Ma hope o 30 mau makahiki o ka PMO - mālama wau i kahi kūkulu i ka wā o ka moekolohe ʻana no ka manawa mua i koʻu ola

He helu ʻē ka 82 mau lā e kau ai, akā ua pā wau i kahi milika nui i kēia lā. Kope wikiwiki. Ua haʻalele wau a ua male wau i kaʻu ipo wahine mua (a me ka hoa kolohe mua). Ua hala he mau makahiki he XNUMX a ua hilahila wau e ʻae i ka PMO kumu iaʻu i ka loaʻa ʻole o ke ola moekolohe.

ʻAʻole wale no ka PMO ka hemo ʻana akā hiki iaʻu ke haʻi iā ʻoe he pilina maikaʻi ʻole ka pilina me ke ola moekolohe ʻole, manawa.

Ma hope o ka wehe ʻana o ka male male ua hele wau i loko o nā loli he nui, me ka lilo ʻana o kahi LOT o ke kaupaona ʻana, ka hoʻololi ʻana i kaʻu hana, ke kaʻa, ke ʻano, nā mea āpau. Akā ʻaʻole au i loli i ka PMO, ʻoiai ua haʻi pololei mai kahi kākāʻōlelo male ua pili wau i ka porn (ʻaʻole wau i ʻike i ke kumu e haʻalele ai - ʻaʻohe aʻu GF a ʻoluʻolu loa ia).

ʻO ka wikiwiki i hoʻokahi makahiki ma hope o ka hemo a hālāwai wau me kahi kaikamahine aloha maikaʻi a hiki iā ʻoe ke koho i ka moʻolelo - ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hāpai aʻe. A e like me ka wā o kaʻu male ʻana ua hoʻomaka wau e noʻonoʻo hey, haki wale wau a ʻo kēia kaikamahine e noho me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he ipo nui wau MAI ka wahine.

Kākoʻo nui ʻo ia a ʻōlelo mai e hana mākou i loko o kaʻu mau pilikia - a ʻo ia ka mea i noʻonoʻo pono ai iaʻu i kaʻu pilikia. A mai ka manawa i hāʻawi ʻia mai iaʻu kahi nānā o ka pilikia kokoke i hoʻokahi makahiki i hala, hoʻomaka wau e heluhelu e pili ana, loaʻa kēia kolamu, YBOP, a me nā pūnaewele ʻē aʻe. A i kekahi lā i koʻu wā hoʻomaha a ma kahi o ka hele ʻana i waho e nānā wau i ka porn ma kaʻu kamepila a hauʻoli wau iaʻu, ua pā wau - ʻo kēia ka pilikia. Pono wau e kū.

ʻO kēlā lā he 82 mau lā i hala aku nei a haʻaheo wau i ka ʻōlelo ʻana ua hemolele wau i ka masturbation a me ka ʻole orgasm. ʻAʻole wau haʻaheo e ʻōlelo e hoʻi hou wau i ka porn i kēlā me kēia mau lā me he mea lā - he mau minuke mau bikini / palupalu akā ʻike wau hewa nō ia. ʻO kēia ke kaua aʻu e hakakā nei.

Eia nō naʻe, ma ka liʻiliʻi noʻu, me he mea lā ʻo ka nofap ke kumu o ka hopena, no ka mea, ʻo ka pilikia i loaʻa iaʻu no ka makegrip - ʻaʻohe mea aʻu i ʻike ai mai PIV a i ʻole BJ a i ʻole nā ​​mea ʻē aʻe ma mua o kuʻu lima. Ma ka hoʻopau loa ʻana i koʻu lima hiki iaʻu ke lohi (lohi loa, akā ʻoiaʻiʻo) e manaʻo hou.

Ma kahi o 45 mau lā i hiki iaʻu ke ʻike i ka hele ʻana o PIED, akā ʻaʻole maikaʻi ia. Ua haʻi wau i kaʻu GF e pili ana i koʻu pilikia i ia manawa, ʻo ia kekahi mea e paio ai ma aneʻi; ma ka liʻiliʻi i koʻu kūlana he kōkua nui loa ia e haʻi iā ia no laila maopopo iā ia nā mea āna e hana ai e kōkua iaʻu e hoʻomaikaʻi.

