Hiki iā mākou ke hana i nā manaʻo maikaʻi loa.
He mau makahiki i hala aku nei Ua hōʻike nā kānaka noiʻi German i ka hoʻonui ʻana o ka lōʻihi o ka launa ʻana, hoʻoliʻiliʻi ka makemake moekolohe i nā wahine - ʻoiai ka makemake no ka palupalu e hōʻole i nā kāne. ʻO ka maʻamau ʻoi aku ka manaʻo o ka hoa huhū ʻoi loa (o kēlā me kēia ʻano kāne) e hauʻoli maikaʻi ʻo ia inā hiki iā ia ke loaʻa ka nui o ka wahine e like me kona makemake. He aha ka mea e loaʻa ai iā ia i ke ʻano?
ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo ka mea iʻoi aku ma mua o kēlā. ʻO nā mea kūpono e kū'ē i kahi polokalamu o nā moʻo'anikōkika maikaʻi,ʻoi pinepine i ka hoʻokuʻu iā lākou ma waho o ka wahine-a pēlā pū i nā hoa pāʻani.
E noʻonoʻo i ka mea i hana ai i ka hui mauʻana o nā kāne kāne me nā wāhine hoʻokahi (e mau ana i loko o keʻano, mahalo i nā hopena hormone i nā lā a pau). ʻO ka lani lani,ʻo ia? Nope. ʻO nā kāne Hoʻohui iki a emiʻole ka pinepine, a me ka emiʻana o ka hauʻoli, ma kahi oʻekolu a me ka hapalua makahiki. ʻAʻoleʻo ia wale nō, i ka wā i hōʻikeʻia ai nā wāhine wahine hou, ua wikiwiki koke kēia mau lohi i ka hana me ko lākou'ōkuhi mua.
No laila, pehea lā e hana ai ināʻo kāu hoa i mau manawa a pau? Loaʻa nā manawa i ka wā koke ʻAʻole e… ma ka liʻiliʻi me ia / iā ia. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo kaumaha inā ʻaʻole kāu wahine i moe kolohe me ʻoe i nā manawa āpau āu e makemake ai, hiki iā ia ke mālama i kāu hui me ka pale ʻana iā ʻoe mai ka hoʻomāʻona pinepine ʻana iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻole kēia kahi kūlana maikaʻi, akā naʻe, no ka mea me ka pili pinepine ʻole o ke aloha, ua nāwaliwali nā pili aloha ma waena o nā kāne, a ʻo ka mea minamina, he nui nā kāne e ʻauheʻe i ke aloha aloha. wale no i ka wā e alualu ai i ka hopena.
Ke kuleana o ka dopamine
Pehea e hiki ai i ka māʻona ke kipaku ke kipaku i nā hoa? I ka nānā ʻana o ka poʻe ʻepekema i ka lolo o nā ʻiole moena, ʻike lākou i kahi neurochemical i kapa ʻia ʻo dopamine (ka "I gotta it!" Mea) ma hope o ka hanana o ka luhi o ka hoa. E like me ka hana pinepine ʻana o kaʻiole me ka hoa like, hoʻokuʻu ʻia ka liʻiliʻi a me ka liʻiliʻi o ka dopamine i ka circuitry uku o kona lolo.
Eia naʻe ke hōʻike ʻia kahi hoa pili novel, piʻi hou ka dopamine. Aia koke ʻoe i ke ʻano. ʻO ia ka hana like e koi ai iā ʻoe e ʻōlelo “ʻae” i kahi mea momona momona, momona a ʻoiai ua piha ʻoe i ka pākē a me kaʻuala i kāwili ʻia. Hiki i ka Dopamine ke piʻi i kāu circuitry uku ke hoʻokahuli i kou mau manaʻo o ka māʻona, me ka nānā ʻole i ka manaʻo o kou lolo noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka ʻai ʻana a me ka infidelity paha. ʻO ka pīpī pīpī kahi “ʻae!” ʻo ka haʻahaʻa o ka dopamine he "ʻaʻole nui ia." E like me kā mākou e ʻike ai i ka wā e hiki mai ana, hāʻule maoli ka dopamine ma hope o ka orgasm, e pāʻani pono i kēia hanana. Hiki i kā mākou genes ke lilo i puppeteers puʻuwai ʻole.
Hoʻokumu nā kānakaʻepekema i keʻano o ka hoʻonāwaliwali o ka hoa me ka mea pili i ka wahine i ka wahine,ʻoiai e hana ana i ka mea hou no ka mea hou, ʻO ka hopena Coolidge. Uaʻike lākou i kēiaʻano nui i waena o nā'ōpū, e like me nā wāhine. ʻO kekahi o nā'ōpuni wahine, e like me keʻano, hoʻohālua i ka nui o nā mea hou - e kiʻi i nā hōʻailona hōʻailona-me nā hoa piliʻole ma mua o nā mea a lākou i kope ai. I ka mālama ʻana i kēia hanana, ke hemo ka poʻe male no ka mea ua hele a kāpae ʻole ko lākou noho moekolohe ʻana, hoʻopūʻiwa pinepine ʻia ka wahine male ʻole e ka libido huhū ke komo kahi ipo hou i ke kiʻi. Ke ʻimi nei kēia wahine iā ia i kēia manawa iwakāluakumamākolu kāne.
