Kāore a Ryan i whakatuwhera i tana waea me te whakaaro ki te kimi i ngā kiriata pono. Engari i te kitenga o te tamaiti 11-tau-te-pakeke i taua mea i runga i tana whāngai pāpāho pāpori, ka miharo ia. I a ia e mātakitaki ana, ka pā mai he hiahia me te harikoa ki a ia.
Kāore i roa, ka mau tōna roro ki taua pikinga dopamine. Ka noho hei mahi o ia rā.
I mea ia ki a ia anō ka taea e ia te mutu mēnā e hiahia ana ia, engari i tipu ake te whanonga mai i tētahi mea i mahia e ia i roto i tōna rūma moe ki tētahi hiahia nui. I tāutahia e ōna mātua he aukati ipurangi, engari i taea e ia. I te tīmatanga o te tau ono, kua huna ia i te akomanga tae atu ki te toru ngā wā i te rā ki te mātaki i ngā kiriata pono me te mirimiri i roto i te wharepaku.
"He tautoko kare ā-roto noa iho te mahi pono hei karo i ngā kare ā-roto katoa kāore au i mōhio kei roto i ahau," te kī a Ryan, e 25 tau te pakeke inaianei, ā, pērā i ētahi atu i kōrerohia e USA TODAY mō tēnei kōrero, i tono ia kia hunaia tōna ingoa whānau nā te mea he tairongo te kaupapa.
He tokomaha ngā tāne o te reanga Z, i tipu ake me ngā waea atamai me te ipurangi mutunga kore, e kī ana i tūtaki wawe rātou ki ngā mahi pakiwaitara, ā, he maha tonu. Ko ētahi e kī ana i a rātou anō he tangata waranga, ā, kei te tahuri ki tētahi hapori tāne e tere tipu haere ana i runga ipurangi e ngana ana ki te āwhina tetahi i tetahi ki te whakakore i ēnei whanonga. rangahau e whakaatu ana he nui ake te kaha o ngā tāne ki te kai porn i ngā wāhine.
E ai ki a Anthony Preischel, he kaiwhakaora hinengaro moepuku kei Niu Ioka, ko te wātea, te utu tika, me te āhua huna o te pakiwaitara kua whai wāhi ki te whakaurunga wawe o te ao i waenga i ngā taiohi me ngā tamariki.
"Ko te urunga mutunga kore ki ngā mahi pakiwaitara i te Gen Z, he nui ake i tērā o tētahi atu whakatupuranga," te kī a Preischel.
He 'whakaahua noa iho te taatai' o taku i whakaaro ai
Mō ngā tau, i kī a Ryan ki a ia anō ka taea e ia te mutu mēnā e hiahia ana ia. Engari i te wā i tukuna ai ia ki tētahi haerenga mihinare i a ia e taiohi ana, ā, kāore i taea e ia te mātaki i ngā kiriata pakiwaitara mō ngā marama e iwa, ka pōuri ia, ka pāngia hoki e ngā tohu tinana, tae atu ki te ngenge roa, te ānini me te tino huringa o te wairua.
"I tino ngenge ahau, i ngenge noa i ngā wā katoa, i pouri hoki," te kī a Ryan.
I roto i ngā rā torutoru i muri i tana hokinga ki te kāinga, ka hoki anō ia ki te whakamahi i ngā mahi pono. Koinei te tīmatanga o tētahi wā kino rawa atu, i uru tonu ai ngā whakaaro whakararuraru. I ētahi rā, neke atu i te ono hāora ia rā e mātaki ana i ngā mahi pono.
I te tīmatanga o te mahi moepuku a Ryan i te rua tekau mā rima o ōna tau, i whakaaro ia ka rerekē ngā mea. Engari i pōhēhētia ana tumanakohanga e te mahi porn, ā, i raru ia i te ngoikore o te ure i puta mai i te porn.
"I mōhio ahau ehara te kiriata pono i te mea tūturu, engari kāore au i te mōhio he aha te tikanga o te moepuku, nā te mea kāore au i te wheako i te moepuku tūturu, tūturu, piripono, aroha," te kī a Ryan. "He āhua noa iho tēnei o taku i whakaaro ai."
Te urupare a ngā roro taitamariki ki te pakiwaitara
E ai ki a Preischel, ko te mahi pūrākau me te puremu, pērā i te waipiro me ētahi atu matū rite, ka whakaoho i te pūnaha utu o te roro. Ka tukuna e te mahi te matū dopamine e whakaoho ana i te ahuareka, ka taea te whakapakari i te whanonga me te hanga i tētahi porowhita whanonga. I roto i te wā, ka taupokina e tēnei porowhita ngā ara utu o te roro i tētahi ara ka taea te whakarerekē tuturu i te whakahaere i te mana whakahaere, te ahuareka me te hihiri.
