90 days – Better grades, more connected to others, greater confidence & concentration

There’s so many 90 days reports that I think I’m just going to list some of the most notable changes that come to my mind right now. Many of the changes I’ve felt may not be direct result of nofap, but instead of my mind going “Well, you can’t run away to PMO, so why not do something useful instead?” I’m not going back to PMO ever again, I know it.

On the other hand I’m not forbidding myself to masturbate (without porn), but right now I don’t feel the need to do that either. I enjoy other things in life too much to degenerate myself into that.

Better grades: I study at university and I’m late for graduation, one of main reasons I began nofap was to get more time and interest to study. On the scale of 0-5 (1 is first grade where you pass the course) my grades have gone from around 0-2 to 3-4. I feel I have even more potential, and think this is mostly because of improved concentration and confidence…

Concentration and confidence: I feel there’s almost nothing I can’t be able to do nowadays. I maybe haven’t got any super powers, but I finally have gotten over my fear of failure. I see the world differently, before I saw difficult things (such as exams, meeting new people etc.) as obstacles (preventing me to be a loser at home just PMO’ing), now I see them as challenges and opportunities. I may not be perfect, but I can always improve.

Feel more connected to others: I feel I’m able to express myself better with my friends. I enjoy more being social and I’m not afraid of people. When some of my friends used to hug me I remember feeling a bit creeped out. Now I feel opposite, and often initiate physical contact. Maybe before I assosiated all physical contact to porn and sex, and was scared for example to hug a girlfriend of my friend’s because of that. Now I know everything doesn’t need to be sexualized and it feels marvelous to be free of those constant thoughts.

There are many other things that have passed my mind during these 90 days, but I can’t find a reason to try and list them all here right now. I will continue posting here on this subreddit, and I thank you all for your support. It has been tought from time to time, but it surely has been worth it.

LINK – Some thoughts at day 90

by aff86