A i ke kukui i ka hopena o ke tunnel - ʻo ia wale nō ke kukui MUA - i kēia kakahiaka ua hiki iaʻu ke hoʻomau i ka wā o PIV no ka manawa mua loa i koʻu ola (a aia wau i koʻu 30 mau makahiki. ) Ua hāʻawi wau i kahi kaikamahine i kahi orgasm mai kēlā. Ua ʻike wau i nā mea hou aku (maopopo leʻa mai ka hiki iaʻu ke komo i loko a hoʻomau i ka hele ʻana) akā he mau ala nō kaʻu e hele ai ma mua o ka hoʻoiho hou ʻia.

No laila, he wahi haʻaheo kēia, akā ua hauʻoli wau i ka heluhelu ʻana i nā wahi kaena a haʻi no ka mea ʻo kā lākou kūleʻa i hāʻawi iaʻu ka manaʻolana no kaʻu kūleʻa. He mau ala kaʻu e hele ai, akā inā hiki iaʻu ke hōʻuluʻulu i nā kiko o kaʻu huakaʻi.

  • ʻO ka lōʻihi o ka PMO e pāʻani i ka maleʻana o ka male mai loko mai
  • I ka hopena, ua hoʻokūkū wau i kaʻu mau mea hōʻaia e pili ana iʻekolu mahina i hala ae nei, aʻo 100% ka maikaʻi ma ka nofap (ʻaʻohe palena a iʻole ka masturbation) akāʻaʻoleʻoi nui ma porn (hoʻoemi haʻahaʻaʻole,
  • Kaʻana like ʻia i nā kikoʻī me ka ipo wahine hou. No laila ke hele nei wau i ka mode 'maʻalahi' rewiring i ka manawa like me ke rebooting.
  • Ua hōʻemi nuiʻia ka PIED (i paniʻia me kahi hopohopo hopohopo) e pili ana i 45 days in
  • Ua hiki iā ia ke hoʻopau i ka PIV 82 lā i loko
  • Ua hala ma mua o 90 mau lā me kaʻu ʻole orgasm ponoʻī, a ʻaʻole wau e pahū - no laila ʻaʻole pono ia no nā kāne āpau

ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke hana ma hope o ka 82 lā NOFAP. ʻAʻole i piha pono ka hana hou akā ua nui ka holomua a me ka maikaʻi o nā mōhai i hanaʻia

LINK - Kiʻi 82 o ka lā - aia kahi kukui ma ka hope o ke tunnel!

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UPDATE - Ma hope oʻehā mahina, hoʻomaka wau e lilo i mea maʻamau

ʻO koʻu mahinaʻehā nofap makahiki kahi mau lā i hala. He mahina wale nō ia ma hope o koʻu hālāwaiʻana i kaʻu hoaaloha i kēia manawa,ʻo ia ka mauʻu i haki i nā kāmelo ma hope oʻu e uhaki i ka holomua PMO. Ua maikaʻiʻo ia a noʻonoʻo a ua makemake wau iā ia heʻino akā hikiʻole ke hana a no ka manawa mua o koʻu ola ua'ōlelo wau makemake wau eʻoi aku ka maikaʻi,ʻaʻole wale no ia, akā noʻu iho. A laila heluhelu wau, heluhelu, heluhelu, a hoʻoholo e hoʻokō i ka papahana.

