I am currently in my longest streak of freedom so far, around 4 months. I stopped doing it because I felt that it wasn’t giving me anything and was taking from me too much. Looking back, I realize how much masturbation has changed my behavior and influenced my choices.
I was practically a slave to my habit. And I always felt guilty after doing it. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think that masturbation is something inherently bad or evil. No, it’s just an option. An option that many men overuse.
I probably wouldn’t be able to abstain in my teenage years, but after turning 18 and still having no girlfriend I should’ve realized what’s going on. I probably shouldn’t be so judgmental on myself. Nobody who is regularly masturbating realizes how much it controls the way you think.
For people who are social and find it easy to make connections, masturbation may be nothing. For someone like me, an introvert and very lonely and private person, it became my downfall. It made me feel nervous around women, especially women I like. It made me have a false sense of satisfaction. It made me settle for nothing, basically. Why go through loops and hoops to chase a woman, if you can just go home and fap away?
It made my mind a slimy mess of dirty thoughts and unrealistic expectations. To a large extent (although not the major reason) it made it difficult to express my love and affection for the only woman who ever truly cared about me. And I lost her.
It took me years to realize that I don’t need to masturbate, actually. My body can do without it just fine. And the way I feel now is way way better than before. The confidence you gain is real. It’s more of a “I don’t care much about sex, so I’m free to chat for whatever I want with you” feel.
Your body supplies you with hormones that make you want female company instead of lowering them after orgasm. Women tend to like you more.
You have more energy for physical activities. You are less susceptible to depressive episodes.
But the one thing that I like most about no fapping and which was a surprise for me – I can get an erection(at least a semi) now when a pretty woman smiles at me. This never ever happened before. I didn’t even know it is possible. And the best thing is, I don’t feel embarrassed about it at all. I like it, because it’s the way nature intended it to be.
In the end, I want to give you some advice on how to stay on course. If you feel like you absolutely have to masturbate and can’t think of nothing else, then you probably are doing it wrong. First you have to stop fapping in your mind, and then the body will just follow. Don’t stop you hand, stop your mind.\
I am 35.
LINK – A few words of encouragement