I’m 29, and I’ve known about NoFap for a few years. But I didn’t have any real negative effects from PMO for years, but around a year or so ago performance anxiety about sex crept in, and for a long while I had ED. It was hell for my wife and I. After speaking to a therapist i realised the issue and worked to resolve it. So far so good!
This is my longest streak ever. Life is great, my relationship with my wife is stronger than it’s ever been. My PIED has all but gone. My anxiety has melted away. This has been the best year of my life. And I can only see things getting better!
EARLIER POST – Things are looking up
I am married and PMO was ruining my marriage. I wasn’t able to keep an erection, I had massive performance anxiety and no confidence in my sexual ability. I went to see a therapist too. And I’ve spoken to my wife about my addictions.
However, over the last few weeks I’ve found myself getting “better”, hornier and having a much higher sex drive. And it feels good. I feel like a man, and I’m having the best sex of my life. I’m not worried about losing my erection, and now when I think about it during sex, a part of me just sort of mocks that negative part with “you’re not affecting me at all”.
I had sex twice today. Twice in one day, which is a big deal for me. When we got married, my wife and I have sex every 3-4 days, out of routine. Then I went through a phase of not being able to, and now I’m at the point that my drive is so high I can have sex whenever. No more having to “prep myself” or worrying whether I can or not.
At the moment, my life is as good as it has ever been. And I just wanted to share that. Thanks for reading!
UPDATE – Over 90 days pornfree
My journey started with a lot of stutters, and constantly falling back into watching porn. However, after the first month or so, it just became more of a lifestyle.
For those seeking advice, there’s a couple of things I’ve done that have helped:
1) Whenever I get a wave or urge to watch porn, I’ll just let it pass. I’ve realised that my control is bigger than my urges. Sometimes I’ll think “let’s watch some porn”, and when that happens I’ll just wait for a few seconds for that urge to go.
2) Since everything is sexualised these days, it’s difficult to avoid it. Even when you’re watching something etc, especially when surfing the web. The thing I’ve found that helps me is “catching myself” surfing something sexual (pics on instagram or snapchat for example). Once I realise what I’m doing, I feel more power to just turn it off.
I don’t put too much pressure on myself. I think it’s natural to want to look at things that excite me, but I want it to be healthy.
The benefits? (I’m doing NoFap too) my relationship with my wife has drastically improved. No more performance anxiety. No more ED (I’m close to 30). A lot more confident in bed. And actually, I’m generally happier.