I am proud to say I have gone 50 days without shooting a load, not even a wet dream. I don’t even feel horny anymore (but I’m not flatlining) and I think I know why…..
I have thrown myself into my music. I am already an OK pianist, but since January I have been pushing myself to improve. The biggest improvements have been over the last 50 days.
I have absolutely no doubt that not cumming has allowed me to focus my energy and brain power in a way that I have never been able to before. My playing is improving by the day, and importantly I am getting huge dopamine rushes as a result. Sometimes whilst playing, I am overcome with tearful joy, and stop playing just to have a little sob of excited happiness.
Aside from the piano, I have a huge desire to socialise much more, so am enjoying nights out etc., and, whereas before I was probably depressed, I now feel overjoyed to be alive.
I read that some of you guys report improvements in female attention – I’m not really interested in that, however, I can report that I have noticed a big change in how I interact with people. I was fairly confident beforehand, but now I feel like I really don’t care what people think of me. I’m now 100% confident in social situations, and find that I don’t care what people think of me. Take me as I am, or p*ss off!
For you guys struggling, you’ve got to find dopamine hits in positive ways. For me it’s the piano, but I already had that, so it was a natural progression for me – dopamine from PMO, rewiring to dopamine from piano. I am seriously passionate about playing music. If you don’t have a great passion in life, GET ONE!!!! It could even be work, if you enjoy your job. Build the framework for success, you have to be busy to succeed.