Yesterday I went for coffee with a girl I managed to ask out two weeks ago. When I dropped her off at home, she invited me in and we chatted some more. We lost track of time to the extent that her family even invited me to stay for supper.
The hardest part of it all was actually just getting up the courage to ask her out. Everything else about that day was surprisingly comfortable and straight-forward, even though we were both a bit nervous at the beginning (both being rather introverted). This was my first date in over two years.
I have attempted the NoFap Hard Mode reboot on and off for the last year, with my longest streak being 30 days. Yesterday I hit day 90. Stay strong, friends.
I am 25 years old and started having fantasies to questionable content at the age of 13. My porn use started out as occasional, but it definitely escalated in terms of regularity and kinkiness over time. Over the last year I started coming to this subreddit and I added content filters to my browser, with only limited success in curbing my habit. There was a time when I couldn’t sleep without fapping.
Things really started changing over the last three months when I got counseling and medication to treat my depression. A combination of learning to look differently at myself (and other people), meditation, tension release exercises and a possible side effect of the meds that reduces libido has come together to reduce my urges to near zero. I finally realised on all levels that there are much better ways to relieve stress and that I don’t need porn. I don’t even want it anymore.
I think the biggest benefits so far are confidence and that women I come across started becoming beautiful again. I’m becoming more interested in making eye contact and thinking about the whole person rather than just her body, though I haven’t stopped noticing that.
TL;DR 25 years, used porn for 12. Getting better at connecting with real women.
LINK – First date in years on Day 90