Vakomana vanoona zvinonyadzisira vakangobata 10, pamwero wega, asi vakawanda vanotanga kuyaruka pazera remakore 12.
Izvi zvinoreva mamiriyoni evarume munyika yose vari kutangira maitiro avo epabonde munyika yeInternet, kure nehupenyu chaihwo-hukama hwepedyo, kuti panguva iyo vanoita zvepabonde pfungwa dzavo dzatove dzakarwisana. Uye vaizoziva sei zviri nani?
Kubva pakuuya kwekukurumidza, kusununguka kwekusununguka kwepachena mu 2006, varume nevanakomana vakatora kuIndaneti maforamu neusingazivikanwi erectile kushanda uye pasi libido.
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Zvimwe zvinokonzerwa nezvinonyadzisira zvinosanganisa zvinosanganisa kunonoka, kukanganisa kuita zvepabonde, kushanda kusingakanganwiki, kushungurudzika kwevanhu, kuderedza kushushikana, uye kunetseka kurara.
Iwe ungave wakakurumidza kubvisa pfungwa yokuti zvinonyadzisira zvako zvinoshandisa chero zvakagadzirisa muuropi kana mumuviri wako, asi Gary Wilson, munyori we Uropi Hwako Pamusoro Pose, ine chirevo chikuru chekufananidza kuti zvakaoma sei kudzoka kubva mumamiriro ako ega.
Panguva yeziso rake-kuvhura NATED vachitaura, Gary anotsanangura kuti kubvunza kuti varume vanofunga kuti zvinonyadzisira zvavakakanganisa sei kwakafanana nekukumbira hove izvo zvinofunga nezvemvura.
Kana iwe wakakomberedzwa nechimwe chinhu kwenguva yakareba kudaro, haunzwisise kuti ungazviona, uye ungasarangarira zvawakanga wakaita kare.
Kutaura na UNILAD, Gary Wilson vakati:
Kudya zvokudya zvisingabatsiri zvinowanzoitwa, sezvakangoita kusvuta kwaimbova. Zvinotora makumi emakore kuti zvikwanise kunzwisisa zvikwereti zvezviitiko zvinowanzoitika. Tiri kungoona mberi kwepamuviri yemigumisiro yekukura nekushambadzira kusagadzikana kwepabonde zvekuita zvepabonde, uye kukwanisa kuwedzera kukura kwezvinhu zvakanyanya.
Hapana munhu anoziva zvizere mhedzisiro yacho. Sezvineiwo, kune hombe uye iri kukura pasirese kufamba kwe (zvikuru) majaya asiri echitendero anobvisa porn nekuda kwezvakanaka zvinotaurwa nevezera ravo.
Ndakataura kune aimbova muropa wepabonde uye YouTuber Gabriel Deem uyo anoita mavhidhiyo kutsigira vamwe vachiedza 'kudzoreredza' uropi hwavo kubva mukunyanyisa kushandisa zvinonyadzisira.
Gabriel akatsanangura kugona kwe porn kuona rewire yeuropi yekumutsa matunhu maererano nechido, ichikonzera kumutswa nemapikisheni pachiratidziro kupesana nevanhu chaivo.
Izvi zvinogona kufananidzwa nekuedza kwakakurumbira kwakaitwa naIvan Pavlov umo iye akagadziridza imbwa yake kuti igare pakudya pakunzwika bhero. Pano pano varume vanoita zvepabonde kuti vafunge mafoni avo nemakombiyuta zvinoreva zvepabonde, uye pakupedzisira hazvizove sekunakidzwa kana kumutswa nechinhu chaicho.
Panyaya yembwa yaPavlov, mumashoko aGabriel, 'mukomana uyu anongomira mumucheka netirauzi rake mumakumbo ake'.
Gabriel akaudza UNILAD:
Zviratidzo zvepanyama zvinogona kumuka kubva mukushandisa zvinonyadzisira ndezvi: erectile kudzvinyirira, uko nhengo yako inoshanda ne porn, asi kwete nemunhu chaiye; kunonoka ejaculation, uko kunotora mukomana zvachose kuti cum, kana hazvigoneke, uye anofanirwa kuzvipedzisa neruoko rwake, kana kungafanira kufunga nezve porn kusvika kumagumo. Kana usisiri kudzika tende mangwanani iyo inogona kunge iri mureza mutsvuku wauri kuvandudza dambudziko.
Migumisiro yepfungwa inosanganisira: kufungidzira zvido zvepabonde (kuwedzera kusvika mutsva, mhando dzakanyanyisa kuti dzive nemafungiro akafanana neurourochemical), uropi hwehupfungwa (husingashandisi chiyeuchidzo), kunetseka kuisa pfungwa, kusazvibata / kunetseka kwakanyanya, kuwedzera kwehurombo hwevanhu, kuoma kurara.
