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Muchikoro chesekondari, nyika yekuona zvinonyadzisira yakazarurwa neIndaneti yakakurumidza-yakwanisa kuona kamwe kamwe mawebhusayithi akawanda panguva imwechete, inogona kutsvaga fetese dzakasiyana uye kutarisa mavhidhiyo e hardcore. Gabe neshamwari dzake dzimwe nguva vaiona zvinonyadzisira pamwechete-kunyange kuchikoro.
Panguva iyoyo, Gabe haana kufunga nezvemhando yake. Zvechokwadi, rimwe zuva raisawanzoenda kunze pasina iye akatarisa. Asi yakanga yakafanana nemamwe mhizha iyo yaidya, yakadai semitambo yemavhidhiyo kana terevhizheni. Kunze kwekuti, vakawanda vevechiri kuyaruka vakazviita, uye aida kuziva, zvakare.
Zvisinei, apo Gabe aive mukoroji, chimwe chinhu chishamisa chakaitika. Pose paaiedza kuita zvepabonde nemusikana wake, haaigona. Sezvaakanaka sezvaaiva, haaikwanisa kumutswa. Erectile dysfunction pa 23? Gabe haana kunzwisisa.
"Kwakanga kwakaita semweya wangu wakanga uchibvarura kubva kwandiri," Gabe akati. "Ndakanga ndisiri kushushikana kwekuita, ndakanga ndisingadi kutya, ndaiziva kuti yaifanira kunge iri zvinonyadzisira. Zvechokwadi, pandakatanga kutarisa zvinonyadzisira, ndaizobva ndawana erection. Ndiyo panguva iyo ndakasarudza kumisa ... zvinonyadzisira zvaive kuita zvakawanda kuhuropi hwangu kupfuura zvandaifunga. "
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"Iri ibhizimusi-dollar yemabhizimisi, rimwe rava kupararira kupfuura kare," akadaro Wendy Maltz, mushandi wepabonde kubva Eugene.
Maltz ndiye munyori webhuku The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide Kukurira Zvinetso Zvinokonzerwa Nezvinonyadzisira. Maltz akatanga kunyora bhuku mushure mekunge aona tsika yakawanda mumutambo wake, chimwe chinhu chaakanga asina kumboona: Vatengi vakatanga kutamira muhofisi yake nezvinetso zvakonzerwa nekuona zvinonyadzisira-zvichida murume aizouya achizviti kusava nemafungiro asina kunaka kune zvinonyadzisira, kana mukadzi aizobvuma kuti akanga akapindwa muropa neIndaneti. Maltz inofungidzira izvi zvichiitika pakuuya kweInternet-speed.
"Zvinonyadzisira zvakashandura pane chimwe chinhu chatakashandisa senzira yekuwedzera zvimwe zvinonhuwira kuhupenyu hwako hworudo, kune chimwe chinhu chisingakwanisi kuitwa nevanhu vasingazivikanwe - chero nguva, chero kupi zvako ... zvakafanana nemavhiringidzi ari kutengesa kubva padenga," akadaro.
Pakave nekukakavadzana kwakakura pamusoro pekuti zvinonyadzisira hazvina kunaka here? Inogona kunzi kudhakwa? Inogona kunge yakangofanana nekudhakwa kwekodineine, kubhejera kana doro here? Zvinogona here kubudisa zvinonyadzisira zvinokonzerwa neErectile Gabe?
Maltz anotenda saizvozvo.
"Ndinotenda kuti yakafanana nedzimwe mhando dzomufaro, dzakadai sewaini kana zvinodhaka," Waltz akati. "Heck, kana ndakanga ndaita zvepabonde nekombiyuta yangu, handingambomira."
Gabe anotenda shoko rokuti "kusvuta" pacharo rinogona kuvhiringidza. Kunyangwe zvichinyatsova chidhakwa kana kwete, akati, zvirokwazvo zvinotakura migumisiro. Panzvimbo pezvo, Gabe anoda kuisa pfungwa pane zvinonyadzisira zvinokurudzirwa zvakashata zvinoshandura hutano hwevanhu.
"Uropi hunova nemafashamo nekumutsa mifananidzo nemavhidhiyo," Gabe akati. "Uye iyo inokurudzira pfungwa yako, uye handifungi kuti inogona kukugutsa iwe."
Uye kune tsvakurudzo inoratidza kuti Gabe angave akarurama. Mitchell Moffit naGregory Brown we AsapSCIENCE akaita vhidhiyo iyi, "Sayansi Yezvinonyadzisira," mune zvavanotaura nezvezvinogona kuchinja muuropi hunoitika apo munhu anotarisa zvinonyadzisira. Kuita zvepabonde kunoburitsa dopamine muhupano hwedu - kemikemikari inotikurudzira kuita zviito zvakakosha kuti tipone: kudya, kudzidzira uye kunyange kutora. Saka, patinosangana nepamusoro ye dopamine muhutano hwedu, ubongo hwedu hukurukurirana "zvakawanda, zvizhinji, zvizhinji," kuisa nzira yekuita zvinodhaka.
