I originally wanted to make 2018 fap-free, but I messed up in February and was pretty down about. I didn’t want the next time to be like all my other failed attempts, so I told myself that no matter what, I will make it to 90 days.
It was hard, but not as hard as I thought it would be. It only requires effort on the days you get strong urges and, like me, most of you won’t have strong urges every day. Some days I had to tell myself, “Just one more day” to make it through. What really helped me was keeping myself busier than usual for the last 3 months. I worked more, worked out more, read more books and practiced my guitar regularly. It got to the point where I would forget that I was doing NoFap and that’s a good thing.
Some of the benefits I’ve noticed are that it is easier for me to make and maintain eye contact and I speak more confidently. Even when I stumble on my words, I brush it off and still have confidence in my voice. I used to fap at night before bed and would sleep terribly on the nights I fapped. Now I am getting some of the best sleep I’ve had in years. Lastly, my motivation is through the roof. It is so much easier for me to knock out my to-do list and work toward my goals.
One book that really helped me was The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. It talks about the mechanics of habits and how they affect us. After reading this book, I learned to recognize the cues that trigger me and change the environment I am usually in when I relapse. I highly recommend it.
TL;DR Stay busy, take it one day at a time and read The Power of Habit.