About 5 weeks ago I posted about how my wife is on the verge of leaving because I PMed. Sex was also nonexistent which was causing some grief as well.
I really had to talk her into trying a new method to overcome the Porn/Masturbation. Participating on nofap was my solution. I know it doesn’t look like much in my history but I have a couple of accountability partners that have been helping me along.
Anyway, I made it my 4 weeks without Orgasm and I had to tell everyone that it has made a huge difference in my sex life. Before, most of the time it was like mashing parts together hoping an Orgasm would come. Now, it is… I am sure you can guess, don’t want to trigger anyone. Lets just say it is amazing, and we are able to try new things we haven’t been able to do before because of my issues. My point being that PM ruins sex lives, at least it did mine.
For those of you who haven’t had an intimate partner, I suggest adding sex problems as a reason not to PMO, at minimum not Porn. You might be alright the first couple of times but it will go away. Your partner and you will get frustrated. You might think that the real thing will just be too good to not be awesome, but that is not true. The sad thing is it affects not just you but your partner as well.
TL,DR; No PM fixed my sex life.
INITIAL POST – Wife, Kids, Myself – Why I am here.
PMO has been an issue for me since my early teen years. I can remember the first time I gave into looking at P and I wish I could go back and stop myself. I am now 27 with a wife and children. There has been conflict with my wife since we married and now she has had it with me. We don’t have sex now, because I can’t do it. I am surprised I have kids even. I have also been realizing things in my life that might be explained by me PMOing. Things like not being motivated, having no self control and feeling depressed. I am not expecting a miracle but I think it is worth a shot. I think this will be my last shot at my relationship.
My goal is to do the 90 day challenge. The first month is no PMO and the others no PM. It is also my goal to be open with my wife about it, which is something I haven’t done before because of disappointing her and her leaving me. Does anyone have advice on the best way to have open communication with SO about this?
Also, I am looking for an Accountability Partner if anyone is interested. Should probably be male. I have no other preferences. Thanks.