I’m 24 years old and I want to share my very personal experience on nofap.
On 1st January this year I was maybe not depressed, but I had very serious mental problems, particulary with my private life. It’s strange, because I have good job, well grades on my studies and have not any financial troubles. It’s just about bad motivation and loneliness when it comes to love life. Many people say that a man like me should have no problems with women attraction – I think, as my friends, that i am not ugly. Moreover, I am well-kept, tall, well-build, with healthy skin, body, regular trainings, etc. For me it was paradox that boys, my peers, without any special feautures can be with incredibly beautiful girls while I had problems with the simplests behaviors like normal talking during events or chating on FB.
On this day (the beginning of new year) I accidentally discovered phrase “nofap”. I am not sure, but I think it was on scrolling some FB group. I started reading and listening about it and after week I made a decision to try challenge. First 2-3 weeks were terrible, any sexual content on TV or social media distracted me much more than before. But the longer I endured, the more resistant I got. I started to see many changes in my mind – I stopped sexualize every women and continually thinking about PMO. After 3 months, in march, we got lockdown and any social life became limited. It was perfect moment to intensify my trainings. I bought more accessories and made some “home gym”. I was training 4-5 hours a day from march to second half of april and as the result my condition now is even better. To be clear – still any porn since beginning of year.
From may to september I still was not watching any porn and everyday I felt some “good energy” in my mentality. Social skills increased, anxiety was definitely overcomed. What’s better, I also had some new body changes. In sequence – healthier and brightened skin on face; strong muscles as the result of trainings; thicker, fuller and harder beard; hair on my head became better and maybe even it stopped going bald in some areas… and may others positive results.
About one week ago I had meeting with my new friends on studies. About 15 people – 11 girls and 4 boys, including me. I came into room in the club, sat down and said hello to each of them. And after happened some unheard in my life. About 10 minutes later every girls started to sit next to me at the same time. It was even funny view – me at the centre on some chair and 11 girls around me carefully listening everything i was talking about; looking at me eyes; playing with their hairs; saying compliments to me (oh, you are so interesting, so smart, etc). At that moment I was feeling like a hero, very famous person who now meets with his fans, even though I did not know any of them. What’s incredibly fun, other boys (3) sat in the end of room and without any women attention scrolling their phones, while girls were interested only in me. Clear contrast – me as the “alpha male” and other boys as the “beta males”. Now I do not have a problem with future dating – now I have a problem, which girl I should choose I remember their eyesight, their body langauge, gestures and I am sure that it was not random accident – this women attraction was 100% real and during this evening I still was feeling some fire in my blood. I think girls sensed it subconciously. I do not know, how does it works, but… it works. Just like that.
Thanks for reading and, seriously, try this. Porn is shit, virtual sex is shit, masturbation is shit, being beta male is shit. I got out of it and – I hope – fixed my life. I made my choice. What is yours?