Hey NoFap,
This post was originally a response to a question that somebody asked me on ‘Lift’ (an amazing goal-tracking app if you don’t have it already). My response went over the character count so posting here instead. The question came after checking in for day 90: “Wow – did it feel easy? Helpful? Worth extending the streak?”
Everything below is what I wrote. Hope it’s helpful.
I wouldn’t say it was ‘easy’ but it became a lot more manageable as I made progress…
I think I discovered NoFap about three years ago and I’ve tried every summer since to reach the full 90 days. My longest streak previously was 64 days.
There were a few things that contributed to doing it this time round:
-Telling myself that I had no choice: I know it sounds dramatic, but I didn’t want to die one day without having succeeded to develop the mental discipline required for this challenge. I put today’s date in my schedule and used it as a lodestar.
-Pou di lòt moun sa m 'te fè: Se pa tout moun mwen te rankontre, evidamman, men moun ke mwen te fè konfyans ak respekte kenbe m' responsab. Pifò moun te sanble yo 'jwenn li' yon fwa mwen eksplike motivasyon mwen e mwen te santi ke kite yo desann te kite tèt mwen desann tou. Tbh, mwen pa te reyèlman enkyete w sou reyaksyon negatif lè kite moun nan plan mwen an. Sa a te yon bagay mwen ta deside sou yo ak moun ki ka renmen li oswa fèt yon sèl kou li.
-Urge mantra: Whenever I felt an urge (which was fairly frequent except in flatline) I’d make the distinction between wanting to cum and wanting to fap. With the former there are far more options (including holding onto it until the right time). This was one of the most helpful devices for maintaining control, IMO. Options make you feel less restricted so the temptation somehow seems more manageable.
Really, I think most if this stuff is about knowing what you want and why. Get in touch with your values and look at why Nofap is in alignment with them. Values motivate, in my opinion, and give you the mental stamina and reassurance to keep going.
The whole experience was definitely helpful. I’m more confident socially and also get a lot more done. I think the controversial ‘superpowers’ everybody talks about are less to do with not whacking it and more to do with taking action in other areas of your life. Action is confidence in my view and when those actions compound day after day confidence compounds also.
Sa a, konbine avèk ogmantasyon testostewòn lan, ak kont pozitif ogmante pwòp tèt ou-imaj pou benefis Nofap a (gen anpil nan eksperyans mwen - kèk byolojik, ki pi rasin nan ki jan ou fè fas ak ak kontwole tèt ou ak anviwònman ou). Li nan sou lè l sèvi avèk tan ou pou aksyon pozitif olye pou yo jis kenbe tèt ou nan stasis. Nou fèt yo grandi ak avanse pou pi devan ak bate jis kite ou an plas an menm.
My plan at present is to keep the streak going but come out of hard mode. I feel the same way about PMO as I do the cigarettes I gave up. If I see people smoking I can resist because I know what’s better for me in the long-term. Be honest with yourself about who you are and what you want to be and use the gap between the two states to create a tension that drives you onwards.
I definitely recommend sticking with it if you can. There were many many times where I decided it wasn’t what I needed or that I couldn’t do it, but once I found the motivation to commit (looking at values, also setting goals around the things I want to BE/DO/HAVE) I managed to reach a place I once thought I never would.
Ou pa bezwen enterese nan fè li, pran angajman. Tout fwa mwen echwe anvan yo se paske mwen te senpleman enterese nan fè li, pa vrèman angaje. Pa gen anyen nouvo ke yo te di isit la, men pi fò nan sa a se yon jwèt mantal epi si ou genyen ke li pral pote nan lòt zòn nan lavi ou. Akonplisman se yon pwosesis nan vi mwen epi li menm pwosesis debaz ke siksè nan NoFap oswa nenpòt lòt kote mande pou. Konnen kiyès ou ye, konnen kisa ou vle, epi angaje ou pou ou rive la. Li ka 100% dwe fè menm si ou pa santi tankou li kounye a.
Tout chans yo pi byen ak bon.
Mèsi4TheMammaries
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