Age 22 – A wonderful foundation for self-improvement

I was introduced to porn at the age of seven. I was living abroad in Europe, and my brother and I would watch porn on TV.

I was so young, but I can’t imagine the damage I was doing to my young mind. I never got off to it, but I still remember those images to this day.

Fast forward to a young Emelcee3 filled with teenage angst and hormones and I rediscovered porn at the age of 12. Like many of you, I was addicted, masturbating at least once on the daily for 10 years. I never realized that porn was a problem for me, until when I was nearing the end of 2014, I experienced ED with a one-night-stand prospect, twice. It was awful, and it absolutely wrecked my confidence. Now I’ve always prided myself in being a people person, but this instance of sexual failure really messed with me. I remember yelling, “GOD DAMN IT PENIS, WHAT THE SHIT.”

Fast forward to February where I discovered Nofap through an askreddit thread about something or other. I came to the conclusion that this is what I needed in my life, but at this stage in nofap I was doing it only for what I determined was PIED. After the initial discovery of “superpowers” (placebo or not), I saw the light, as many of you have, and decided that nofap was for me. I was not able to hit a streak of over 20 days until that fateful month that ended with me making one utterly vile smore with my life essence.

Fast forward once again to today. I achieved my longest streak of 90 days, experiencing wet dreams occasionally and having sexy time with a classy broad over a one-night-stand. Towards the end I was feeling exceptionally horny, and I was starting to question why I was even doing nofap. I remember seeing a post that encouraged a user to fap toreally rediscover why they were doing nofap. I don’t recommend this method to everyone, but as I sit here typing this, I am reminded why I am doing nofap in the first place.

Here’s just a few major points from my 11 months of nofap trials. I don’t want to rehash what others have said, but I do want to stress these points.

  1. Despite the relapse, I am damn proud of my streak. I am more motivated than ever to continue on and hit a streak double of what I have already achieved. Just because your relapse doesn’t mean it’s a complete failure and restart. Be proud of what you’ve achieved. No one is perfect.

  2. If it weren’t for that post on the askreddit thread plugging nofap, I would have never discovered nofap I’m not saying I would not have discovered it at some other time, but my point is that you never know when plugging this amazing community may help someone struggling with depression and porn. Don’t go overboard and come across annoying like an overly zealous preacher, but don’t be ashamed to help others discover nofap.

  3. While my original nofap motives were soloey for my issues with sex, I have discovered that I want to do nofap to be a better person. Shortly after starting nofap, I made it a point to go to the gym 3-5 times a week. If you are struggling with boredom, depression, and/ or anxiety, I cannot stress enough how wonderful physical activities such as lifting, hiking, running, etc. will be for your mental health, as well as your physique. The gym has become therapy for me, and this is coming from someone who has dealt with true depression and anxiety. Nofap is NOT the miracle problem solver for all of your damn issues, but it can be a wonderful foundation to improve yourself.

  4. This is sort of off-topic, but a huge help in me going through life has been reading How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. This book has helped teach me to be more selfless, learn not to criticize people, and see things from other people’s point of view. It is astounding how helpful this has been in my interactions with friends, classmates, coworkers, and family. Go read it.

[More] I’m 22 turning 23 this week, and I experienced a lot of benefits that are frequently mentioned in the nofap community: increased confidence, more mental clarity, like being able to articulate thoughts better, etc. etc. These benefits leveled off after probably 20 days, and by that I mean the initial burst of “superpowers” faded, but I felt normal, which was really great :). However, I really started flourshing after 60 days. I hit a flatline from about 25-50 days, and during this time I experienced mood swings.

From days 60 to 90, I felt really great, and was able to be extremely decisive at work, and handle people in general very well, and I experienced more and more wet dreams. Approaching 90 days I felt urges more and more, and it felt like it had been so long since I PMO’d that I wasn’t sure why I was doing nofap anymore, like I mentioned in the post. However, I am now excited to see what’s beyond the 90 day horizon after I conquer those 90 day ish urges.

LINK – 90 Days Ago I f**ked a Bag of Marshmallows

by emelcee3