<--break->” src=”https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/spacer.gif” title=”<--break-->“>It has not been without its bumps. I’ve been completely free of fap — no edging, no masturbation — but not pornfree. I’ve learned that its not because I am not satisfied looking at my girl, but its because of the novelty of seeing something new.</p><p>My main symptom was terrible PIED; while I was married for over a decade (to my first girlfriend and only sexual partner ever) I can’t say I ever successfully had PIV sex. I just assumed I was ‘broken’ at sex and that the PMO cycle was not the problem.</p><p>During the divorce I saw a counselor who told me I was addicted to porn, but I was going through a LOT of things and chose to ignore it, thinking whats the problem with PMO when you don’t have anyone. Looking back it was so stupid, but in my own defence, I was able to lose a LOT of weight and change my attitude towards women even before I quit PMO.</p><p>At around the 30 day mark of the program I told my girlfriend what I was going through. She was supportive and I stuck with ‘easy’ mode in the sense I still had sexual activity, just didn’t O, and still had PIED issues. At around the 90 day mark I for the first time in my life had PIV sex where I gave her an orgasm, and a few days later, I actually had an O inside a woman for the first time EVER. It was such a different experience that I didn’t even know it was happening till it was done.</p><p>Suffice to say I felt pretty good (even though like any one who is having first time sex, it was sooo quick). Then I think I fell into a flatline, or something happened. For the next two weeks I couldn’t get it up at all, and I was despondent. I felt like I did in my first relationship, that I was broken. But unlike last time, I felt horrible because I wanted to be better, because I know myself and my girlfriend deserve a normal sex life.</p><p>If one thing I’ve learned as a side effect of giving up PMO is that your emotions pour out of you like no one’s business. And this weekend after some progress in the right direction a few things happened that led me down a deep, dark path of self doubt. I can say honestly I never thought about relapsing, but I could not see the light at the end of the tunnel.</p><p>I also read the forums and we all know that in addition to the success stories we have stories of struggle, and there was a post yesterday that was something like “I just want to cry”. And I’m a typical guy, was told never to cry, and then you add on PMO which masks our emotions, I never cried. But I just cried about where I am, and cried in front of my girlfriend, just because the emotions were pouring out and I wasn’t bottling it up anymore and I wasn’t resorting to fap either.</p><p>As someone who PMOed for 30+ years and didn’t cry for 30+ years I can say that both things are definitely wrong. I can only wish someone I trusted had told me this. I can’t say that crying on its own felt better, but confronting my emotions, my insecurities, my fears, with someone I trusted was a big step of the process.</p><p>So after being reassured that my girlfriend and I would work on it as a team, and us talking over some things that normal couples do (such as being more expressive during sex over what we like, etc) we tried again the next couple of days. The next day, I was able to have PIV sex and have an O (so yes, the second time in my life inside a woman). Since I was aware of the sensation I was able to actually delay the O for a few minutes, but still not enough for my GF to O. The day after, I can say that it was a normal (still brief) sexual encounter .. I brought my GF to O and then I O afterwards.</p><p>In any regular life this is not something to write home about, because the sex was just ‘normal’. But after all this time, being normal is all I want. I now have regular issues – having to time my and my GF O, different sexual libidos, etc. And I’m not completely out of the woods. I am still so insecure about this and know that doubt will come into my mind again.</p><p>But I only know one thing — PMO is no longer an option. I just can’t do it anymore. One last aside. A couple of days ago my GF and I watched the movie Thanks for Sharing. That movie is about sex addiction but there’s a LOT in common with our problems (as porn and masturbation addiction are often also problems of sex addicts). My GF told me after watching it she felt a lot more understanding of the journey I was going through. Since she was sitting next to me she also said I was sweating a lot through the movie. I believe that was because it was uncomfortably accurate. So we had some more serious and frank discussions about the addiction and the recovery process.</p><p>I told her that while I’ve been tempted to fap I didn’t do it because I didn’t want to fail you guys online, fail the fellow soldiers in the nofap war, fail her, or fail myself. I think about all of those folks I’d let down if I fap and then I don’t. I told her the truth that I’ve had much more difficulty with porn and that I want to give it up for good too. And then she asked me, very sweetly, to give that up for her too. And you know, I’m glad she asked me. Some guys might take it poorly (like the Don Jon character did in that movie) but I know she did it because she loves me and now every time I’m tempted to click a link I don’t want to let her down.</p><p>tl;dr After four months with some severe ups and downs, many of them emotional, am able to have normal sex with all the normal issues that normal people have. The reboot isn’t complete but the journey is the ONLY option I have.</p><hr><p> </p><p><strong>UPDATE2  <a class=- Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻi hou (hemo ma muli o ka porn)

No laila, ua loaʻa wau i kahi pilikia nui me ka porn i koʻu ola a pau. Ua hoʻolauna kuʻu hoaaloha maikaʻi iaʻu iā ia i ke kula kiʻekiʻe a he keiki geeky, nerdy wau no laila hoʻomanaʻo wau i ka hoʻolilo ʻana i mau hola e hoʻoiho i nā GIF mai kaʻu modem 1200 baud a hūnā iā ia mai koʻu makuakāne (ʻaoʻao: hele mai koʻu mau mākua e haʻi wale iaʻu maikaʻi ʻole me ka wehewehe ʻole ʻana i ke kumu o ka holo ʻole ʻana. Pono ʻoe e kuhi i ka ʻoi aku o ke akamai o kāu poʻe keiki ma mua ou - inā makemake lākou e hana i kahi mea āu e ʻae ʻole ai. e hana lākou.

