Remarks of recovering user
My father is not a very studied man, and sometimes his eloquence leaves something to be desired. But he said something to me last week, “Sure, alcohol can push aside your problems for awhile. But when the booze wears off, the problems always come back. And if you’re an alcoholic, you probably made them worse.” …
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These three clips appear in this article on dopamine and addiction.
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So it’s been 5 months (or roughly 20 weeks) since I’ve last looked at porn. Here’s what’s been happening:
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Have a look at “The Road to Excess,” Chapter Six from our book Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships. It deals with porn recovery. Here’s the chapter summary, and a link to PDF of the entire chapter.
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