First, some backstory. I’m a 17 year old guy, addicted to PMO since 12. I discovered this subreddit last year, and it has changed my life.
This is the first time I’ve reached 89 days ( Ignore my counter), my previous best was 49, but I’ve PMOed so many times in between I’m scared to count. I am writing this post as a thank you for all the help this fantastic subreddit has given to me, and I would like to share my experiences with you guys too.
Apart from all the normal benefits of nofap, there is one thing that stands out. Nofap gives more life to life. And not all of these are positive. I have mostly overcome my social anxiety, but nofap has made me painfully aware of all my other shortcomings as well. I have a condition called hyperhidrosis ( Excessive sweating ) and I am now facing sweating anxiety which is every bit as crippling. I have quarrelled with 2 of my closest friends which would never have happened if I was the passive fapper in the past. But there are also very positive experiences. I now have a fantastic girlfriend for the first time in many years. I’m closer than ever to my brother and some of my friends. Although I would say nofap is a difficult and long journey, I feel it is definitely worth pushing through if only for the experiences you have before you achieve whatever your initial goal for nofap was.
Next, I would like to tell you what has helped me get thus far. The Slight Edge. This book is pure brilliance. I started reading this book exactly 89 days ago, and I have not touched myself since. Basically, this is a book about discipline. But the best thing I have learnt from this book is this : Things that are easy to do are also easy not to do. In the large scale of things, is it easy to skip rope for 15 minutes a day? No. But is it easy NOT to skip rope for 15 minutes a day? No. (This is an example I got from the book) A lot of the things we don’t do or don’t succeed at, it’s because they are EASY. Now I know this sounds too good to be true, but go and read the book. It’s not genius, it’s magic.
Last of all, I’m not arrogant enough to think that I will never fail at nofap again, though I definitely do not want to go back to that depressing lifestyle. I live in Malaysia where girls are very conservative, and we don’t have sex or anything here, so I don’t get any sexual gratification at all even from my girlfriend. But I just want to remind you guys that it CAN be done, and thank you all for everything you have given me, whether through advice or kind words or your stories and experiences that you share here. Thank you, and I hope you guys will be able to live to the best that you can. Stay strong.
LINK – My Story ( 89 Day report )