Jonny, 27, anobva kuCambridgeshire anoti aive akapindwa muropa nekuona zvinonyadzisira pazera remakore gumi nemaviri- Anoremekedza zvinonyadzisira zvakamukurudzira kuti asvibise vakadzi vaaibatanidzwa
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Nguva yaunosangana naJonny Adams, iye anosimuka semunhu anoremekedzeka, ane hanya. Nekutanga kwekirasi yechikoro mubhizimisi yemitambo yemagetsi uye nemukomana akanaka-musuo mutsva kutarisa kwakanaka, ndiye zvose zvaunogona kutarisira kuti mwanakomana wako kana mukwambo wako wemangwana angave.
Asi iyo inoparidzirwa nekupararira kwekuona zvinonyadzisira izvo, ne12, Jonny aive akapindwa muropa nekutsvaira kwema internet.
Sezvo akakurira muzera rekutanga revana vane rusununguko rusununguko rwekutengesa zvinonyadzisira, ari kutaura kuti ataure kuti kwete chete tinofanira kunyevera vanakomana vedu pamusoro pemigumisiro yakaipa yehupombwe - tinofanira kutaurirawo vanasikana vedu.
Jonny Adams, iye zvino 27, anoratidza kuti kukura nekusununguka kusununguka kunonyadzisira kunofadza ukama hwake nevakadzi nehutano hwepfungwa. Iye zvino akazvipupurira zvachose uye anotarisira kunyevera vamwe
Nokuti sezvo Jonny, 27, achiratidza nechisimba, zvinonyadzisira zvave zvakanyanya kudarika nzira yakasimba zvikuru yekudzidzisa zvepabonde muupenyu hwevechidiki. Yakavawo temberi ye nzira iyo varume vaduku vanoona uye vanobata vakadzi.
Izvi zvinotambudza zvakapiwa kuti nhoroondo yeNSPCC yakangobva kuwanikwa inenge inenge gumi muzana 12 nevana vane makore gumi nemana vekare vane kutya vanotengesa.
Sokutaura kwaJonny: 'Zvinonyadzisa zvakandiisa kumucheto, zvichikonzera kushungurudzika, kuora mwoyo uye pfungwa dzisingabatsiri zvepabonde pamusoro pemukadzi wese wandinotarira.
'Yaivawo nekunakidza kusinganzwisisiki munzira yandakaona nhengo yese yevasikana. Zvinonyadzisa hazvina kungoparadza rugare rwangu rwepfungwa. Zvakandidzivisa kuona vakadzi sevanhu. '
Kana izvi zvingaitika kune iri tsime rakakwidzwa, jaya rakangwara kwazvo, rinogona kuitika kune ani zvake.
Akakurira mumusha unofadza mumusha unoyevedza muCambridgeshire, Jonny aiva mwana ane ushamwari, achibuda achifarira mitambo uye anonyanya kudzidza mune zvedzidzo. Sezvo iye akapinda muhucheche, sevakomana vakawanda vezera rake, akatanga kutanga kuziva nezvevakomana nevasikana.
'Zvinonyadzisa zvakandiunza kumucheto, zvichikonzera kushushikana, kushushikana uye pfungwa dzepabonde dzinokanganisa pamusoro pemukadzi wese wandinotarisa, anodaro Jonny, uyo anobvuma zvinonyadzisira aive' nekuzvidza 'munzira yaakaona vakadzi
Jonny akarova kuyaruka panguva iyo porn payakatanga kuve nyore uye nekukurumidza kuwanikwa paInternet. 'Mhuri yangu yaive nekombuta uye mushure mekuchikoro ndaive neawa yekuuraya mai vangu vasati vadzoka kumba'
Misiyano ndeyekuti Jonny akayaruka achiri kuyaruka panguva iyo apo zvinonyadzisira zvakatanga zviri nyore uye zvakakurumidza kuwanika paIndaneti.
'Mhuri yangu yakanga ine kombiyuta uye mushure mekuchikoro ndaiva neawa yekuuraya ndisati amai vangu vadzokera kumba vachibva kubasa rake semudzidzisi,' anodaro.
'Ndakanga ndave ndakaziviswa kuvasikana vasina nguo kunze kwehama dzangu dzehanzvadzi dzehanzvadzi, saka hazvina nguva refu ndisati ndave kutora machira uye ndichitsvaga zvimwe zvandaigona kuwana nekuda kwewebhu.'
