What was your lifestyle before pornfree?
I was never a hardcore addict like some of the guys I see on here and nofap who consume porn for multiple hours per day. But I would indulge in short sessions regularly and I relied on PMO to relieve tension during stressful periods of my life.
Was quitting easy?
No. I often had strong urges to use. Day 45 was the closest I came to relapse. I had my phone in one hand and my dick in the other and I was 1 click away from doing something I would have deeply regretted.
How has the process changed you?
I’m surprised that a certain kink which I’d loyally consumed for 5+ years and believed was part of my identity (as opposed to porn-induced) has drastically faded and I can’t remember the last time I thought about it.
Living without any shame related to porn is a beautiful thing. Also, I have no fear of friends and family finding evidence of porn use on my devices and that is fantastic.
Do you have any advice for newbies?
For a long time I believed that I could achieve 90 days and then return to porn, having proved to myself that I wasn’t addicted. Around day 60 I read a post on this subreddit which revealed that this mindset was a common mistake – you should never go back. That’s a hard pill to swallow, but the sooner you come to terms with it, the better.
My next target is 6 months clean. I am also taking steps to reduce my overall screen time. These include Newsfeed Blocker for Facebook, Youtube Suggestion Blocker, blacklisting reddit.com, deleting Snapchat, an android app which restricts phone usage for 21 hours per day, and trying to read more books.
Good luck on your own journey and I’m happy to answer any other questions.
LINK – I’ve hit 90 days for the first time. Here’s a quick report.