Age 23 – I feel like a man. I’m much more comfortable and relaxed around guys and girls.

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I honestly didn’t think I was going to make it this far. I’m 23 and masturbation has been a habit of mine since the age of 12. I don’t think I’ve gone longer than a month free of PMO for 11 years, and now I’ve made 120 days.

On this post I’ll write what I noticed during my 120 days and I’ll also note down things that have helped me thus far. My goal is to never masturbate and never to watch porn again.

Wet Dreams: I have never had wet dreams like I have doing this challenge. I hate them so much, for a period I was getting about one a week and it was really demoralising. Over time it occurred less and less, I haven’t had one in this new year. If you’re getting these suckers, they will go away, just keep at it.

More social with girls: I think before NoFap I felt filthy and guilty for masturbating and looking at P, and that had an effect on how I related to women. What I’ve noticed is that I’m much more comfortable and relaxed around guys and girls.

Positive mindset: I feel like a man. I noticed that I have a problem, and although it was tough, I’m fighting it. Through my fight I’ve noticed that I’m much more inclined to see the positive in situations rather than the negative. This has made my day-to-day life more enjoyable. Also I’m just really happy that I feel free from the suffocating grips of PMO.

Daily Journal: I did this until day 100 almost every single day. Before bed, I would write something down on my NoFap journal, and about half the time I would also throw in three things I’m grateful for. I don’t think I would have made it as far as I did without journaling and other NoFappers encouraging comments.

Bouncing Eyes: This seems simple, but is another crucial tool. You need to reduce your exposure to provocative stimuli, so if a pretty girl walks by, or a model pops up in a movie, bounce those eyes straight away! This will take practise. Journal about your progress. This is also a good practise for respecting women.

Parental Controls: I’ve put parental controls on my internet searches, so if I wanted to look at P i would have to physically type in a long password. It’s just that extra barrier to stop me from making a slip up.

Delete Instagram: Too many insta-babes. This is where I’ve found I’ve failed every time before this attempt. Those damn attractive insta-babes. Cut them out of your life. Girls you look like that don’t exist, and if they really do look like that in real life, I don’t want to have any part in it. If I dated those girls I would be insecure to the day that I die.

I just feel good now. Like a weight has been taken off my shoulders. I don’t have this gross habit anymore, I’m free from that shame. I don’t feel like a hypocrite anymore, I want to do my best to respect women, but I think it’s impossible to do that when you’re sexualising them in your head and on a screen.

Also I feel great knowing that that filth is no longer poisoning my brain.

If you’ve read this and you need tips, or encouragement, I am very willing to chat.

Peace brothers.

LINK – 120 Days

by Jharpeskie