Admittedly when I first decided to do the 90 day challenge I was skeptical about what I was reading. I am a male in my mid 20s who has always had an issue with ED and an inability to cum during intercourse. For me I was skeptical as to how such a simple thing as stopping masturbation and porn could provide a miraculous solution to a deeply ingrained psychological issue.
However, I decided to throw caution to the wind and give it a go. At the very least I liked the idea of challenging myself and re-gaining control over my body – as I felt I was being controlled by masturbation to an extent. I was masturbating at least twice a day and would often use it as a stress reliever.
I’m not going to get in to a step by step progress report but I decided to do the first 40 days on hard mode (after watching 40 days and 40 nights I was intrigued haha). As I am currently in a relationship this was very hard, but luckily my girlfriend was very supportive.
Skip to day 40 and I had sex with my girlfriend. When I tell you it was the best sex that I have ever had! I was able to cum multiple times, and it was the most connected I’ve ever felt during sex. I was completely in the moment, nothing else mattered. It was truly beautiful. It was also a huge relief to my partner to be able to see that she could satisfy me.
After that I carried on NoFap except with sex. I’m not sure I can describe seeing rainbows or feeling like Bradd Pitt as some NoFappers describe, but I feel a lot more content and confident as a lover. I reached day 90 and didn’t even notice until a few days after that I had finished because masturbation has taken a lesser importance in my life. Don’t get me wrong, occasionally I still get burning urges, but I now know I can choose whether or not to act on them. All in all I just know this process has been helpful to me and all I can say to anyone out there who is skeptical is to just give it a go, what the hell do you actually have to lose?
So this is my first post to NoFap, and is a brief summary of my 90 day challenge. Hopefully this will inspire some people who are feeling a bit skeptical about the whole thing.