I first forayed into the Nofap sphere about 4 years ago when I was 16 years old and was drawn to the practice by the so called ‘superpowers’ that I hoped would allow me to get out of my shell and thrive. The initial effects of Nofap were pretty strong and kept me hooked onto continuing the practice well into college. I never really put much thought into it; I simply mustered as much sheer will as I could and abstained from masturbating, reaching for that supposed golden ticket to freedom once I hit 90 days. Unsurprisingly I relapsed constantly for 3 years and never got past a streak of 45 days.
The summer before I turned 20, I was doing an internship in a new city and because of a few personal goals, my resolve to break my PMO addiction was stronger than ever. For the first time, I read into the underlying psychology of porn addiction and PMO and tried different things to break my habit. What ended up working for me was masturbating like clockwork every 7 days but here’s the kicker: You must do it without any mental imagery. Masturbate purely to the physical sensations. Nothing else. This was exactly the change that I needed and within a matter of weeks the grip that porn had on me was slowly fading away.
I felt like I was in a rut for a good portion of the time I was abusing PMO so the main benefit [from quitting] was not having it on my mind all the time and being able to actually find my passions and following them. I used [porn] for roughly from the age of 12 to 19 and first attempted nofap at 16 – so 4 years of heavy use.
In the weeks/months that followed my life changed for the better and I found myself having the energy to step out of my comfort zone and chase the things that I wanted. I met a girl that I was absolutely crazy about and was able to muster up the courage to ask her out and we ended up dating (it wasn’t all magic and fireworks though… we ended up cutting things off after 3 weeks haha) but that’s besides the point. The point was that I was able to do something completely out of my comfort zone and for the first time in my life, I felt as if I legitimately wanted to, not that I was trapped unless I did.
tldr: DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. I masturbated every 7 days WITHOUT mental or external imagery and it worked for me 🙂
LINK – Masturbation is not the enemy – My personal success story