I’m sharing my success story, in the hopes I help others. A little about my history: got introduced to porn when I was 8 (how many of you remember the Spice Channel?). Got introduced to hardcore porn when I was 11. I hadn’t gone more than 8 days without fapping since I started doing it almost 25 years ago.
25 years later, I’m 35 years old – and can officially say I broke my since-puberty habit of masturbation.
I had been [kinda] trying to stop for 8 years. I got 100% committed to stopping the day Viagara pills stopped working well.
I’m no doctor or anything, but I’ll try to explain the best I can.
After forcing myself to stop masturbating [and fighting through the withdraw], it feels like I’ve retrained my brain. After enough ejaculations with a partner and absolutely nothing else, my brain stopped associating my hand as the go-to tool for sexual release. Now when I’m feeling the urge, my brain thinks of nothing but my partner, who is now my only [self-enforced] means of sexual release.
I think prohibition for most things is stupid, but this is one of those cases where it’s useful. Just tell yourself “no more masturbating”. I tell myself “if you do it, it’ll kill [your ability to be aroused with a partner”.
No matter how sexually crazy I got – I refused to rub one out as a quick fix. I stopped making excuses for myself. I even refuse to use a wet dream day as a “cheat day”
Everything about giving up masturbation completely has been a win. I get random boners again, I can get insta-hard with a partner again like I’m in high-school, dick hangs longer [why this happens… no clue, I’ve read this happens to other people who give up masturbation], my sexual fantasies are all of my partner – who is now my only means of sexual release.
I still watch porn from time to time, but when I watch it it’s different – I don’t feel the need to jerk off when I watch. It doesn’t make my mind wander when I’m with my partner. All it does is make me fantasize about my partner (kinda like what I hear women get out of watching porn or reading those romance novels).
If you haven’t given up masturbation yet, do it. If you’re in the middle of quitting – keep up the good work. You will definitely be stronger in the sex department as a result of your efforts.