ʻO ka hopena Coolidge
ʻO nā mea'ēʻole hoʻi e pili ana i ka hopena Cooldish ma hope o ka hoʻohaʻahaʻaʻana i ka wahine:
Ua nānā au i kahi pepa paʻi kiʻi e pili ana i nā keikikāne me nā "puʻupuʻu aloha." Ua like hoʻokahi kāne me ka ʻumi o lākou. Nui nā mea āna e holo nei i waho o ka lumi i kona home. ʻOiai ʻo kēia mau nā pākuʻi, ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e ʻike iā lākou he mau kaikamahine āna i hoʻohana ai i ka manawa kūpono a ua mākaukau hoʻi no nā hanana genetika hou (hoʻopuni). ʻO ke kumu paha ka hōʻiliʻili ʻana o nā kāne i ka porn ... manaʻo mākou ua loaʻa iā mākou ka porn ʻoi loa o nā manawa āpau akā ma hope o ka ʻike ʻana i kekahi mau manawa ʻaʻole mākou i hoʻi. He mau kaona jpeg nā kiʻi aʻu i hōʻiliʻili ai, e noʻonoʻo nei e ʻākoakoa nei au i kahi waihona pūnaewele maikaʻi o ka leʻaleʻa. Akā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻomanaʻo i ka hoʻi hou ʻana iā lākou. ʻO ka ʻāpana koi ka kiʻi HOU, ke kiʻi novel, a i ʻole, ka pēpē aloha novel.
No ke aha e lilo ai ka pilikino i hoa hele mau e nānā hou aʻano like me ka pulupulu o Brussels a me ka mea hou e like me ka momona maʻakala nui? Pēlā iʻoi aku ka nui o nā hua me nāʻano pilikino nui aʻe (ma waena o nā lāhui āpau). Ke makemake nei kou mau gen e holo i ka lā e hiki mai ana i nā moku likeʻole a hiki ke hiki iā lākou ke kau ma luna o ka moku. Ua like ka pili o ka monogamy i ka hoʻokomoʻana i nā hua a pau i loko o ka hīnaʻi hoʻokahi.
Pāʻoihana pili
Makemake i ka hōʻoia? ʻAʻole ʻO nā mammals hoʻokahi mono (ʻo keʻano o ka nohoʻana ka hilahilaʻole), aʻekolu wale nō pakeneka ka mea e hōʻehaʻeha ana i nā pili pilina. Uaʻikeʻia kēia mau pilina pili lua (me nā kānaka) pilikanaka. Hoʻolālā lākou i nā manawa lōʻihi a hoʻonui pinepine i kā lākou mau keiki,ʻoiai inā e mau nei lākou i nā koi e hōʻole ma ke hoʻomaikaʻiʻana i ka Coolidge Effect.
Makemake kā mākou genes iā mākou e alualu i ka hoʻohiki i nā manawa genetika inā ʻaʻole mākou e hopohopo "e noho hauʻoli ana." ʻOiai ʻo ka mālama pono ʻana o nā hoa, hiki i kēia leʻaleʻa neurochemically induced ke ʻike kekahi i kekahi e like me kahi lawelawe ʻē aʻe o "Hamburger Helper." ʻOiaʻiʻo nō, noiʻi e hōʻike i ka ʻāpono o nā kāne male kekahi i kekahi ʻoi aku ka huhū i ka lōʻihi o ko lāua maleʻana. (Ua ʻikea ka hopena o Coolidge Effect ma hope o ka pau ʻana o ke kī ʻana o ka ipo aloha neurochemistry aloha aloha, no laila ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei nā ipo hou he pale ʻole lākou - e like me ka poʻe aloha ʻole.)
Hoʻoulu lāʻau
Hoʻopilikia kekahi mau kāne i kēia hana sneaky primitive ma o ka hoʻopukapuka ʻana i ka dopamine me ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka porn a i ʻole ke hana ʻana i nā moemoeā moekolohe me kā lākou mau hoa e hana i ka pono. I nā kūlana ʻelua, ua hoʻāʻo lākou e hoʻopunipuni i ka lolo i hiki mai kahi manawa male kāne hou. Hoʻonui aʻe kekahi i kā lākou dopamine e ka hana ʻimi ʻana i nā manaʻo ikaika (e like me ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana), a i ʻole nā wahine kuapo. Eia nō naʻe, hiki ke luhi ke hoʻokokoke i kahi kūpikipiki dopamine i kēlā me kēia manawa āu e makemake ai e aloha. A he aha ka mea e makemake ai inā makemake kekahi hoa e "hoʻoponopono" i ka pīhoihoi o ka moekolohe a ʻaʻole mākaukau ka mea ʻē aʻe e hoʻopukapuka nui, a i ʻole e holo i ka pilikia i manaʻo ʻia, e kiʻi i kahi pīhoihoi?
Make paha mākou e ʻae i ka biology e hoʻomaha ʻole? I nā pou e hiki mai ana e nānā mākou i kahi koho a nā moʻomeheu like ʻole ma o ka mōʻaukala i hoʻohana ʻia: kahi ala e hana ai i ke aloha e kōkua i ka pale aku i ka noho maʻamau. Hoʻokumu ʻia ia i ka manaʻo ʻo ka luhi ʻana i kā mākou makemake moekolohe e wikiwiki wikiwiki i ka hopena o Coolidge ma ke kau ʻana iā mākou i nā ʻimi hou ʻana no nā piʻi o dopamine e pale i nā wā o ka haʻahaʻa dopamine e kū maoli ma hope o ka māʻona o ka moekolohe. Kū kēia iā mākou i ke ʻano.
Ke kūleʻa ʻole nā pae dopamine a puni me nā kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe a me nā haʻahaʻa, hiki i nā leʻaleʻa lahilahi ke hoʻopaʻa inoa me he mea leʻaleʻa lā - a mālama nā hoa i kā lākou sparkle. No laila, inā kolo ka Coolidge Effect i loko o kāu hui, mai makaʻu. Loaʻa paha iā ʻoe nā koho āu i noʻonoʻo ʻole ai.
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