ʻĀ, ua holo pono ka manawa e… akā ʻo wai wau i kēia lā, a ʻo wai lā wau i 90 mau lā i hala aku nei ... aia kekahi nui ʻokoʻa. Kuhi wau no nā makahiki, ua ʻike mau wau i ka porn & masturbation he pilikia noʻu, akā he mea maʻamau a kūlohelohe hoʻi lāua ʻelua ... ʻakaʻaka nā mea āpau e pili ana, a maʻalahi hoʻi ka porn a wela loa nā wahine ... ʻaʻole loa wau e i manaʻo ʻia ma mua o ke kūpono o ke kaʻina hana ʻelua ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe o nā lāʻau ʻē aʻe a i ʻole ka ʻalekohola.
Ka kia ʻana Gary Wilson Ted Kūkākūkā, a ke ike nei i kekahi o na YBOP Ua hāmama ka maka o nā wikiō – inā ʻoe he mea hou i ke kaiāulu a ʻike ʻole iā lākou, e aloha iā ʻoe iho a wehe iā lākou i kahi kapu hou i kēia manawa [Aia lākou ma ka ʻaoʻao ->]
Noʻu, hoʻowalewale ʻo NoFap e hoʻāʻo. Aia wau i koʻu 20 mau makahiki a ʻaʻole wau i aloha, a hiki i kēia manawa ʻaʻole wau i noʻonoʻo i ke kumu. Ua noho pū wau me ka nui o nā wahine e like me koʻu mau makahiki, akā he mau wahine wale nō kaʻu e pili ana (ʻaʻohe pili i lōʻihi o 6 mau mahina). ʻO ke koena, hoʻomanaʻo iki wau i ko lākou inoa a i ʻole i ko lākou alo i kēia kiko. He paʻakikī paha ke alo aku iā ia i kēlā manawa, akā ʻike wau i kēia manawa ʻaʻole wau e hoʻopili wale i ka moekolohe, akā aloha pū kekahi & aloha pū kekahi, a me nā nui ana o aloha mai ka wahine.
ʻO kaʻu e manaʻo ai ua alakaʻi ʻia kēia mau mea pili i kēia manawa ka haʻalele naʻau ʻana mai koʻu makuahine i koʻu ola a pau. Hiki i kahi makuahine ke noho kino, a hāʻawi iā ʻoe me nā lole a me nā meaʻai, akā inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia ma laila e hānai iā ʻoe me ka naʻau, a pili mau i kāna mau pilina a me kāna mau pahuhopu i mua, hiki i ke keiki ke ʻaihue i ka wā kamaliʻi, a manaʻo ʻo kāna mau pono "maʻalahi" wale ia. ʻO Chemically, hiki i kēia ke kumu i kahi kaulike ʻole i dopamine regulasi, like me oxytocin regulation (the love / bonding chemical), no laila ke ʻōlelo maoli ʻole nei au e aloha aku nei au iā ʻoe. Eia ka pilina ma ka pepa ʻepekema kahi aʻu i hana ai i kēia pili. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3319675/
Ua hele maikaʻi ʻole kēia mau ʻike i kahi fap, ua hala paha wau i ka hapalua. ʻO ka hoʻonui i ka hilinaʻi, hoʻonui i ka ikehu, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka manaʻo, ʻo kēia mau "mana nui" he ʻoiaʻiʻo maoli nō. Akā manaʻo wau e lawe maʻalahi ʻia lākou me hoʻokahi fap. ʻO nā mea maikaʻi, nā ʻike e pili ana i no ke aha e hoʻomaʻamaʻa ai mākou e like me kāna lāʻau lapaʻau ka mea a mākou e ʻoluʻolu ai, hele mai kēlā mau mea ma hope, a pono ʻoe e hoʻomanawanui a pono ʻoe i ka hilinaʻi. E like ia me ka papaʻai ... inā ua kau lohi ʻoe i ke kaupaona ma mua o 10-15 mau makahiki i hala, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo e hoʻokahe ʻoe ia mea āpau i nā pule.
