8 months ago i figured out I had major PISD. I had been a heavy porn user since I was about 14. I always thought it was good for me. I have had a few sexual partners in my life (I am now 27) but the sex was never really that good and I often ended up drifting off, visualising scenes from my favorite videos to stimulate myself. I confess, I faked my O quite a lot of the time as I just couldn’t perform.
It was only about 8 months ago I realised I had PISD. I was with a lovely girl that I fancied like mad. I just couldn’t get wood, no matter how much I tried. She eventually managed to give me a HJ but only after I slipped back off into the porn theater of my mind. I couldn’t blame it on alcohol, nerves or anything else, there was something else happening here.
I booked an appointment with the doctor. Then I stumbled across an article on PISD and started researching the subject. I cancelled the appointment with the doctor. I knew what was wrong with me.
So for the last 8 months I went cold turkey. I not only stopped watching porn, but I came to hate it. The whole industry, for what it does to us.
I experienced everything we all do; mood swings, flatlining, lack of concentration, edging. Slowly but surely, I managed to push through it, and life was getting better every day.
ສິ່ງທໍາອິດທີ່ຂ້າພະເຈົ້າໄດ້ເຮັດຄືການຢຸດພັກຊົ່ວຄາວ. ບໍ່ມີວັນທີ, ບໍ່ມີ flirting, ບໍ່ມີຄວາມປາຖະຫນາທີ່ແທ້ຈິງທີ່ຈະເບິ່ງແມ່ຍິງໃນວິທີການທາງເພດ.
ມັນໄດ້ເຮັດໃຫ້ໂລກດີ. ເຖິງແມ່ນວ່າຂ້ອຍເຄີຍເຮັດດີກັບເດັກຍິງ, ແຕ່ຄວາມ ສຳ ເລັດຂອງຂ້ອຍຕອນນີ້ແມ່ນ ກຳ ລັງມຸງຫລັງຄາ. ຂ້າພະເຈົ້າເດົາວ່າມັນແມ່ນການລວມກັນຂອງຄວາມພະຍາຍາມຂອງຂ້າພະເຈົ້າທີ່ບໍ່ແມ່ນຄວາມຈິງແລະຜ່ອນຄາຍ. ຂ້ອຍ ກຳ ລັງຊອກຫາວັນທີ, ແຕ່ ສຳ ຄັນກວ່ານັ້ນ, ຂ້ອຍມີຄວາມສຸກກັບການໂຕ້ຕອບກັນຫລາຍຂຶ້ນ, ຮູ້ຈັກຄົນເປັນບຸກຄົນ, ບໍ່ແມ່ນແຕ່ຄົນທີ່ຂ້ອຍຢາກນອນ ນຳ. ບໍ່ມີໃຜໃນພວກມັນຫັນໄປສູ່ຄວາມສະ ໜິດ ສະ ໜົມ, ແຕ່ຂ້ອຍ ກຳ ລັງຈົບມັນກັບເດັກຍິງທີ່ຂ້ອຍບໍ່ມັກແລະສູນເສຍຄວາມເອື່ອຍອີງຂອງຜົນໄດ້ຮັບຂອງຂ້ອຍ.
ຫຼັງຈາກນັ້ນ, ວັນເສົາທີ່ຜ່ານມາ, ຂ້ອຍໄດ້ມີຄວາມສະ ໜິດ ສະ ໜົມ ກັບຜູ້ຍິງເປັນເທື່ອ ທຳ ອິດຕັ້ງແຕ່ 8 ເດືອນກ່ອນ. ມັນແມ່ນສິ່ງທີ່ບໍ່ ໜ້າ ເຊື່ອ. ຂ້າພະເຈົ້າໄດ້ຮັບໄມ້ຢ່າງດຸເດືອດແລະຂ້າພະເຈົ້າສາມາດມີຄວາມສຸກແລະຫລຽວເຂົ້າໄປໃນຄວາມຮູ້ສຶກທາງກາຍຫລາຍກ່ວາທີ່ຈະຕ້ອງໄດ້ເບິ່ງ. ຂ້ອຍຢູ່ໃນສະຖານະການທັງ ໝົດ, ມັນຮູ້ສຶກວ່າມັນຄວນເຮັດແລະເມື່ອຂ້ອຍຢາກ, ຂ້ອຍຄິດວ່າຂ້ອຍຈະໄປສະຫວັນ. ຂ້ອຍມັກຈະມີ 1 ໃນນັ້ນ 100 PMO.
So the work has paid off but this is not the end, it’s just the beginning. I need to keep this as my lifestyle and continue to improve every day. I thank you all for your support, and I hope that one day at a time, we can eliminate the horrors of PISD and porn addiction.
A few things I found helped:-
-Reading “No More Mr Nice Guy” by Robert Glover. A brilliant book, a real kick up the ass, and made me appreciate the mental, as well as physical barriers I faced. I can’t recommend it enough.
– Going on a moratorium. The length of time may vary from person to person, but when you are ready to get out there and date confidently you will know
– Take some supplements. I found Zinc, Omega 3, Multi Vitamins and Vitamin D good for general health. L arginine good for wood and D aspartic Acid good for a general boost. These are all natural and should be available from your local health store or online
– If you edge, it’s not the end of the world. Use it as a reason to strengthen your resolve rather than see it as defeat. This process takes discipline, but you can push through anything.
Thanks for reading. I hope this is just one of many stories that will be added to the Success Forum.
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ໂດຍ - Werther09
ພະຈິກ 27, 2012
First post – Age 27 – Day 21. Some thoughts
Hi ທັງຫມົດ
I’m 27 and have been using porn since I was 14. I’m sure, like many of you, I never found out I had a problem until it was too late.
I’m not too bad socially but have been through some pretty bad dry spells (longest 2 years) however, this year I have really improved and found that I was getting much more success with women. The problem was, when I got down to it, I just couldn’t get an erection. Most of the time I just blamed it either on alcohol or on nerves. Three weeks ago, I was with a lovely girl and totally failed to perform, twice, over 2 days, where alcohol or nerves couldn’t possibly have come into it.
It was then I realised it must be something else. So after a bit of research I concluded that it must be porn that is doing this to me. I used to PMO at least once a day, sometimes more. However, I was under the impression that it was perfectly healthy and normal and regular excitement was a key part of keeping libido high for the real thing.I realise now that porn had become my mistress, one that needed no investment, just a few clicks. It replaced the relationships I had in real life and made me feel safe in a place which is in fact dangerous.
Now, I realise I have a problem. I was never into extreme porn or felt like I had to push the boundaries. I just had a number of “go to” scenes and girls that I could depend on, stored away in either my laptop or my mind. When I found myself having to rely on these memories for stimulation when with a real girl, I knew something was wrong.
So I have now been porn free for 3 weeks. There have been pros and cons. I don’t miss the porn, not in the slightest but I flatlined pretty badly after a few days.I’ve had some awful mood swings as well but I am turning it into a positive and seeing it as an exercise in self control. I am still struggling to banish the indelible images of the girls I used to rely on from my mind, but I am working on it.
On the plus side, I have been much more focused on stuff that matters. I have reapplied myself at work, started some new courses and found more time to read and take care of myself rather than waste time on the web. I am filled with an optimism that as time goes on I will be much better and I am using this as a chance to banish other harmful habits from my life such as smoking and drinking.
I am always glad to read your stories and am inspired by the recoveries people have made. I am grateful for the chance to share this with people who know.
It’s a long road ahead, but it will be well worth it. I hope to see you on the other side but until then, you have my support.
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