My experience has been good, but not quite what I expected.
I thought maybe I would be rock hard 100% of the time, and some sort of sexual monster capable of all the positions we’ve seen in porn.
Not the case. Yes, I can now ejaculate inside of my woman and sooooooo much better than fapping you just have no idea unless you’ve experienced it. However, it’s not automatic and I can lose focus and fail to get off at times.
Another thing I have noticed is that I go soft a little during sex, but I can still finish. I haven’t stayed 100% during sex even once so far. It seems like it deflates a little once I’ve even inside for a bit, but I still get the job done and she seems to enjoy it well enough as well. It’s just not quite what I expected.
I’ve also struggled with porn fantasy during this “new” sex thing. I don’t know why I do it, but when I get close to the end I start to fantasize about stuff that used to get me off. I use that quick mental image to push myself over the edge to orgasm. I realize this is a bad thing, and it’s something I want to stop but it feels involuntary at times. I’ve tried just letting the thoughts go when they come up but then I get performance anxiety over fear of not being able to cum without it.
What I’ve learned is that it’s best to keep sex somewhat infrequent and very special. I do better when we’ve had a ton of foreplay and I haven’t cum in a while. This is when I have been so into it that fantasy didn’t even cross my mind and all I cared about was making love. However, there’s other times when we have sex three times in a day and its more a struggle to finish.
Just some words of wisdom from a 95 day nofap streak in which I cured my PIED after 80 days and ejaculated in a woman for the first time in my life. Don’t expect miracles, take it slow, and stay the course. It’s so worth it.
And my best streak was 42 days. I know this works because I went from having ED with every girl in my life, to cumming from a blowjob. This is something that would have never happened before. I remember how amazing it felt. Not just in the moment, but for the rest of the day it was like I was on a cloud.
For whatever reason I’ve been struggling to get back there. I keep giving in to short term pleasure at the expense of long term happiness. I’ve read thousands of posts here, and spent hours and hours listening to youtube videos. I’ve been doing this for at least 3 years now, and I still have this addiction.
I know I need to break free from this, but I just can’t seem to do it.
EARLIER POST –
I decided I wasn’t happy with my life recently.
I didn’t like being 32 years old, 450 pounds, anti-social, depressed, and addicted to PMO.
For a while, I just accepted this life as my reality and didn’t even think it was possible to change. I had tried so many times in the past, and done so well, but I always went back to my old ways.
Recently I took some drastic measures. Few weeks ago I had Duodenal Switch (aggressive form of weight loss surgery) and today I decided to delete my porn stash as well, and try nofap again.
My previous best was around 42 days. I remember how much better I felt, more confident and aware. I didn’t fully fix my ED problem, but I showed progress by getting off from a blowjob, which had never happened before. Unfortunately, the chaser from the orgasm led to several months of relapse and hardcore binging. I’m just getting back in this again. This is day one for me. There’s no going back at this point. All my porn is gone. I can’t ever get it back.