Pakazosvika 14, Jonny akanga apiwa kombiyuta yekuchikoro kwake, achimubvumira kuti afambe paIndaneti ari oga muimba yake yekurara. Pakutanga, anoti anoti aona maitiro e "zvekare" zvepabonde. Asi nguva pfupi yakareba internet yakamutungamirira mumigwagwa isina rima raisati rawanikwa mumazuva apo kusangana chete kwekuona zvinonyadzisira kwaiva pamusoro pepamusoro.
Paakaenda kuyunivhesiti, Jonny akatova nerusununguko rwakawanda rwekuita tsika yake, uye akatanga kutarisa zvinonyadzisira kusvika kana pazuva. Asi vasikana vakamuwisira havana kuziva kuti porn yaibata sei nzira yaakavabata nayo
'My kuravira zvinonyadzisira kwakazogutsika,' anodaro. 'Chii chakandipa kukanda uye nekugutsa kushuva kwangu rimwe zuva hazvina kushanda zvinotevera. Pasina nguva, ndakafambiswa mukutarisa zvimwe zvinhu zvakajeka kuti ndigadzirise zvakafanana '
'Kutamba kwangu kwepabonde kwakava kusagadzikana,' anodaro. 'Chii chakandipa chikwereti uye chakagutsa kuda kwangu rimwe zuva harina kushanda rinotevera.
'Pandaiyaruka, internet yakabva kune imwechete-kusvika ku-broadband uye mifananidzo yakadzika yepabonde yakava masayiti ane mapeji ari pamapeji ekurarama-mavhidhiyo mavhidhiyo.'
Anowedzera kuti: "Pasina nguva, ndakatungamirirwa kuti ndione zvinhu zvakajeka kuti ndigadzire zvakafanana - zvifananidzo zvakaratidzwa kuti zvionekwe sekubatwa chibharo, uye zviratidzo zvinonyadzisa zvevarume vanofamba vachipoteredza musikana mumwe chete.
'Sezvo ndaishanda zvakaoma kuchikoro uye ndakawana mavara akanaka muongororo dzangu, vabereki vangu havana kumboona chero chikonzero chekutarisa kwandiri, saka havana kumbogadzira mafiritsi emakombiyuta. Vakanga vasingazivi kuti chii chakanga chiripo pachena. '
Jonny aiwanzoshandura nyaya dzezviito zvakanyanya zvaakaona neshamwari dzake kuchikoro zuva raitevera.
'Ndakazvivanza kuvabereki vangu, hongu, asi pakati pehama dzangu kwakanga kusina mhosva kana kunyara,' anodaro.
Pana 21 uye aine degree, Jonny akawana basa rake reroto semugadziri ane timu yeFormula One inomhanya mota timu. Asi pachinzvimbo chekunzwa ari pamusoro penyika, akange ave kunetsekana nezvekubata porn kwaive pamusoro pake
'Ndakazviona ndine mukana wekukura panguva yaunogona kuwana zvinonyadzisira kune rusununguko paunobata bhodhi. Kwakanga kusina kumira kwandaigona kuona. '
Kunyange zvakadaro, pakanga pachatova nemutengo unobhadharwa - uye kwete Jonny chete. Kunyangwe asati ataura musikana wake wokutanga, zvinonyadzisira zvaifadza maonero avakadzi. 'Zvinonyadzisa zvakakonzera kukuvadza kunoshamisa munzira yandakaona vasikana nokuti mavhidhiyo akavaratidza sezvinhu izvo basa raifanira kushandiswa uye rinotungamirirwa nevanhu.
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Muvhuro ndiro zuva rakakurumbira zvikuru rekuona zvinonyadzisira, rinoti internet data, uye January mwedzi unozivikanwa zvikuru.
'Mushure mokunge ndarasikirwa nemhandara yangu pa16, ndakafananidza musikana wese wandakavata naye kune avo vandakaona pahwindo. Ndaizovaseka neshamwari dzangu kana miviri yavo isina kurarama maererano nemafungiro angu akakwirira. '
Paakaenda kuyunivhesiti, Jonny aive norusununguko rwakawanda rwekuita tsika yake, uye akatanga kutarisa zvinonyadzisira kusvika kanomwe pazuva. Kunyange zvakadaro vasikana vakawira nekuda kwechiso chake chakatarisa vakanga vasingazivi kuti zvinonyadzisira zvakakanganisa nzira yaaibata nadzo.
