Tip 2 from a Long Term Fapstronaut: Toplines
So Tip 1 was define your Bottom Lines (things you will no longer do) and Slippery Slope Behaviors (things you do that lead to you violating your Bottom Lines.)
A good start but I can’t live a life of not doing something nor can I replace something as fun and exciting as fapping and porn with nothing. That is where Toplines come in. I have two kinds of Toplines.
The first is like an emergency protocol. When the idea of porn/fapping has me in its Will-O-Wisp spell I have a number of simple things I do instead. These are mechanical things I work out in advance that require no thinking, make me feel good about me and also make me feel empowered. So I make my bed, brush my teeth, do the dishes, go for a walk, vacuum, 30 push-ups, play guitar, etc. I work these out when I am not triggered because approaching the event horizon of porn/fapping is not a good place for me to improvise or think. I become dazed, obsessed and everything seems like a bad idea except violating my bottom-line. I need simple things to do to snap me out of it. I don’t know why this works but it does and it works well.
I encourage you to experiment and see what works for you. Don’t take my word for it. Try it and learn what works for you. Make a list, keep it in your wallet or on your refrigerator. As soon as the temptation starts and the pulse starts pounding in anticipation get to work on the list and the spell will be broken. That is my experience at least.
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