As a 21 year old who’s been jerking off to porn since the age of 13. Take it from me, that general day to day life, becomes much less of a hassle, when you really take a step back and re-evaluate how you want to do things.
At the end of January, a two year relationship ended which absolutely destroyed me. Pushed me to near suicide as well as self-harming. Since I started NoFap on the 21st of January, I’ve not looked back. I’ve gone to counselling, I’ve felt much more optimistic and more relaxed about it. I feel stronger and ultimately more confident in myself and around other girls, who in turn, are giving me much more attention (and I’m even attracting more attractive girls to me that I never thought I’d get so, there’s a bonus lol). As a guy who is very much self-conscious and very shy, for me, this was a huge step. Motivation for me is at an all time high and I feel my quality of life has improved.
Coming from a (rather) big town in Ireland, I still see my ex from time to time and while it still upsets me that we broke it off, I’m in a much better mindset to be able to give a ‘hello’ and be civil and nice as being nasty just gets you nowhere in this situation, instead of resorting to the sad reality of fapping and having a short term release to try and cure the sadness inside me.
As myself and my friends prepare to hopefully move to Canada in the next two years to start a new life for us (as we genuinely feel there’s nothing for us here and we would love to have a sense of adventure), I look to the future with hope and optimism, not sadness and regret.
As a side note, to those who started or who feel relapse, take it one day at a time. Breathe and just live life to the fullest. I always remembered one quote from Disney’s Ratatouille, that always stuck with me and while is very much relevant to me, hopefully it may inspire others too.
“If you focus on what you left behind, you will never be able to see what lies ahead.”
Stay strong my fellow brothers as I continue on my journey of self discovery. The road is long and I have much further to go, but I look forward to it, with a smile on my face.