So I have been going strong for 140 days now, with one relapse in which I masturbated without porn about 40 days ago. Over these past few months, I have attempted to have sex and failed multiple times with multiple different women.
About 1.5 months ago, I met a girl that I really liked, but the two times we attempted to have sex, I was unable to. Due to the fact that we had been drinking both times.
About 2 1/2 weeks ago, I finally told her my problem and she was super understanding. I told her all about what I was doing, and that I didn’t know how long it was going to be before I would be able to have sex again, and she didn’t care. Well about a week after that, we both talked it out, and we both agreed that we wanted to start dating each other.
Over the past week or so, we have had some nights where things got pretty heated, but we both agreed to not even attempt to have sex. Well last night was the first time that we attempted to, and it was AWESOME. I was able to do it 3 times in the same night! We were both so satisfied, and I completely agree I owe it all to no fap.
Now, like everyone says, I know I am not “cured” now, but I sure as hell am doing a whole lot better. It took me a lot longer than expected, and I hit some time frames where I did not think I would ever get to this point again. I’m pretty sure I will still have my off days where I wont be able to get it up, but as of now I have an awesome girl who is willing to work around it. Honestly, every once in a while I have an urge to masturbate, but those urges are easy enough to overcome, and I have absolutely 0 interest in porn at this point.
TL;DR Was able to get an erection 3 times in one night, allowing me to successfully have sex after 140 days of nofap.
So I recently made it to 100 days. Honestly, I only think about porn/masturbating maybe once a week at this point. I find my urges very easy to control. It’s almost as if I can turn a switch off in my brain and not even think about it. I have been spending a lot more time working out, about twice a day now, and have gained a ton of good week which was my goal. Overall I’m very happy.
When I first started having erectile dysfunction issues, I was in a long-term relationship who was very understanding of my issue. Eventually I was prescribed Viagra, and it seems to have worked. I have since ended my relationship with that girl, and have been with a few girls since with one night stand type deals. I still take the Viagra whenever I think there is a possibility of sex. My fear is that I won’t be able to preform when it comes down to it.
I know at this point the issue is all in my head. At day 45 or so, I started getting morning erections again and random erections throughout the day, but often times they are not very strong and go away quickly. That is why I’m afraid to do anything without the Viagra. Not much has improved as far as the erectile dysfunction goes since day 45. Any ideas?
INITIAL POST – 6 MONTHS AGO
Well, I think I’m finally ready to admit that I have a problem. I am 23 years old, in very good shape, what I consider my self to be good looking, and suffer from ED.
Looking back, I guess I always did look at a lot of porn and just masturbate a lot in general. Just to give you a little back story, and 1.5 years ago, I did a cycle of anabolic steroids. Stupid, I know, but I’ve moved on. Shortly after that, while maintaining my heavy porn use, I noticed that my erections started to get weaker. I attributed it to coming off the steroids.
About a year ago, I got my first long term girlfriend. I’ve obviously had sex before, but never on such a regular basis. For the first 4 months, I had no problem with my erections. After about 4 months, I started to experience increased erectile dysfunction, eventually leading to complete importance. Part of my brain really wanted to have sex, but it felt as if my body just didn’t.
I eventually went to a urologist and told him my story. I assumed I was still feeling effects from the steroids. He did a full blood test, and all my numbers were in what is considered low-normal range, with exception to my LH (luteinzing hormone) which was below the normal range. I went to an endocrinologist to make sure that there was nothing wrong with my pituitary gland.
I found out that there was nothing wrong with my pituitary gland, but the eurologist didn’t want to do anything to extreme, so he tried my on Viagra. It worked great at first, but over time it started to lose it’s ability.
Well in the past month, I broke up with my girlfriend. Twords the end of our relationship, I was able to still get it up with her, but with the help of the Viagra. She knew I was having issues at one point, but I never told her I was taking the Viagra. Being back on the dating scene, I noticed I still had my problem, so I guess it’s time to make a change.
So onto my question. I am going to attempt to do the 90 day reboot. I am going to refrain from pornography all together, as well as masturbation. When the occasions arise, I will still have sexual experiences, but I am going to try to limit it to real life experiences with another person. My question is, should I continue to take the Viagra during this time frame? Honestly, right now I have just been having sexual experiences with people that I am not 100% comfortable sharing my problem with. I feel like without the Viagra, it could make for an awkward situation. Also, what about pre-mature ejaculation?
Thanks for the help in advance!