Rinda Gabrieri achitaura pamusoro Chelsea Handler's Netflix hurukuro yekuratidzira.
Chiitiko chezvesayenzi cheColidlidge chaiwo chiri kutamba kana zvichisvika kune varume vanonyadzisira vanonyadzisa: mhuka dzevanhu dzinozviratidza kufarira zvepabonde kana zvichitaurirwa nehutano hwepabonde hutsva mukupesana nekuderera kwake kwepabonde kwepabonde kwekuita zvepabonde kakawanda pamwe chete nomudzimai mumwe chete.
Paunenge uchiona zvinonyadzisira, panogona kuve nemavhidhiyo asingaverengeke pasi pematafura asingaverengeke. Gomba rinoita serisina kudzika rekushushikana kwekunzwa kutenderera kubva kumagumo kwavo.
Munhu angave-munhu wehupenyu angasvika sei pedyo nechero ye dopamine yakasunungurwa?
Muna wake NATED Kutaura, Gary anotsanangura kuchinja kwemakemikari kunoitika muuropi kana mumwe munhu akapindwa muropa kune chero chii, kusanganisira zvinonyadzisira.
Chokutanga kune dopamine surges inobva pakuwedzerwa kushandiswa, yakateverwa nekuunganidza kweuropi chemakemikari Delta-FosB (inokosha mukugadzirwa kwezvinodhaka) iyo inokurudzira kuenderera mberi nekubvumira.
Kana binging ichienderera mberi, ipapo Delta FosB inovaka uye inogona kutungamirira kuuropi kuchinja kunoonekwa kune vose vanokanganisa kusanganisira kufara kunofadza kupindura, hyper-reactivity kune zvinonyadzisira (apo zvinhu zvose zviri muhupenyu zvinoratidzika zvisina kunaka, asi zvinonyadzisira zvinonakidza), uye -kudzivirira simba.
Mamwe magwaro anoratidza kuti Delta FosB inovaka inowira pasi pedenga rechitanhatu kusvika kuchisere yevhiki yekudzivisa kubva kune zvinonyadzisira zvinonzwisisika kuti sei vanhu vazhinji vachiona kuvandudzwa kukuru kana vachisvika kumavhiki masere.
Zvinonyadzisira zvinokonzera kushanduka kwakafanana kwemuviri muuropi sekudya, heroin, kana zvimwe zvinodhaka.
Zvakaoma kuziva kuti yakawandisa zvakadii nekuti kunyanyisa kushandiswa kwezvinonyadzisira chinhu chinoenderana nekushivirira kwemunhu uye kemesitiri yeuropi.
Nzira yakanakisisa yekuziva kana (uye sei) iyo inokukuvadza ndeyekuedza kuidzura kwemwedzi mishomanana nekucherechedza chero shanduko.
Kudzoreredza kubva kune zviratidzo zvekunyanyisa kwepabonde zvinotora ingangoita mwedzi mishanu kusvika minomwe yevechidiki majaya, kana zvishoma semwedzi miviri yevakuru varume. Varume mune avo makumi maviri ekutanga makore havasi kudzoreredza hutano hwavo erectile nekukurumidza sevakuru vakomana nekuti ivo vakatanga kutarisa yakakwira-mhanya porn apo uropi hwavo hwaive pakakwirira dopamine kugadzirwa uye neuroplasticity, nepo varume vakuru vakafumurwa kwazviri mune inotevera nhanho yehupenyu.
Gary akaudza UNILAD:
Kutendeseka, hapana chisingagoneki porn user anoziva kuti zvinomubata sei kusvikira achipa kwenguva yakareba. A 25 ane makore emakore uyo ave achiita bonhora zuva rega rekuona zvinonyadzisira kubva muzera re 12 angasazoziva kuti angadai akaita sei pasina iyo. Vamwe vangave vasina kugadziriswa zvachose.
Usamirira vadzidzisi kuti vakuudze zvinokonzerwa neIndaneti kushandiswa. Sezvo nekusvuta, zvinogona kuva
makumi emakore zvisati zvaitika izvo zvinonyatsozivikanwa. Kana iwe uchifunga kuti iwe unogona kuchinjwa, ita iwe pachako kuedza nekubvisa kushandiswa kwepabonde kwemwedzi mishomanana.
Kana usingazivi kuti kuita zvepabonde kwako kwakagadziriswa nokuti iwe hauna kuita zvepabonde, edza kuita bonhora nehupenzi, uye pane imwe nguva uedze kuita bonhora kunze kwepabonde, vanoita zvepabonde, kana kuyeuka zvinonyadzisira. Kana kukamiswa kwako uye kumutsa kusati kuripo panguva yechipiri, unogona kunge uchirikurira dambudziko.