'Kuita zvepabonde kwandiri kwakanga kusati kwambova neukama hwepedyo kana rudo. Ndakazviona semukana wekutamba izvo zvandakaona pahwindo, "anodaro.
'Ndaive ndichitonga. Ndaizoita kuti vasikana vaite zvinhu zvakandishandura pane zviso. Zvaiva zvose maererano nezvandinoda, kwete zvavo. '
Zvinoshamisa, Jonny haana kumbopikisana zvikuru nezvikumbiro zvake. 'Vasikana vaiita sevanoziva zvandaitarisira - zvichida pakuona zvinonyadzisira,' anodaro.
Akakombwa navamwe varume vechidiki vakakurira pamwe chete nemafungiro akafanana, hapana maitiro ake aiita seasina kujairika.
Akakurira mumusha unofadza mumusha unoyevedza muCambridgeshire, Jonny aiva mwana ane ushamwari, achibuda achifarira mitambo uye anonyanya kudzidza mune zvedzidzo. Asi nezera 12, Jonny aive akapindwa muropa kune zvakanyanya-core internet filth
'Vose vakaroorana vakaita zvakafanana,' anodaro. 'Isu tose tinoremekedza vakadzi nekutaura kumwechete kwekutonga. Vasikana vacho havana kumboziva, asi misogyny yaityisa.
'Zvave zvakaoma kuona kuti tingawana sei vasikana kuti vaite, saka tinogona kuzvikudza. Takanyengetedza vasikana kutumira mifananidzo isina kupfeka yekuti isu takavimbisa kuchengetedza pakavanzika, asi izvo zvatakachengetedza pafoni dzedu ndokubva taratidzana. '
PaC21 uye nedhigirii, Jonny akaisa basa rake reroto semuumbi weTimemula One motokari yemotokari.
Asi pachinzvimbo chekunzwa ari pamusoro penyika, aive achishushikana nehupenzi hwepabonde dzakanga dzava pamusoro pake, nokuti yakanga yatanga kuchinja hutano hwake hwepfungwa.
Uyewo kumuita kuti awedzere kudiwa kwevakadzi, zvinonyadzisira zvakare zvakaita kuti azvidzivirire iye pachake. 'Ndakanga ndiri 14 pandakacherechedza kuti ndakanga ndisingazombofanani nevarume vaikwikwidza ne 12 inch manhoods ndakaona pamakombiyuta yangu,' anodaro.
'Somugumisiro, ndakanzwa kunyadziswa ndakaedza kusaita kuonekwa ndakashama mumvura pashure pematambo ebhora.
'Panguva yandakatanga basa rangu rokutanga, kusachengeteka kwandakanga ndisina kukwana kwakava kwakaipa. Ndainzwa ndisina kuchengeteka ndakavhiringidzika zvisingabatsiri pandakaita zvepabonde.
Anoti, 'Vamwe vangu vese vakaita zvakafanana. 'Isu tese tinoisa pasi vakadzi vane zvakafanana maonero ekutonga. Vasikana havana kumboziva, asi misogyny yaishamisa '
'Ndingadai ndakatya zvikuru zvokuti ndaizopedza manheru mushure mokunge ndasvika kumba ndichibva kubasa ndichitsvaga webhu kuti ndiite zvitsva zvinondimutsa uye kundisimbisa kuti hapana chakaipa.
'Shure kwaizvozvo, ndakanzwa zvisinganzwisisiki-ndakanzwa ndakashata uye ndoga.'
Zvinonyadzisira zvakanga zvashungurudza nzira yavo kusvika kure muuropi hwake zvokuti zvakakanganisa pfungwa dzake paakaona mukadzi.
'Ndakanga ndava nehuputi hwepurasitiki dzakadai kuti dai ndaikurira bhodhi remukadzi, ndaizotanga kufungidzira,' anodaro.
'Kana ndikasangana nemudzimai akanga akwegura kana kuti akaroora uye ini ndakanga ndisingafariri zvepabonde, zvisingamudikanwi mifananidzo yake yepabonde zvaizouya mumusoro mangu.'