"I tīmata hei huarahi hei whakatau i ngā raruraru mamae me ngā raruraru hauora hinengaro," te kī a Tyler, he wahine 22-tau te pakeke i raru i te manukanuka, te pouri me te tukino ā-ira tangata i a ia e tamariki ana. "Mēnā kei te mātaki ahau i ngā pikitia pono...kāore au i te whakaaro ki aua mea."
He tino pānga tēnei whanonga ki ngā tama tāne kei te whanake tonu ō rātou roro; kei te whanake tonu ngā pūkenga whakahaere a ngā taiohi, te whakaaro whānui me te whakatau kaupapa mā roto i 25 tau.
"Kāore anō kia whanakehia te prefrontal cortex, nō reira kāore anō kia puta te mana whakahaere hihiri, kātahi ka tīmata te dopamine ki te huri i aua ara utu," te kī a Preischel.
Ko Max, he 35-tau te pakeke i whakaurua tuatahitia ki te ao pakiwaitara i te 11 o ōna tau, e kī ana i uaua ki a ia te whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto uaua i tōna pakeketanga nā te mea i mātakitaki ia i te ao pakiwaitara i tōna tamarikitanga.
"Nā te mea i tīmata ahau i te tamarikitanga, ka noho koinei te huarahi hei rongoā māku anō i ngā kare ā-roto whakararuraru, koinei hoki taku mahi i ngā wā katoa," te kī a Max.
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Kei te tino puāwai te umanga pakiwaitara
A 2022 pūrongo I kitea e Common Sense Media, he rōpū kore-moni e arotahi ana ki ngā whakatauranga pāpāho me te haumaru matihiko ipurangi mō ngā tamariki, e 71% o ngā taiohi i kī i mātaki ā-taupānga i ngā mahi porn i te wiki kua hipa.
I te 12 o ō rātou tau, i kī te nuinga o te hunga i mātaki i ngā kiriata pakiwaitara.
E ai ki a Brad Salzman, he kaimahi hapori haumanu whai raihana, he kaiwhakaora waranga moepuku whaimana hoki i te New York Sexual Addiction Center, ina mātaki ngā tāne i ngā mahi pakiwaitara i te wā taitamariki, ka pāngia rātou e te tirohanga roa ki ngā whanaungatanga, ki te whanaungatanga piripono me ngā tirohanga ki ngā wāhine.
"Ko tāu noa he mātakitaki i ngā kiriata pono, ā, kei reira tonu e tatari ana ki a koe, tika? Ahakoa he aha te momo kiriata pono e hiahia ana koe, ahakoa he aha tāu e pai ai, kei reira tonu," te kī a Salzman. "Engari inaianei, ngana ki te whakamāori i tēnā ki te ao tūturu, ā, kāore e mahi. Kāore tō hoa wahine, tō hoa wahine rānei e hiahia tonu ki te mahi i tāu e hiahia ana i te wā e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi."
Kei te tere tipu te umanga pakiwaitara. Kotahi tātari tata e whakaatu ana ko te uara o te mākete whakangahau pakeke neke atu i te $191 piriona — ā, e matapaetia ana ka eke tōna tipu ki te tata ki te $275 piriona i te tau 2032.
Kei ētahi kokonga o te ipurangi e whakanui ana i te whakamahi i ngā mahi taikaha. He maha ngā huihuinga kōrero e whakatapua ana ki te "whakapai ake" i te wheako o te mātakitaki i ngā ataata turekore me te matapaki i ngā ihirangi motuhake. I te tau 2024, ka uru a Reddit ki te ao o te ipurangi. rāhuitia he iti nei te rongonui mō tēnei kaupapa, engari he maha atu anō kei te hohe tonu.
E ai ki a Max, i te wā i tipu ake ai te ao o te kiriata pakiwaitara i te ipurangi, ka tīmata te whanaketanga o tana taiohitanga mā te tirotiro i ngā maheni tawhito a tōna pāpā, mā te tā rānei i ngā pikitia i runga ipurangi, ā, ka huri hei mea e wātea ana mō ngā haora 24 i te rā, mō ngā rā e whitu.
Nā te mahi porn, koinei te tīmatanga o tana wheako i te taatai, ā, nāwai rā ka pakaru ana whanaungatanga.
"Tērā pea ka kitea e au te nuinga o te wā e whakaipoipo ana i ngā wāhine, e whakaata ana i a rātou hei taonga mōku ake, kaua hei tangata tūturu," te kī a Max.
