I was a part of the new year “NO FAPPING IN 2019” party, but relapsed during the first week. But my motivation was super high and I knew I needed to do this for myself. I am 26 years old and have been addicted since I was 15 or 16 years old. Fapping has taken a toll on prior relationships, caused me to have low energy levels, and worst of all, was a part of my depression.
The first 2 weeks were the worst for me and i’m assuming it is also the hardest for most others as well. You NEED to distract yourself. What worked for me personally was NOT laying down in bed until I was exhausted. The second I laid down, I was too tired to fap and just went right to sleep RIGHT AWAY. No social media browsing or anything. I put on chill music on my phone and passed out. When I woke up in the morning, I forced myself to get out of bed right away. The more time you spend in bed, the higher the chances are that you relapse. TRY IT.
After the first 14 days, I noticed the urges were slightly less and less as the days went by. I had also started to date someone and I knew if I relapsed, the chances of me ruining the new relationship was extremely high. Day by day, the thought of fapping disgusted me. I reminisced of how I feel after I fap, and how disgusting I felt for that slight sense of relief. IT. IS. NOT. WORTH. IT.
I felt crazy better by day 50, I didn’t even think about relapsing anymore.
The two main changes that I have noticed are
As other often mention, my energy levels are up. But this is a SIGNIFICANT boost. I work in sales and my work has vastly improved over the past 3 months. I used to be depressed at work, but now I am happy, energetic, and motivated to succeed. I have never felt this good before.
I can sleep better. Before NoFap, I would constantly wake up in the middle of the night to fap. I would barely get 6 hours of sleep and always wake up very tired. Now, I sleep for 7-8 hours every night and wake up feeling amazing.
Another point I’d like to make, and this may interest a few of you is that I am not 100% PMO. I am in a relationship now, that has gotten serious so we are intimate with one another. In that aspect, I am completely different. I feel a connection. My mind is not wandering to other thoughts, like it did in the past. I am able to be intimate in the way it is intended, and it is has never been that way for me because of fapping.
The last thing I want to say is that this was NOT easy for me. Along with quitting fapping, I also made other positive changes in my life, and this may relate with you. Think to yourself if you have any other bad habits as well as fapping. Eating only junk food? Quit. Playing way too much video games? Limit yourself. If I was able to do this, so can YOU!
Thank you to anyone who read this far. My DMs are open if anyone ever needs motivation. STAY STRONG!