So, after 90 days of no PMO, what do I have to say? A few things. First, I should say that within the first month of doing /r/nofap, I managed to get myself a girlfriend. We’re both very busy types, but we’d still do the deed once or twice every two weeks, so in that sense it wasn’t straight up abstinence from everything.
So what have I gotten out of my experience?
Well, I can honestly say that I was never as motivated to talk to women and ask them out as I was in that first month; the change was incredible, and the amount of confidence I had, whether it was due to noFap or the placebo effect, was much larger than what I’d had before. I still feel that same urge to talk to women, and I still do,without any other intention than to just enjoy the fact that I can put myself out there so easily.
As far as PIV goes, I’ve regained a lot of sensitivity, and this worried me a bit, since obviously I can’t go as long as I used to. I’m happy to report that my partner, who’s aware of what I’m doing, said that it wasn’t a problem at all. We both finish within 20 minutes or so, and this honestly feels much better than when I was going for 3+ hours; it almost got to where PIV was a chore, since I knew how long it would take to reach O, but now I genuinely enjoy it the whole time.
Additionally, I never had ED before or anything, but since NoFap, things have been… well, much more pronounced, let’s say.
I was also much more motivated to work out; I jog and do some basic exercises about 3 times a week now, and, thanks to combining that with a healthier diet (now that I suddenly had more free time to cook a proper meal) I am actually looking pretty good in my skivvies.
The time off also allowed me to re-evaluate my feelings about porn. I ended up reading a very interesting book by Pamela Paul called Pornified about how porn permeates north american culture. It contained many case studies of other men and how much their consumption of porn had affected their lives, which led me to draw parallels to my own, relatively minor consumption. Though I take issue with certain aspects of the book, there is no doubt that it helped reinforce my resolve, and I highly recommend it to you all.
So where do I go from here? Dare I venture back into the world of PMO? I’d be lying if I said I don’t occasionally think about it early in the morning or late at night.
I completed the 90 days on my first try, which is what I promised myself I’d do and I’m much more conscious about my habits now. I’m also very proud of my streak and would hate to see it ended. So who knows? I’m curious to hear your thoughts, those of you who’ve gone through the 90 day challenge.
I stand in the cusp of a new world, ladies and gents; I’m a different man than who I was three months ago, and I have you all to thank. Oh, and /r/getmotivated, it’s an awesome resource for nofapping and life in general, so shout out to those folks.
Thanks for reading, and good luck to you!
LINK – So it’s been 90 days…