Age 21 - 557 days Porn Free

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VietnamI made this post to help motivate those who are trying to part take in NoFap. I also want to give people a few pointers for what to expect when you have cured yourself of pornography addiction.

I started NoFap on January 21st 2013. Today is August 1st 2014, so that means I'm 557 days Porn Free now.

Some Background Story about me: I'm from Vietnam. For those who don't know, it's the small country in South East Asia that fought a war with the US before Iraq, Afghanistan and all that. This fact is kind of important because there are some cultural difference that you should know if you're not from Asia, but more on that later.

I started using pornography when I was in 8th grade. I did it because everyone else was doing it. But then I started using it too much, and that's when the problem start. Pornography made me asocial and I started walling myself against the outside world. This didn't affect me that much in Secondary school because I still have my old friends from the sixth grade.

The problem arose when I transitioned from Secondary School to High School. I didn't make any friend in high school. Because I was week and vulnerable, I got bullied by other classmates. I walled myself and fell even further into porn addiction. It was hell.

There is one bright spot in my high school year though. I got involved more and more into different online English communities. So I improved my English at the expense of my Vietnamese social skill.

I found out about Porn Addiction at the end of the second semester of my freshman year. Suddenly, everything made sense. I've been porn-free ever since. I did accidentally slip a few times here and there, but none turn into a full on porn binge.

Overall, NoFap has certainly improved my life, but not in the way I thought it out to be. What do I mean by that? Well, Here are just a few misconception I had when I first started my NoFap Challenge:

  • Social Life

NoFap will definitely increase your Confidence. You'll become bolder and are more willing to strike up conversation with strangers. However, NoFap will NOT Fix Your Social Skill if you're socially awkward, You'll have to build that up from scratch.

This is exactly what happened to me. Because I don't have any common sense (high school leftover bullshit), I always come up as an obnoxious jerk and make people angry. This is even more of a problem because I live in Vietnam, where we have a complex code of mannerism. When people here get mad, they'll go all passive aggressive on you; hold it inside them, fake a smile and avoid or implode on you. It's almost impossible to improve your social skill that way.

As a result, I don't really have any friend in University. I do regularly go to social events and meet some expatriate friends but they are always busy so I rarely get to see them. NoFap will not fix up your social life. It will only give you the confidence to move forward, and you'll have to build up from scratch your social skill to make friends with people, or just generally not make them hate you.

  • Mood

NoFap will definitely improve your mood, help you control your emotion better. Before NoFap, I used to mood-swing like a teenage girl on her first period, going crazy at people (funny what social isolation can do to you). Now, I feel calm most of the time, there's hardly anything that can get me angry or sad.

I generally feel happy, my mood hovering just above the content line. This in itself, in my opinion, is worth doing NoFap. You'll begin to feel appreciative of little things in life and life is much more easy going.

  • Women, Sex and Libido

I know a lot of us started NoFap for this reason; well, at least I do. NoFap will Not make girl attracted to you, Period. I haven't seen any girl interested in me since I started NoFap. Maybe Asian bitches are just cold that way.

And the strange thing is: The more I get into NoFap, the less I care about it. My libido is drop to nearly zero. NoFap makes me feel really Asexual. I'm a 21-year-old virgin and I don't really care about it.

  • What I don't like about NoFap / Gross shit about NoFap

Once or Twice a month, your penis will discharge excess jizz you didn't use, usually in the middle of the night. Yes, it's really fucking gross. You don't even feel anything, no wet dream, no anything. Just your dick getting rid of excess semen and waking you up in the middle of the night.

  • Do I think it's worth it to complete the NoFap Challenge?

Abso-fucking-lutely yes! I've never felt this sane in my life. Given that I still need to improve a lot, I still have to thank NoFap for making it possible for me to become who I am today. I recommend everyone to try it out for 30 days and see it for yourself.

That's all, Thanks for reading. I appreciate any question / feedback for improvement. Just post them below.

And remember, no matter how knees-deeped in shit you're right now, there are people out there who had it worse than you. And I'm a living proof to prove it. Stay strong my fapstronaut brothers and complete the challenge.

LINK - 21 Year Old and 557 Days Porn-Free - What You Should Know About Curing Your Pornography Addiction...

by feelinglazy