Kunyange zvazvo isiri chinhu chepanyama, Moffit naBrown vanoti chokwadi chokuti zvinonyadzisira zvinokonzera mafambiro aya anofadza zvakananga tinoreva kuti tinoita mune dzimwe nzira dzakafanana sekuti tinoda kumushonga-tinokudziridza kushivirira kwazviri, izvo zvingatikatira kuti tiongorore mifananidzo yakawanda uye yakaipisisa kugutsa chido chedu chepabonde - uye isu tinokwanisa kukura kuregera kwenguva yakati kana tikangoerekana tisi kushandisa.
Chiitiko chaGabe nekuona zvinonyadzisira chingave chirevo chemashoko ehurukuro. Kwaari, yakasvika pane imwe nzvimbo apo zvinonyadzisira hazvina kungova chinhu chinokanganisa, asi chimwe chinhu chaaisagona kuita kunze.
"Yakatanga nemifananidzo yevasikana vasina kupfeka, saka zvinhu zvinyorofa, ipapo mavhidhiyo akaoma. Izvozvo zvakaguma kusvika pane imwe nguva pandakanga ndichitarisa zvinhu zvandakanga ndisingadi kutarisa, nokuda kwekukoshesa kukosha. "
"Sayenzi Yezvinonyadzisira" haingotauri chete nezvekuona zvinonyadzisira kunhu, asiwo kukwanisa kwayo "kuumba zvatinoda uye zvido zvedu."
Nokuti zvinonyadzisira zvine simba, Carol Stabile, mutungamiriri we Chikamu cheChidzidzo chevakadzi muSosaiti, inotaura kuti maitiro ekuona zvinonyadzisira anogona kunyatsoshandiswa kwatiri. Kuti kuve kwakanyarara, kune zvakawanda zvisingagoni kubviswa muhupenyu hwezvinonyadzisira. Mukati, anofunga, anogona kushandiswa senzvimbo yekudzidzisa varume nevakadzi. Dambudziko racho, iye akati, iyo iyo inowanzoita zvinonyadzisira inotanga kune vateereri chaivo: varume. Izvo zvinowedzerawo zvisingatarisirwi kutarisira zvepabonde.
Panzvimbo yekubudisa zvinonyadzisira umo varume nevakadzi vose vanogutsikana zvakafanana, zvinonyanya kuitika zvepabonde zvinowedzera kuwedzeredza hukadzi hwemadzimai (anogara achibuda panguva yekupinda) uye anokudza simba remukomana uye mufaro. Mukadzi haasi kuonekwa zvakadai sesimbi yakasimba yepabonde pachake; panzvimbo pacho, anova chinhu chinotarisirwa kuita zvepabonde yapera.
"Sechikadzi, ini nguva dzose ndave ndakabatwa pakati pezvidzidzo zvepabonde uye zvepabonde zvakasununguka zvekuona zvinonyadzisira - uyezve kunewo kushandiswa zvakanyanya kudzvinyirira," Stabile akati. "Asi ndinofunga kuti ndezvechokwadi kuti vana vakawanda 'kutaura nezvepabonde ndezvekuona zvinonyadzisira - zvinosvikeka, zvinogara zviripo, zvinowanzoitika. Uye ini handifungi kuti izvi zvakanaka. Ndinofunga zvekuona zvinonyadzisira, semamwe mhando dzevhidhiyo, dzine zvimiridzo zvisiri izvo uye tsika. Kana iyi ndiyo yekutanga kuratidza zvepabonde, zvinonetsa. "
April Haynes, yunivhesiti yeOregon zvezvepabonde, anozobvumirana naStabile asi anozvitora zvakare, achitaura kuti kuparadzaniswa ndizvo izvo indasitiri yezvinonyadzisira inoshayikana zvikuru. Unhu hwayo hwekudzivirira hahutibvumiri kuti tive sevanhu vane simba zvepabonde.
"Pakupedzisira, ndinoshuva kuti hurumende yepabonde inosanganisira mikana yakasiyana yepabonde" akadaro Haynes. "Iye zvino, iwe unowanzoona nzvimbo imwe chete ichibudiswa kakawanda - vose vanomutswa pakarepo, pane kukurumidza kupindira uye orgasm inongoerekana iri. Ndinofunga kuti tinofanira kufungidzira kuti zvepabonde zviri munzira yakawanda sei. "
Yakave makore maviri kubva Gabe akamira kutarisa zvinonyadzisira uye iye anofara kupfuura kare kare nekuda kwaro. Nhasi iye anorota kuva mukurukuri wehurukuro, achitaurira varume nevakadzi nyaya yake yekuona zvinonyadzisira-yakaita kuti ED ive netariro yekukurukura "rutivi rwenyama" rwezvinonyadzisira.
"Ndinofunga kuti tsika yakaipa kwazvo, uye ini ndinoda kugamuchira zvepabonde zvisizvo pasina zvinonyadzisira," Gabe akati. "Ndakaona kuti zvinogona kundikanganisa sei, uye ndinoda kuti vamwe vazive nezvezvinogona kuitika, zvakare."
Pasinei nemigumisiro yepakati pahuropi kana zvinogadzirisa munharaunda yedu, zvichida pane zvakawanda kunyika yezvinonyadzisira kupfuura zvatinofunga.
http://dailyemerald.com/2013/06/06/sex-the-dark-side-of-pornography/ (Daily Emerald, University of Oregon)