Salamualaykum all, I am currently on Day 43. I can officially say this current streak is the longest streak I have maintained since the start of my addiction. On top of all that, I have been living ALONE on campus in my own apartment! I am so proud of how far I have come and I absolutely could not have done it without this platform and this community. So I want to thank the leaders and the organizers of the Muslim Fapstronauts group.
One of the most important things for me was to establish good habits. Quitting PMO is a long-term goal so I need a long-term solution. It all started with making my bed every morning. I then moved on to wake up for Fajr prayer every morning, then I did mouthwash every morning, then cold shower. I want to add to these daily habits such as reading Quran.
These habits that I’ve developed all helped me strengthen a little muscle in my brain called self-discipline. I am much stronger than I was a month ago. Everyday I go through this routine, I go to sleep and wake up that much stronger. I am also a second year medical student, which keeps me very busy throughout the day as well.
The second thing that helped me so much was to reward myself. Success for me = no PMO. At the end of the week without PMO, I treat myself to a nice dinner. I go out with friends on Friday. After working out was the most dangerous time for me so after working out I run to the shower and turn on the freezing cold water. Not until AFTER I shower do I reward myself with a protein shake.
Here are just SOME of the benefits I have experienced:
- Increased confidence (Now I feel I have nothing to hide. I am comfortable with myself)
- Increased energy and motivation
- Healthier social life
- Increased will power and self discipline
- Mental Clarity
- Deeper emotions
- I now appreciate and enjoy the simple things in life (the beautiful sunshine, trees, birds chirping, good food, good friends, etc)
- Have not missed a single Fajr Prayer
- Am now talking with someone I am interested in for marriage
I literally cannot believe that I have made it this far. Just a little bit of background about my situation. I have been addicted to PMO for about 12 years now and have been PMOing on average every 2-3 weeks
Brothers and sisters, I do not believe this problem we all face is a problem of faith. It is a psychological condition that requires healing and therapy. We are patients that need treatment. Unfortunately, it took me 12 years to figure that out. If you are having trouble traveling this journey alone, please seek professional help via a psychologist or therapist or even an imam. We are the biggest victims here. We only hurt ourselves by doing this. Please establish LONG-TERM solutions to this problem and remember, it all starts with making your bed.
I don’t know how to start this other than by saying these 90 days have been the most difficult, rewarding, most amazing 90 days of my life. I proved to myself that I am capable of overcoming this addiction after 12 years of being addicted to PMO. 12 years of shame, lack of self confidence, emotional flatline, feeling of despair, and guilt. Anyone who thinks they can’t or who thinks they are beyond repair, I am living proof that it is possible and worth it.
What got me through was so simple: A change in environment. For medical school, I had to move away from my parent’s house to an apartment near campus where I lived alone. However, even though I was alone, there was no connection between that apartment room and my PMOing habit because I had never done it there before. In other words, there are no triggers in my apartment room. However, when I come back to my parents house, I get such a strong urge to PMO because I have a history of PMOing in my parent’s house. Its so strange how our brains work!
That was by far the most important factor that got me through but other things that helped me was going to the gym, cold showers, and rewarding myself with other pleasures like good, healthy food and going outside.
Finally, the benefits of NoFap are absolutely incredible. I can look a girl in the eye now without feeling shame. The greatest improvement came to my self-confidence and self-esteem. I lead Friday prayers, I speak my mind more freely at conference meetings and public speaking events. I am no longer afraid to say what I think. Additionally, I am Muslim and I no longer feel like I am a hypocrite when it comes to my faith. I have become more spiritual and feel emotions more strongly. I rediscovered my love for nature and the beautiful yet simple things in life like good food, sunshine, and good company. There’s less brain fog and my grades have improved in med school. My time in the gym has also paid off My 6 pack is starting to show, I am much more toned and just generally feel more masculine. Last but not least, I don’t want to brag but girls have noticed and seem much more comfortable talking to me and I can tell are attracted to me.
And there you have it. I cannot thank this platform enough for helping me through this journey. I pray that I stay strong because my journey is far from over and I pray that all of you experience similar success and even more success than I’ve experienced. Stay strong brothers and sisters!! Salaam and peace to all!