Koinei te wāhi e rapu āwhina ai ngā tāne
Ahakoa DSM-5 kāore e mōhiotia te whakamahi i ngā mahi porn hei mate whaimana, e kī ana ngā hapori ipurangi o ngā tāne kua pāngia ki tēnā ki a rātou, he rite ki te waranga, ā, he mea e rapu tonu ana te iwi i te āwhina. Ko ētahi huihuinga Reddit e whakatapua ana ki te whakamutu i ngā mahi porn he nui ake i te 1 miriona nga mema.
E ai ki a Max, ko te kōrero ki ētahi atu tāne kua pāngia e te whakamahi i ngā mahi taihara te mea nui rawa atu i akiaki i a ia ki te haere. Neke atu i te tekau mā rua ngā tāne Ngā rōpū Reddit whakatapua ki Tuhinga o mua neke atu i te hawhe miriona manuhiri ia wiki.
"Ki taku whakaaro koinei te mea nui rawa atu e pā ana ki ngā tāne i ēnei rā, ā, he raruraru nui atu i tā te tangata e mōhio ana," te kī a Max.
Mō ngā tāne taitamariki e uaua ana ki te kimi āwhina ngaio nā te whakama, te hara me te whakamā e pā ana ki te whakamahinga o ngā mahi taihara, ka whakaratohia e ēnei rōpū te taahiraa tuatahi ki te tautoko. Ka ārahi ngā kaiwhakahaere rōpū ngā wero whakahihiri o ia marama ka taea e ngā kaiwhakamahi te rēhita. Hei aroturuki i tā rātou kawenga, ka whakanohohia e ētahi kaiwhakamahi te maha o ngā rā kua watea rātou i te tirohanga pakiwaitara ki roto i ā rātou kōtaha kaiwhakamahi.
E ai ki ngā kaiwhakamahi, nā ēnei rōpū rātou i āwhina ki te kimi i te kawenga, ki te whakaora i ō rātou whanaungatanga, me te akiaki i a rātou ki te rapu āwhina ngaio mai i ngā kaiwhakaora hinengaro me ngā rōpū tautoko i te waranga moepuku.
E ai ki a Salzman, kāore e taea te whakanui rawa i te hiranga o ēnei rōpū.
"Ko te kitenga atu kei reira anō ētahi atu tāne e pāngia ana e te taua āhuatanga, he tāne e taea te hono atu ki a rātou, ā, e kore e whakahē i a rātou, kātahi ka rongo i ngā kōrero a ētahi o ēnei tāne mō ngā rautaki kua tino whai hua... ki taku whakaaro he tino āwhina," te kī a Salzman.
E ai ki a Ryan, e whakamahi ana i ngā huihuinga Reddit hei tāpiri atu ki tētahi rōpū ingoamuna mō te hunga taupatupatu moepuku 12-taahiraa e haere atu ana ia, i roa te tūhura i ēnei wāhi tautoko i mua i tana mōhio he whanaungatanga rerekē tāna ki te moepuku.
"I roto i tōku mahunga te whakaaro ka tinihanga te katoa, tāne, wahine rānei, ahakoa ko wai rātou, mēnā ka whai wāhi, ā, kei te whakaaro te katoa ki te taatai, pērā i ahau," te kī a Ryan. "I te rongonga i ngā kōrero a te tangata... ka kite ahau kāore i te pono."
Me pēhea te tiki āwhina mō te whakamahi i ngā mahi porn whakahihiri
E ai ki a Ryan he roa te ara e ora ai ia, engari kei te arotahi ia ki te whakakapi i ngā mahi pakiwaitara ki ngā tikanga hou, hauora.
I mukua e ia te nuinga o ana pāpāho pāpori, ā, ka tīmata ki te pānui pukapuka i mua i te moe. Kua whakatinanahia e ia tētahi mahere whakangungu uaua. Kua rapua hoki e ia ngā mahi whakangahau e akiaki ana i a ia ki te wehe atu i tōna whare; i hokona e ia he mema i tētahi karapu kopere, ā, i uru atu ki tētahi rōpū Dungeons & Dragons o te rohe.
Mō ngā tau 14 kua pahure ake nei, kāore a Ryan i mōhio ko wai ia me te kore he mahi porn. Ko te nuinga o te mokemoke i muri i tana waranga, me te whakama o te huna i ana wheako, i arahi i a ia ki te huna i tōna tuakiri i mua i ōna hoa me tōna whānau.
Kei reira tonu aua hihiri, engari kei te mōhio ia kua rite ia ki te whakahaere i aua hihiri, ā, mō te wā tuatahi, kei te tūpono ia ki te neke atu i tēnei.
Ināianei, e hiahia ana ia ki te mōhio ko wai ia ina kore he kiriata pakiwaitara.
"Ko tētahi o ngā mea nui hei akiaki i ahau kia noho mā," te kī a Ryan, "ko te mōhio ko wai ahau, ko te tino tangata, me te noho hei tangata i mua i te katoa."