ʻO kekahi o nā leka uila e komo i kaʻu pahu leka i kēlā me kēia lā – a ʻo kekahi aʻu e nānā nei no ka Listerve ʻoihana aʻu e komo ai ma o ka ʻOihana no nā Ola a nā Haumāna a iʻole SAHM.
I kēia lā aia kahi kūkākūkā ola a hoʻonāukiuki e pili ana i ke kiʻi ʻoniʻoni a nā ʻōpio a hiki i ka hōʻā ʻana i nā ponokala kiʻi. Ua hoʻokumu ʻia e kahi leka uila mua i hoʻouna ʻia e kahi hoa hana i kākau e pili ana i kahi ʻōpio i kāna mau makahiki 20 i haʻi koke aku iā ia "ʻo ka porn laina ka maʻi o kaʻu hanauna kāne ʻōpio."
Ua wehewehe ʻo ia i kāna mea hōʻalo me ka porn pūnaewele a me ka hoʻokaʻawale aʻe a me ka mehameha āna i ʻike ai a me ka hopena i loaʻa i kāna "mea i manaʻo ai i nā pilina."
Kanikau nā manaʻo loea i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻohe noiʻi maikaʻi loa i kēia hanana ulu e emi ana ke kani a hoʻāʻo paha i ka ʻōlelo aʻo e pili ana pehea e ʻōlelo aʻo ai i nā mākua a i ʻole nā mea maʻi e pili ana i kēia a me nā pilikia ʻē aʻe e kū mai ka "ulu ʻana ma ka pūnaewele. Pehea mākou e nīnau ai i nā nīnau i ke ala kūpono i mea e loaʻa ai i nā pane? He aha ke ʻano o ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa? Pehea mākou e ana ai i kēlā? He aha ka mea e hiki ai iā mākou ke hana inā wehe mākou iā ia?
Aia kekahi mau pane mai ka honua o ka noiʻi e pili ana i ka hōʻino pāʻani ke nānā ʻia nei no ka Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (ka baibala o ka ʻike psychiatric). ʻO kekahi paha o nā hōʻailona hōʻailona:
- Ke kūkākūkā me ka pāʻani pūnaewele / porn
- Lawe i nā hōʻailona ke laweʻia ka pūnaewele
- Ka hoʻomohala o ka hoʻomana. ʻO kēia keʻano o ka hoʻonuiʻana i ka manawa nui o ka pāʻani / porn e loaʻa ai ka hopena like a me ka hauʻoli
- ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻomalu i nā kūlana pāʻani / porn
- Hoʻomauʻia ka hoʻohana me kaʻike o ka hopena maikaʻi
- Loaʻa i ka pili mua i nā makemake, nā hoʻokipa, nā'ahamele
- Ka hoʻohanaʻana i nā pāʻani / nā hāmeʻe e pakele ai i nā loina maikaʻiʻole
- Ke kuhihewa i nāʻohana, nā mea hoʻoponopono a me nā mea'ē aʻe e pili ana i ka manawa o ka pāʻani pāʻani / ma nā porn
- Loaʻaʻole ka hana, ka pilina, ke kūlana hana ma muli o ke pāʻani / pāʻani
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