ʻO kaʻu pili me ka porn i pili i kekahi pilina maoli aʻu me nā wahine. ʻAʻole ia i pili maoli i ka mālama ʻana i nā wahine, akā mālama ʻia ia i ka mālama ʻana iā SEX. A ʻo ka laina lalo ua makemake wau i ka moekolohe me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokolokolo a me ke koi ma mua o ka piʻi a me nā lalo o ka wahine maoli.

No laila ʻoiai ʻaʻohe oʻu hopohopo e pili ana i ka 'sex' ma mua o ka male ʻana hoʻomanaʻo wau i ka maikaʻi ʻole o ka piss a pehea wau i hoʻi koke ai i porn. ʻAʻole i moe kolohe i ka pō male, a laila no ʻumikūmāhā mau makahiki e makaʻu wau i ka pō moekolohe i kēlā me kēia pule me kaʻu wahine (i kēia manawa ex), e hana ana i nā kumu e pale aku ai iā ia, a laila makemake wau e hele i kahi lumi ʻē aʻe a loaʻa kekahi. porn iā Jack.

ʻOiai ʻaʻole kēia wale nō ka pilikia i loko o kaʻu pili, ke nānā aku he hapa nui ia o ia - 90% paha. A ʻaʻole nō ka nele o ka moekolohe, ʻo ka ʻole o ka pili aloha. A ʻoiai i ka manawa aʻu e papa hele ʻia i ka wā a kaʻu wahine (ex) i noi ai no ka hemo ʻana, i kēia manawa e noʻonoʻo wau no ke aha ʻo ia i kali ai no ka lōʻihi loa, no ke aha wau i ʻae ai?

No laila i ka wā o ka hemo ʻana ua ʻike wau i kahi kākāʻōlelo male i hōʻike pono i kaʻu mau pilikia me ka porn. Akā mālama ʻole wau iā ia, ʻoiai ʻo wau no ka manawa mua i ka iwakālua mau makahiki, a ʻo ka porn ka mea ʻoluʻolu aʻu i ʻike ai i koʻu ola holoʻokoʻa.

A laila ua hālāwai wau me kahi kaikamahine kūpono, a ua pili kāua. A hoʻonāukiuki loa ia. Hele ilihune hou ia. Akā i kēia manawa, ʻaʻole wau e manaʻo wale 'ʻo ia ke ala'. Pono wau e noʻonoʻo i ka mea i hewa, no ka mea, ua manaʻo wau me kaʻu wahine ma mua ʻaʻole pono ka moekolohe inā he aloha kou 'a i ʻole kekahi ʻano kolohe e like me kēlā. Ua ʻike wau i kēia manawa kahi hauʻoli, ka hoʻokō ʻana i ke ola moekolohe kahi koi no kahi pili lōʻihi.

ʻO ia ka manawa i ʻike ai au i nā kolamu nofap a pornfree a heluhelu i kekahi mau moʻolelo e pili ana i ka poʻe e like me aʻu. A he ala LONG ia me ka hoʻi hou ʻana ma waena, akā e hoʻāʻo ana wau e haʻalele i ka porn a me ka fap ma kahi o hoʻokahi makahiki. Ua ʻike ka ipo wahine o kēia manawa e pili ana i koʻu pilikia a ua kākoʻo ʻo ia.

ʻOiai wau e hoʻāʻo nei e haʻalele i nā mea ʻelua, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka wahine (ʻaʻole maikaʻi loa ma nā ʻano like ʻole) a ua hiki iaʻu ke hoʻokalakupua me ia (ʻaʻole wau i hana me kaʻu wahine ma mua). A ʻo ka lōʻihi a me ka pōkole o ia ke komo hou nei wau, me kēia manawa ke ola moekolohe olakino me ka ʻole o ka porn a me ka fap ma ke ʻāpana o ka hoʻolālā.

tl; dr ʻO ka pilina mua ma kahi o iwakālua mau makahiki i pala ma loko ma muli o ke kuhi PMO a alakaʻi i ka hemo. Ua hiki ke hoʻohuli iā ia a kūkulu i kahi pilina hou (** Ua komo wau **) ma hope o ka hāʻawi ʻana iā PMO.

No laila, no ka poʻe e manaʻo nei heʻano haʻahaʻaʻoe, ua nui mākou i laila. Hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻohuli a puni, no ka wahi heaʻoe.