I will just post benefits that I already got: – Girls and getting noticed by people.
I just started seeing them and I started realising they are humans as well. I started looking at them. I noticed, maybe like 2 girls which randomly looked at me so far.
I sometimes see a classmate looking at me but I am not sure because sometimes I just look at her too I think I may be perceived better. Whenever I walk into public place, in school for example some people will look at me and then get busy with their stuff. They notice my presence. I also feel better perceived and respected, people are kind and polite to me. My mom and dad, they doesn’t see me socialising at school and in other situations but they said to me that I changed. I don’t know how but they noticed that I became more confident.
I will tell you a story which happened yesterday. I have driving classes and I usually drive a car with other student. Usually the other guy didn’t speak to me when we had a break and we were sitting in a car. It was usually a silence.
And yesterday I had a class with a girl I didn’t know. When we had a break and we were waiting for our instructor, I picked up my phone and got prepared for another silence, but she started a small talk with me with smile. She smiled, have eye contact with me. I laughed with her, she talked to me like we were friends. That was strange for me but I felt so good and confident after having a talk with her. And that was strange that I did well in conversation.
– I am now feeling confident and more mature!
One day is stronger one day weaker but I feel much better than I used to be. It is feeling like, you feel very good in your own skin. And I feel more serious. I don’t know how to describe this but I started seriously thinking about my studies, University. I am 18 and this is the last year of my highschool and I will have very very very important exam which will decide whether I am good enough for University or not. I have cut down smartphone use and video games. I started reading fiction books and books which will help me to prepare for my exam, working out, helping my dad in work (Bonus cash in my pocket ).
I started now noticing how much my classmates are immature. They say jokes on classes, talk with others on class when the teacher is teaching important stuff for our exam, they use Facebook, Snapchat with their Iphones on classes, when something goes wrong on test they will surely blame the teacher. And they really like to party, drink alcohol ect. Sometimes teachers really have to reprimand them, or tell them to change seats because they talk with their mate. And this is the class of 18 years old people…
I realised I were not myself all the time, I used to seek acceptance from them… Because of my confidence, now I realised I am much better than them. I am proud of my interests (History, Politics, Self-improvement, psychology/philosophy a bit,self-improvement). My life values have changed!
– I realised that time flows slower.
Sometimes after a work and reading book I look at watch and realise that I have so much time left.
– I started wearing clothes I like
I know it can be strange for you to read it but I always used to buy clothes with care:
What they will think about me if I wear this? What about this shirt? No no, I will look stupid in this. I used to wear uncomfortable clothes just to make sure no one will say I look stupid or not to make others pay attention to me. Now when I go to shop I just buy whatever I like. I tend to buy clothes in which I feel comfortable and good. I buy them for myself not to appreciate others
– Relationships are better
I don’t say I have 1000000 friends. I still haven’t reached a point of having many friends. I have some acquaintances in school and friends in school. But I just noticed that it is now better for me to talk with them. I don’t feel that much anxiety or shame. I see that it is better to have normal conversation and I realised that they like me. It feels like they treat me better and I feel so normal around people.
That are benefits after 58 days. 85 days and I will reach my goal. I am aiming for 143 days and of course more. My goal is to have finally good and real Christmas. I realised I stopped feeling that atmosphere for a long time… SORRY for my bad English, I am still learning
If you think NOFAP is placebo or fake:
-You are totally wrong!!! I used to be someone who was socially anxious, were afraid of showing own interests and talents, had no normal view over women’s and were completely awkward with talking to girls. I had no confidence and were focused on how others perceive me. I could even make fun of my friend just to be liked by others…
If you think you have 40-50 days and you feel depressed ect. Just keep going. You already will notice improvement and that depression will last one day, at least not forever. Cutting down the addiction and changing your life for better is very beneficial!!!
I am having 58 days today and soon reach 60 days.