Hōʻoiaʻiʻo wau i ka luʻu o ka lā 90 i kēlā me kahi ʻē aʻe e hakakā ana me ka manaʻo he neʻe ʻo kāna moekolohe pono e hālāwai me ia i mea e pakele ai i kāna makaʻu makaʻu ʻole, hopohopo, a me ka mehameha. E noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe, "He aha ka mea nui, makemake wau i ka porn a me ka jerkin" ia! ", Akā e nānā hohonu ... i hea ʻoe e hana nei i kēia? He aha mau manao i kou manaʻo ma mua o ka lima? ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo no nā mea āpau, ʻoiaʻiʻo, aia kekahi mau ʻē aʻe i kēlā me kēia lula. Inā ʻole, lanakila paha ʻoe i hoʻokahi mea hōʻalo, akā noho ke kumu o nā manaʻo a neʻe wale ʻoe i kahi mea ʻē aʻe. I kaʻu mau pule mua o NoFap, hana ʻino wau - akā no ka mea he ex maikaʻi koʻu naʻu e kau nei a puni e haʻi iā ia i nā mea āpau. ʻAʻole wau i ʻike, ua hōʻike mua ʻia kaʻu mea hōʻalo iā ia iho i ka pili ʻana iā ia a puni, a me ke kiʻekiʻe o kona pili a me koʻu hoihoi iaʻu. Aia kekahi puke maikaʻi loa e kōkua i ka wehe ʻana i nā laina ma waena o ke aloha a aloha ʻole paha ʻoe i kekahi a inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻohana wale nei iā lākou ma kekahi pae e manaʻo maikaʻi e pili ana iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻole nō wau i hoʻopau, akā he mea kupaianaha kaʻu i aʻo ai. http://www.amazon.com/Love-Addiction-Changed-Romance-Intimacy/dp/1592857337
Ma kahi leka uila, ʻo nā pono maikaʻi o ke kīpē noʻu nui loa. ^ E Ha yM. He nui loa koʻu iki aku ka makaʻu a me ka kānalua–Kea maopopo loa kēia i ka hana. Hana wau i kekahi manawa me nā luna kiʻekiʻe loa, akā ʻo wau mai hopohopo nui ʻoe e hoʻohewa hou wau i kekahi mea – lana wale wau me ka wiwo ʻole a ʻaʻohe mea i hewa. Lawe wau i ka lapuwale liʻiliʻi mai ka poʻe pū kekahi, a ua lilo i mea nui aʻe kahiki noʻu iho. Hōʻike ʻia kēia iā ia iho e pili ana i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe i koʻu hale. ʻIke wau he slob wau i nā manawa a pau, akā ʻo ka pololei o ka noʻonoʻo e pīhoihoi i ka hānai ʻana i kāna mea hōʻalo, hāʻawi ʻoe i nā mea e like me ka holoi ʻana a me ka holoi lole a me ke kūʻai ʻana i nā meaʻai kūpono mai ka hale kūʻai i hāʻule ma ke ala. I kēia manawa, ke hoʻomaʻemaʻe nei wau i nā ʻāpana o koʻu hale ʻaʻole aʻu i 4 + mau makahiki, a ke hana nei i nā leʻaleʻa ʻōmaʻomaʻo, a me nā ʻano mea like ʻole āpau e pili ana i koʻu ola home. Ua oki wau e hoʻāʻo nei e moekolohe me kekahi o nā wahine a koʻu mau hoaaloha akā ua hoihoi loa wau iā ia, a ke alakaʻi nei ia i ka ʻike hou e pili ana i ko lākou ʻano – ma mua paha o ka hana nui ʻana e pili ana i ka hoʻoweliweli e hoʻolohe? Hele wau i kēia manawa i nā papa noʻonoʻo, jam me nā hoaaloha, hana i nā mea noʻeau hou, HANA E HOLOHE, komo i kahi kime kinipōpō, hoʻopaʻa inoa i kahi huakaʻi i ʻEulopa. Aia i koʻu ola. Pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i kēia inā makemake ʻoe holomua me ka hilinaʻi o ke ʻano o kou moeʻuhane (Kauka Dr. Wayne Dyer)
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