I just finished freshman year of college. I came in with a really hot girlfriend. Sex was terrible and I ended up breaking up with her on her birthday lol because I thought it was her fault. My erections were rare, and 60% at best. I felt terrible about this, but sexual compatibility is very important and it was not right to continue a broken relationship. I slept with a few other girls and realized that the problem was not external (with girls or their vaginas) but with me.
It was not alcohol, and it was not the quality of woman. Something was broken in me and I didn’t know what until I found yourbrainonporn.
I was living in the dorms with two roommates so I didn’t have a lot of opportunities to watch porn. I usually watched it about once a month unless I had a FWB at the time, in which case I didn’t watch it at all. Three terms into college, I still had the same problems, with really fucking hot girls. I started looking into it spring term, found the yourbrainonporn website, and was pretty confused. I hadn’t ever been addicted to porn. I watched it rarely, even at home. For me, it wasn’t the porn, it was fantasizing about it and having sexual images continuously thrown at me. Once I realized this, I stopped masturbating, stopped all porn, and stopped fantasizing about anything that had previously turned me on. I stopped having sex with girls I knew and focused on my recovery. The fantasizing part was incredibly important. I couldn’t watch ads with beautiful women, think about fucking while I grinded at my parties, or even watch my favorite TV shows that had nudity. It was very difficult to block this from my mind. At first, about every 30 seconds, my subconscious would bring up some sexual image. Now, maybe once a day do I have to consciously stop myself from thinking about these things. After 1-2 months of hardcore no fantasy and no PMO I got morning wood almost every morning, and would get 100% hard if I even hugged a girl I was interested in.
TL;DR: If you want a fast, complete recovery, be hardcore. Turn away from sexual imagery, don’t fantasize, no porn, no masturbation, no girls for a while. When you start rewiring, masturbate/fuck to how good it feels, not some fantasy that turns you on. Next paragraph is about eastern remedies, continue reading if you want.
Now, I can get a 100% erection while blackout drunk and not turned on – simply by breathing. I have complete control of my erections and when I orgasm… I don’t even have to touch myself or a girl to orgasm if I want. I learned to separate orgasm and ejaculation, and this was also tremendously helpful. Ejaculating reduces my testosterone considerably. When you feel drained and tired after you cum, this is the cause. Your T levels drop after you splooge.. very much so if you masturbate with ejaculation regularly. I have a large sex drive and need to get off. Being able to orgasm without ejaculating keeps me and partners very satisfied without reducing my drive or my ability to get it up. If this concept interests you, read “The Multi-Orgasmic Man” by Mantak Chia. Half of it is about Chi and energy flows, which you can take or leave, but if you can learn what it teaches, you and your girl/man won’t regret it.
Also, try not to take ritalin/other dopamine influencing drugs. They set me back a lot
LINK – fast recovery
By rodgedodger
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