This site helped me out a lot. I cured my ED got in shape and made substantial progress to my long term goals. I learned that I had the ability to change my life if I channeled my inner will power. Didn’t think in a million years that I could hold out for a year (a person who would fap and watch porn daily) but I did it!
Well after this I’m done.
Hope this thread motivates anybody struggling at first to reboot (like I did).
[Advice to others] Don’t count your relapses that’s NOT PRODUCTIVE.
This strategy worked for me (copied and paste from an earlier post of mine).
The biggest challenge for me is that my life revolves around being on the computer and having access to the internet. It’s like temptation is knocking around the door every second. But the way I handled the whole journey was.
1) Get through the day without relapsing.
2) If I relapse start again and don’t beat yourself over it (very important!) and attempt your previous streak.
3) If I didn’t relapse double your previous streak by 2 and make that you’re new goal.
4) If I relapse start again and don’t beat yourself over it (very important!) and attempt your previous streak.
Well you get the jist.
What happened was 1 day became 2 days became 4 days became a week, two weeks, then a month. I’d say after 45 days the feeling of addiction wears off and then it’s smooth sailing. The biggest secret I found is to not beat yourself over relapsing and accept it as natural and it’s just a measure of your previous set point that you need to surpass on you next try….
I never had a problem with meeting girls. I had a problem with ED with girls. I was fine with taking a year off and not focusing on girls. I think it makes you more attractive because don’t you come across as “needy”. You’re not dependent on getting that girl’s approval and you don’t give a fuck.
The biggest challenge for me was that I have to be around the computer constantly. So the potential is always there.
Listen man I started this in Aug 2014. I reseted around 3-4 times (even around day 30), with each next try improving my record. Don’t worry about failing. When you feel the call don’t beat yourself over it or feel guilty. That’s your brain still being used to what it’s trained to. Just try to trick it by substituting something in replacement of it to make it forget (going for a drive, going out to see a movie exercise works for me, something that doesn’t allow your mind to wonder or allow you to PMO).