Kune vakomana vazhinji, mifananidzo yehupenzi pahupenyu hwavo chete inopinda mubvunzo kana kushamwaridzana kwehukama hwevanhu hunovamanikidza kuti vafunge.
Ndichiri kubvunzurudza nyanzvi, zvakava pachena kuti vanhu vava kunyanya kuvimba nehupenzi kuti vakwanise kuita bonde, kubvisa hukama hwepedyo hwehupenyu, uye kuisa kunetseka kukuru pahukama.
Mukuwedzera kune zvinoitika mumuviri kune varume, pane zvakakosha zvemagariro evanhu nemafungiro anobva kuzvinoona zvepabonde.
Iwe wakaona kangani hutano hwepabonde huri pamusoro pekufadzwa kwevakadzi?
Indaneti inodhaka nyanzvi uye nyanzvi yepfungwa Todd L. Love anotsanangura kuti:
Kunze kwekukakavara kwekupindwa muropa, zvinoita sekusingarambiki kuti kugara uchiona zvinonyadzisira kunogadzira tarisiro dzisiri dzechokwadi dzekugona kwavo kuita, basa remumwe munhu (achitora hetero, muviri wechikadzi), uye ndezvipi zviito 'zvakajairika', pamwe nemiviri yavo ( Vakomana vese vane hukuru hukuru).
Vechidiki vechidiki vanogona kuenda kunopa mazano vachinzwa vakavhiringidzika uye vane mhosva yekuita dzimwe nzira dzechisimba 'dzekuita' dzavaigara vachiona muhupombwe (kudzipwa, kupombonoka, kana kuita zvimwe zvekuita bonde nevanasikana vavo). Asi vakazviita nekuti ndizvo zvavakakurira vachiona, kwete hazvo nekuti ivo vane hukasha vakasikwa nevakadzi.
Saizvozvowo, vakadzi vechidiki vari kuenda kunopa mazano vachinzwa vakavhiringidzika pane zvavakaita, kana kunzwa kuti vanofanirwa kuita, kuitira kufadza vakomana vavo. Vazhinji vanoziva intuititive kuti zvimwe zvezviito hazvisi 'zvakajairika' zvekuita bonde, asi hapana munhu akavaudza kudaro, saka ivo vakaita kwavo kusagadzikana panyama uye nemanzwiro.
A kudzidza kubva kuYunivhesiti yeNebraska inoverenga: 'Vakawana avo vakaona porn vadiki vaigona kunge vachibvumirana nezvakataurwa zvinotsigira hutongi hwevanhurume, senge zvinhu zvinowanzo kuve zvirinani kana varume vari kutonga'.
Kune nzanga dze 'Fapstronauts'uye mapeji uye mapeji yekudzorera nyaya. Poshi 24-ane makore ane makore makumi matanhatu anotsanangura kuti pasinei nekukwirira kwepamusoro uye kukanganisa, akashandura kujekesa kwemafungiro, kusununguka kubva kune mhosva uye kunyadziswa, kuvimba kwakanyanya, kuzvikurudzira, kuzvikudza, hupfumi hwepfungwa, kusimba, nekusimudzira.
Zano kune avo vanoda kuregera zvinonyadzisira ndekushandisa, kushamwaridzana, kufungisisa, uye kutsvaka rubatsiro kubva kune vamwe vari kuedza zvakafanana.
Zvimwe zvikomborero zvekusiya zvinonyadzisira, zvakataurwa nevaya vakabudirira zvinosanganisira: kuregererwa kwematambudziko epabonde, kuwedzerwa simba, kuderedza kushungurudzika kwevanhu, kuwedzera mafungiro, kuderedza kushungurudzika, kutarisa vakadzi zvakanyanya, nekuda zvikuru kuva muukama hune rudo.
Zvinonyadzisira zvinotora chido chechisikigo chevanhu uye chinotyaira zvekuita zvepabonde uye ukama hwepedyo kubva kuvanhu, uye huchitungamira pahwindo.
Kune vamwe, kushandisa zvinonyadzisira hakuzokanganisa hupenyu hwako, asi kana uchizopedza maawa ehupenyu hwako uchiita chimwe chinhu, zvakakodzera kuti uzvidzidzise nezvazvo.
Zvinonyadzisira zvinodhaka kuziva zviri kuwedzera, kunyange iwe usati. Kushanya Porn Help, Reboot Nation, kana Kwete Fap kuti uwane mamwe ruzivo uye rubatsiro.
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