64 days - no more depression, first girlfriend, life has changed
Alright nofap, here we go. I am 64 days in, and my life has changed. I have gotten over a girl who would never date me, dropped my feelings of depression (I think it might have been depression but since I have never been officially depressed I don't quite know...), gained a girlfriend (who is amazing), had my first kiss (and makeout sorta), and just generally changed my life for the better. I would just like to say thank you, and to all the others struggling out there, add some tips.
- /r/coldshowers. If you feel the urge, take one. If not, take them anyway. Watch the Ted Talk on this for some more amazing benefits.
- Ask yourself why you should stoop to the level of an animal, and satisfy an urge that goes away, and when looked at on a deeper leve, you have no reason to do.
- It is never worth giving up.
- Have fun, and even when you aren't having any, remember that fapping won't make it any better.
90 DAY UPDATE - 90 DAYS GUYS! WE DID IT! :D
Alrighty, here I go. I am a few days late, because I was on holiday when the big day struck, and didn't have access to reddit, but here I am now.
Firstly, I would like to say that it hasn't always been easy, but I recon it was worth it.
I would also like to say that I am still very skeptical of the entire process, as I feel like people would attribute the good in their lives to this, while omitting the bad things, but I am not denying that I think my life has changed for the better since I started noFap.
Firstly, I have half and hour to an hour and a half (that sounds nice when said aloud) more time on my hands, often to get work done that I feel is not wasted.
Secondly, I am a happier, less depressed person, and I feel like my feelings of self doubt, anger towards myself, and just general upsetness are gone.
Thirdly, I very much enjoy telling people that I don't fap, and watching as their faces turn to shock.
Fourth(ly?), I feel like I have gained a level of self control over myself, that I would very much like to try and apply to other aspects of my life (procrastination is a large problem with me [I should be working right now])
Finally, and probably most importantly, I asked a girls out, and she said yes :) I also had my first kiss, which was great, which I posted about in another thread, also on noFap here for anybody who wants to read it.
Im sure there are other things to say, but I cant think of any more right now so...
EDIT: Just wanted to add that I was never really addicted to porn or masturbating, but I found this sub during a transition period in my life, and I wanted to make the biggest change for the better that I could.
1 YEAR UPDATE - One year done. The answer is always no.
Will I break my streak tonight? No.
Do I need to jack off? No.
Will anything break my self control? No.
NoFap has helped me see this. Not just that I should answer no to everything, but that I can reduce my problems down to simple yes or no questions, and have a set answer.
Will I go and talk to that girl over there? The answer is yes. It isn't maybe, or if I can work up the courage. It is yes. And then I do it.
Am I going to start my work right now instead of procrastinating? Yes. A solid, true, yes.
Whenever you come close to a relapse, take a moment. Don't ask yourself, is it worth it? Don't ask why not. Ask yourself, am I going to jack off tonight? Will I break my streak? Will I have to reset my counter?
And the answer is always no.