I started NoFap over the summer but was very curious to see how things would go once the academic year started. I’m a professor and my students include very attractive young ladies.
I’ve always had a good relationship with my students, I’m very popular and I’ve never done anything inappropriate. My thought life, however, was another matter.
Just like a lot of you, when addicted to PMO I’d mentally undress and defile almost every woman I met. The longer I’ve gone w/o PMO, the more I’m able to respectfully interact with women as fellow humans and not as objects. Again though, that’s easy to say in the summer when I’m interacting with other middle-aged people.
Now that the semester has started, I’m thrilled that this is also true when interacting with my students. Finally, my inner attitude matches the outer self that I show them. Don’t get me wrong, I still see their physical beauty but I’m able to appreciate it for what it is.
This whole thing has been great for my marriage, my physical self and my spiritual self but I’ll save those details for my 90-day report.
LINK – Professor Perv is dead
This is my longest streak in about 9 years. I don’t know if I’m even capable of expressing everything that freedom from PMO has meant but if I were to sum up, I feel like my mind and soul have healed.
The mind part goes right along with the excellent stuff on the yourbrainonporn site. As for the soul, one of my favorite authors, Dallas Willard, said that the soul is what aligns our body, mind, and will. A misaligned body, mind and will is exactly what I felt when I struggled with porn use for all of these decades. Now that my mind, body and will are in tune, or at least more in tune, I’m more productive, patient, creative and alert. It has made me a better husband, parent and friend.
I’m a university professor and I’m really looking forward to seeing what effect this has on how I interact with my female students. I’ve always had a good relationship with my students but having my brain warped by porn has often made me view them as objects and I had to work to make sure I didn’t dwell on them like that. I think it will be a subtle overt change but I’m excited about truly treating them with respect and care.
Anyway, thanks for reading and my best to everyone on their recovery journey. It’s so worth it.
LINK – 60 days!!!!!