Not bad, eh? After breaking this streak, I struggled to reach a similar streak, always breaking after a week or so, never getting past 3-4 weeks. I’m not sure what caused me to start such a successful streak this time, but I can tell you guys how I sustained it.
1) emergency.nofap.com is a great resource. I use it almost daily, although that’s because it’s great for motivation to work and not just motivation to not fap. I highly recommend it regardless.
2) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4yx4ouxGbQ This video helped me a lot. From there, you can find a bunch of other great stuff to help you reboot.
3) Block adult websites on your computer and phone. You can have someone else know the password, but this can be cumbersome as random websites can get blocked. I know the password on my blockers, but the idea is that the speed bump of having to put in the password gives you enough time to think about what you’re doing and stop. The best part is that since I’ve started doing this, it hasn’t even been an issue.
4) If you’re feeling a strong temptation that you don’t think you can overcome, stop whatever you’re doing, get up, and go do something somewhere else. It doesn’t matter what it is (as long as you’re not fapping), just do something else. I think talking to someone would a great thing to do, but I’ve never tried it.
5) Most importantly, just don’t do it. That’s it. Don’t do it.
Something else that I think would be a good idea is to get a spiral/piece of paper and write “It’s not worth it” every time you relapse. Hopefully you’ll never need this, but you could look at it when you feel a temptation. In theory, it would be more powerful the more you relapse, lessening the number of times you’d relapse in the future.
A couple things I have noticed about my life have improved since abstaining:
1) The biggest one is that I’m a more sensitive person now, and I love that. Sad things make me sadder than they did before. I’m shocked hearing some of porn the guys at lunch talk about since I’m not watching it anymore. Being shocked isn’t the goal; my point is that my brain is recovering from the desensitization that watching porn gets you.
2) I really take for granted the extra time I now have from not fapping, but I’m sure I would get a lot less done if I still did it.
3) I have nothing to hide now. Fapping was really the only part of my life I was ashamed of, and it’s gone now. It feels great.
4) I don’t feel a desire to make disgusting sexual comments around girls anymore. I feel cleaner.
For those of you wondering, I didn’t have too much trouble with girls before starting noFap, so I can’t talk about how it’s made me so much more confident around them. I still get nervous occasionally, but overall, I did pretty well before and do pretty well now. I’m sure there have been subtle changes that have improved my “game” though. I’ve asked out two girls this past year, and I’m proud to say that both times I asked the girl straight-up, to her face. While I may not have been successful the first time, it’s the effort that counts .
I’m sure all of you are aware of this, but not fapping doesn’t give you superpowers. There are numerous posts on this forum, as well as the reddit thread to contradict this, but I’m serious. Not fapping simply allows us to make the most of what we already have, while fapping just diminishes our abilities. You could still view this as superpowers if you want, but I think of it as a realization of potential.
I hope this post has inspired you, because reading success stories always helped improve my resolve (add “Reading success stories” to the list up there). I wish the best of luck to all of you.
TL;DR: Not fapping unlocks your true potential; you can do it! (cue excessively happy music and dance team)
BY – BelieveInSteven