Age 23 - ED: lost my V-card

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The title is a little misleading, but here's the story. I've always been kind of beta when it comes to girls (and conflict with other guys), but nonetheless I've had three women (none very attractive) offer to have sex with me before two days ago. I couldn't get it up, and this frustration is what led me to Nofap. Perhaps I just wasn't attracted, perhaps I had too much anxiety, or, more likely, I had PIED.

So, for five months or so last year (after one failed three-month attempt) I gave monk-mode a pretty solid effort. I had I worked out, focused more, and lost almost all desire to PMO. But then, when I did finally meet a cute girl and make out with her, I jizzed my pants after like 5 minutes. It happened again with a different girl I met on Tinder. While I had the desire to talk to and meet up with girls, Nofap appeared to give me a different challenge.

Around this time is when I found the girl who took my v-card. I am certain that my pre-Nofap self would have had much less confidence in asking her out and getting her to "do things" with me. But nonetheless, I decided to fap 2-3 times a week to avoid more embarrassments. I truly don't know if it was necessary because of the plenty of fooling around we did before the spontaneous sex two days ago. I would like to say that it wasn't, because in spirit I am a nofapper, even though my streak is long broken.

I really hate how I feel after fapping, and I wish I hadn't started again. I'm tentatively starting nofap again today, but I think I'm going to hook up with her a few more times so sex can feel like a normal thing before I really commit. Luckily, my "no-porn" streak remains unbroken.

Nofap definitely got me noticed more and led me to have the ability to get women (and form meaningful relationships if I so choose), but in my case it seemed to have caused over-excitement. Nonetheless, it played a huge role in the loss of my v-card. In reflection it was probably not with the right person, but I need the practice so that I don't appear impotent to someone I might actually want to have a long-term relationship with.

LINK - Just lost Virginity at 23 after a 5-month streak

by imperspective


 

INITIAL POST - Nofap for ED/Premature Ejaculation

I am a 22 y/o male who has always had problems talking to girls, and when I did get the opportunity (all four times) I had problems getting it up. (However these girls weren't that attractive. I didn't need any confidence at all to get where I got with them.) I would PMO once every other day and it would always be a very quick ordeal. Either way, I was worried that even if I could get an errection for a girl IRL I would last like 2 seconds. No doubt this didn't help in getting it up in the first place.

Then I did nofap, and I did experience many of the expected pyschological benefits, placebo or not. I relapsed once at day 45, and that was 67 days ago. Thanks to nofap, I believe, I'm to the point where I'm ready to start asking girls out a lot more than before, and I would If I weren't so busy preparing for an standardized test (the LSAT) in two months. (However I did have a halfway decent date with a girl a two weeks ago, we kissed but nothing came of it.) After the test though, its game on for sure. By then my day counter will be something to really be proud of too.

However, while I'm pretty confident that I'll be able to get it up when the time comes, I don't have any idea how I'll be able to perform. I'm worried that after not orgasming I'll just be on edge the whole time. Sometimes I feel like that just going about my day. What do you all have to say about this? (Thanks for reading btw.)