Jonny akarova dombo pasi pa 24. 'Ndakaichengeta chakavanzika, asi mukati ndainge ndaora mwoyo. Ndakanga ndasiyawo tariro yekuti ndaizowana rudo. Ndaifunga kuti hukama hwakanga husina maturo. '
Jonny akarova dombo pazera ramakore makumi maviri nemana. 'Ndakanga ndarasa tariro yekuzombowana rudo. Ini ndaitenda kuti hukama hwakanga husina zvazvinoreva '
Gary Wilson, munyori webhuku idzva rinonzi Your Brain On Porn, anoti Jonny akatevera muenzaniso wevarume vechidiki wakamutswa pane zvinonyadzisira.
Asi anotaura kuti nyanzvi dziri kungosimudzirwa kuti zvinonyadzisira zvinokanganisa utano hwepfungwa. Zviratidzo zvinogona kusanganisira kuzvidya mwoyo, kuora mwoyo, kuzviuraya, kusachengeteka uye matambudziko kugadzira ukama.
Vaduku uye vakomana vashoma vanoona zvinonyadzisira, zvakanyanya kunyora zvidzidzo zvavanodzidza kuva. Kufunga nezvekuchiva kwemazuva ose kwakaratidzwa kuvhiringidza vechidiki vanoshandisa zvinonyadzisira kuenda kune zvakanyanya kutengesa, inofungidzira.
Wilson, uyo akadzidza kuti zvinonyadzisira zvinokanganisa sei neuro-sayenzi yeuropi, inoti: 'Kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti vaduku ndevaya apo vakomana vanotanga kushandisa zvinonyadzisira, vanowanzove vachida kuona zvinhu zvakanyanyisa.
'Mukusarudzwa kwehurumende kwe2012 yezhinji vechidiki, 63 muzana vakabvumirana kuti: "Kuda kwangu kwakanyanya kuwedzerwa kana kusakanganisika." Hafu yaifunganya nezvayo.
Mukuda kusununguka pachake kubva kune zvinodhaka zvake zvepabonde, mu 2011, Jonny akatanga kuenda kuchechi yake yega, kwaakagadzira shamwari itsva.
'Ndakatanga kutarisa kumashure kwoupenyu hwangu uye ndoona hutsvene hwevanhu vanoita basa,' anodaro.
'Ndakaona kuti zvepabonde chinhu chinokosha pakati pevanhu vaviri. Ndaikwanisa kutaura nevanhu vakagamuchira izvo zvandakanga ndaita uye vakatsigira ini zvisinei. '
Muna 2012, Jonny akasiya basa rake nokuti aida kuita chimwe chinhu chakakosha ndokuva mushandi wechidiki, achibatsira vechidiki kugadzirisa nyaya imwe chete.
Mumakore matatu kubva ipapo, haana kutarisa pazvinonyadzisira, asi anobvuma kuti: 'Zvave zvakaoma kurwisa kusununguka. Kusvikira munguva pfupi yapfuura ndakanga ndichiri nemafuta emamwe mavhidhiyo andakaona. '
Jonny anonyanya kunetseka pamusoro pemigumisiro inowanika pachena yepa porn inogona kuva nezera rinotevera, ndiani anogona kuiona maawa 24 pazuva pamafoni akachenjera. 'Ndinowanzosangana nevechidiki vasingafungi nezvekuratidzana mifananidzo yakajeka pamafoni avo evasikana vanofunga kuti vanofanira kuisa vasina kupfeka kuti vafarire.
'Sezvandakaita, vakomana ava havaoni zvinonyadzisira sechinhu chakaipa - kwete, zvakadaro. Ndinoda kutaurira chizvarwa ichi, uye chinotevera, kuti zvinonyadzisira hazvina kunaka zvinonakidza. Ndinotya nekuda kwevasikana vachikura nevarume vanoita nenzira yandakaita.
'Zvinoshungurudza nenzira dzakawanda kudarika vanhu vanoziva uye zvinogona kuita zvinokuvadza zvisingaverengeki.'
Tanith Carey ndiye munyori weVasikana, Vasina Kunetseka: Matanho Okuvaka Vakadzi Vakasimba Munyika Inonetsa (Icon Books, £ 7.99).
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