I joined this forum to share this very experience. I was on reddit earlier and I am on Day 56 and the journey here has been full of ups and downs. The downs include frequenting incel forums and capping 13 times a day(yes that is indeed possible).
The ups include getting a girlfriend when pre NoFap I had hardly ever talked to a girl before (Age 25). No sex yet but that will certainly follow I am sure. The confidence that Nofap gave to be more social was amazing. It essentially showed who I really was – someone who I could admire and look up to in my fap days but couldn’t imagine being.
To those who are doing this to get a girl – you will understand that is not even the tip of the iceberg – the restructuring of your entire mentality (assuming your addiction was strong) is where its at – nothing is the same. Trust me on this – nofap is fighting a battle with big players – industries that won’t survive if you succeed – pharmaceutical and porn. I will give a brief timeline and list the benefits subsequently:
First 5 days: Tough but an intense event (my best friend got his first girlfriend, not a no fapper btw ) made me completely jealous initially but gave me the momentum needed to stop with the 10 year habit which led to my ruin in every way – professionally personally everything. The momentum carried me through this period.
Day 5-15: Hardest by far. Had to make use of nofap forums for motivation and remind myself of what I would lose if I fapped. But some benefits shone through like a beacon to help my nofap self beat the fapper zombie in the argument.
Day 16-30: Relatively dull/event less. No real threat but no new superpower. Signs of stagnation. By this time I started talking to girls though – an ability I acquired early on but had a chance to practice in this duration.
Day 31-45: Got signals of girls being fond of me – two specifically, one of which I liked back. Started talking for longer periods with confidence (wouldn’t have happened in fap period). Was more or less sure of there being a move from either of us at some time.
Day 46-55 : Successfully proposed and went out. Made out in a secluded area after. Nothing else but the big confidence block of never being able to get a girl is certainly gone. Doubts as to my attractiveness I realized were largely artificial – there are so many indicators and everyone can hone on some strength. But certain ideologies prevent us from believing in that and put us in a rut. I am glad I had NoFap to pull me out. I will take the streak till sex/90 days whichever is earlier.
List of benefits more or less in order of appearance:
1. Burst of energy
2. Voice gets deeper
3. Changes in appreciation of music/art in general
4. Social anxiety reduced
5. Feel healthier
6. Brain fog gone- as if I became intelligent suddenly
7. Productivity increased.
8. Concentration increased.
9. Interacted with girls without hesitation (Just knew what to say)
10. More intuitive than over think
There are many more which I will describe when I remember. These were the most prominent ones.
PS: How many changes you notice depends on how bad your addiction was. For me it was absolutely terrible averaging about 3/day for some 8 years then probably 2/day for two more. I had tried nofap earlier and failed but the intense event I mentioned was really a catapult – just fins yours.