʻoni "The People vs. Larry Flynt" e paipai i kekahi liberal e ʻaoʻao me Larry Flynt. Hoʻololi hewa ia i ka pilikia. Ua hoʻolilo mākou i ka manawa nui i ka pale ʻana i nā kuleana o nā kānaka e nānā i nā kiʻi pono ʻole. Akā ʻaʻole mākou i hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e pale ai i ke kuleana o ka poʻe e ʻōlelo kūʻē i nā kiʻi pono ʻole.
ʻOihana nui kēia. He loio kā lākou, he hoʻolaha lākou, he poʻe lobbyist kā lākou. He huahana ka ponokalakala, a he mau piliona kālā i pili, a ua hana lākou i kahi hana kūpono i ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi leka e ʻōlelo ana, "Inā he manaʻo hāmama ʻoe, inā he aloha ʻāina ʻoe, inā ʻoe e hilinaʻi i ke Kumukanawai a ʻo ka Bill of Rights, a laila pono ʻoe e pale aku i nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni inā makemake ʻoe iā ia a ʻaʻole paha. ”
Kākau ʻoe e pili ana i ka loaʻa ʻole o nā kaohi like ʻole a nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni e like me nā rula FCC. No ke aha i hoʻokau ʻole ʻia ai nā kapu?
ʻO ka mea mua loa, he mea nui ia e hoʻomanaʻo i nā ponokala kiʻi kahi ʻano media a he huahana ia – a hoʻoponopono ʻia kēlā mau mea ʻelua. Hoʻoponopono ʻia ka pāpāho i nā manawa āpau – ka FCC hoʻoponopono i ka pāpaho, aia kekahi mau mea i hiki ʻole ke hōʻike ʻia i nā keiki, kekahi mau kiʻi ʻoniʻoni hiki ke hōʻike wale ʻia i kekahi mau manawa. ʻO ka pāpaho ka mea pāpā ʻole ʻole ʻia ʻo nā ponokala kiʻi. ʻO ka ponokala kiʻi kekahi huahana, e like me ka paka, he huahana, ka waiʻona he huahana, aspirin kahi huahana. Loaʻa i kēia mau mea āpau nā lula zoning, nā kānāwai e pili ana pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kūʻai aku, iā wai ʻoe e kūʻai aku ai iā ia. Akā i ka wā e pili ana i nā ponokala kiʻi, ʻōlelo mākou, "ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole, ʻaʻole, pono ʻoe e loaʻa i nā kiʻi pono ʻole ʻole, a i ʻole ke keʻakeʻa nei ʻoe." Ludicrous ka manaʻo ʻaʻole pono e hoʻoponopono ʻia nā kiʻi pono ʻole.
Nui a lehulehu nā hoʻoholo kipi i nā kiʻi pono ʻole e ka ʻAha Hoʻokolokolo Kiʻi. ʻO kekahi o nā hihia [1972] ʻo Miller vs. Kaleponi ka wehewehe ʻana o ka porn e kū mau nei – ua wehewehe lākou i nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni me he mea lā ʻaʻohe moʻomeheu a nani ʻole a i ʻole waiwai waiwai, a ʻōlelo i kēlā ʻano mea e pono e hoʻoponopono ʻia e kahi kaiāulu kūloko. Akā he aha ke kaiāulu kūloko i ka makahiki o ka pūnaewele? Lilo i mea paʻakikī e hoʻokō. Akā i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole au i manaʻo ua hana nui mākou.
Ke manaolana nei pahaʻoe i kāu puke e hoʻonui i nā kiʻi ponoʻole i loko o ke kūkāʻana o ka lehulehu?
Pono ka poʻe e ʻike he pono ʻole nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni maikaʻi ʻole. Pono lākou e lohe i kēlā mai ka poʻe ʻike ʻoi aku ka ʻike – ka poʻe e hoʻohana nei i nā kiʻi pono ʻole. Ua hoʻonani mua ʻia nā cigakeke e nā kauka a hoʻonani ʻia i nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni. ʻO ka uahi paka ka mea e makemake nui ʻia. Ua hiki mākou i kēlā manawa me nā ponokala kiʻi. Akā ke ʻike ka poʻe he maikaʻi ʻole ka puhi paka ʻana iā ʻoe, ua hoʻomaka ka hōʻemi ʻana o ka ʻai. ʻO koʻu manaʻolana e hiki mai kēlā me nā ponokala kiʻi.
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