Kuwedzerwa Kwokuita zvepabonde paIndaneti kunogona kutungamirira kuhupenyu hwehupenyu hwehupombwe

6 zvinoshamisa zvinhu zvaunoda kuziva nezvevarume uye zvinonyadzisira naJed Diamond PhD

Ndakatya kupotsa ndafa musi wandakabaya nhengo yangu nemagetsi. Ndakanga ndawana electric vibrator yaamai vangu ndikaona kuti kutamba nayo kunhengo yangu yekuberekesa kwaipa zvose zviri zviviri ruzha runonakidza uye kunzwa kunowedzera kukwidziridzwa kwekunakidzwa. Izvozvo pazvakapfuurira kuburikidza nekuputika kunoputika—kutanga kwangu, pazera remakore 11—ndakarega kumira uye kufara kusvika pakukamhina uye kupera simba.

Uropi hwangu hwemakore 11 okukura hwakaedza kufunga zvakaitika ndokutya apo mhinduro bedzi inobvira yakauya mundangariro. Ndakange ndanyeverwa nezvengozi yekuti mudziyo wemagetsi ungawira mubhavhu wouraya munhu uye ndakanzi ndisamboshandisa mudziyo kana tsoka dzanyorova. Was sure kuti izvi zvanga zvaita kuti mboro yangu ibatwe nemagetsi. Yakanga yakanyatsokamhina uye, chokwadi, ndakanga ndafa. Ndakanyengetera kuna Mwari kuti kana sikarudzi yangu ikadzorerwa kuupenyu ndaisazomboita “izvo” zvakare.

Nhengo yangu uye ini yese ndakapona uye chokwadi kune izwi rangu, handina kuzomboshandisa vibrator yemagetsi kuita bonyora. Ndakapedza kudzidza kubva ku vibrator kune imwe magazini yandakawana rimwe zuva, uyezve kukwereta makopi emagazini yePlayboy, uyezve kumusikana, uye pakupedzisira mudzimai. Kufanana nevarume vazhinji kana mikana yekukurudzira zvepabonde painternet yave kuwanikwa, ndakazviedza. Zvinokurudzira zvikuru, ndinozobvuma, asi hazvina kumbotora pfungwa dzangu sezviri kuita varume nevakadzi vakawanda nhasi, kunyanya vakomana nevarume vechidiki vakakura vaine makomputa neinternet.

Semurapi wepfungwa anorapa hutano hwevarume, ndakaona kuwedzera kwenhamba yevarume vechidiki vari pakati pemakore gumi nemana kusvika makumi maviri nemana (uye vazhinji vasiri vezera iroro) vari kushandisa bonde paIndaneti nenzira dziri kukonzera matambudziko muupenyu hwavo. Vazhinji vavo vari kutambura Erectile dysfunction, kufunganya, uye kusuruvara. Vanondiudza kuti vari kuomerwa nekumutswa ne "chaivo, vakadzi vapenyu," izvo zvinovanyadzisa uye zvinovakonzera kuti vatowedzera kumutsa internet.

Sezvo mikana yekukurudzira pabonde yepamhepo ichiramba ichiwedzera, hezvino zvimwe zvinhu zvaunofanira kuziva:

Vakomana nevarume vazhinji vari kuomerwa nekusangana pabonde kune hutano nevakadzi.

Muna 2011, Philip Zimbardo, PhD., chimwe chezvidhori mukutsvagisa kwesainzi kwemakumi mana emakore akapa hurukuro pfupi yeTED inonzi. Kuparara Kwevarume. Zimbardo akati, "Munhamba dzakareruka, vakomana vari kutsva muzvidzidzo, vachiparadza kushamwaridzana nevasikana, uye kukundikana pabonde nevakadzi." Iyi inhamo kuvarume nevakadzi zvakafanana.

Kukurudzira zvepabonde paIndaneti kunogona kupindwa muropa.

Ndakashanda nevanhu vakapindwa muropa nedoro nembanje kusvika kucocaine neheroin. Asi vanhu vanogona kupindwa muropa nemaitiro pamwe nezvinhu zvinosanganisira kubhejera nebonde. Paakabvunzwa kuti chii chiri kukonzeresa matambudziko ari kuita varume nevakomana kuita hukama hwakanaka nevakadzi, Zimbardo anoti dambudziko guru rinogona kuteverwa nemigumisiro isingatarisirwi yedandemutande.

"Ini ndinofunga kushandisa kwayo internet zvakanyanya, kutamba kwemavhidhiyo zvakanyanya, uye kuwandisa kwekuwana zvinonyadzisira. Dambudziko nderekuti izvi zvipindwa muropa. Kupindwa muropa nezvinodhaka, unongoda zvimwe. Kupindwa muropa kunomutsa, unoda zvakasiyana. "

Zviratidzo zvekupindwa muropa zvingasazivikanwa.

Vanachiremba vazhinji uye varapi vanga vasingazive nezve njodzi yekukurudzira zvepabonde pamhepo uye vangasabvunza nezve zviratidzo zvingave zvine chekuita nekushandiswa kweiyo erotica online. Zviratidzo zvakajairika zvinosanganisira zvinotevera:

• Kusatsanangurwa erectile kudzvinyirira (ED).
• Kunonoka kubuda.
• Kuramba kufarira vadikani chaivo.
• Kuwedzera kwekushandiswa kweon-line erotica inoenderana nekuravira kwepakutanga.
• Kuenderera mberi nekushandiswa kwepamhepo kukurudzira zvepabonde kunyangwe paine matambudziko.
• Vanhurume vane biological dhirowa kuenda pabonde nevadikani vakasiyana.

Chimwe chezvinhu zvebhayoloji zvekusangana kwemurume nevakadzi, ndezvekuti bonde kumunhukadzi rinogona kukonzera nhumbu nemwana. Kune varume, haabate pamuviri uye pane mukana wekushanduka-shanduka wekuita vana vakawanda. Sezvo zvisina ngozi kumunhukadzi kuti aparadzire mhodzi yake pane kuti mukadzi agamuchire, varume vane hunhu hwehupenyu hwekuita kuti vafarire vakasiyana-siyana. Handisi kuti izvi ndezvechokwadi kune vose varume kana kunyange varume vakawanda vanoita. Ndiri kuti ibiological tendency yatinofanira kuziva kuti iripo.

Apo varume vanoomerwa nokuwirirana nevakadzi vakasiyana-siyana, vangasarudza zvakasiyana-siyana muvatano vokunyepedzera.

Zvepabonde zvepamhepo nemhando dzayo dzisingaperi zvinogona kukwevera varume kukutsvaga kusingaperi kwe "zvakawanda" uye "zvakasiyana."

Muhupenyu kune vakadzi vakawanda chete vanowanika kune mumwe murume uye anofanirwa kushanda kuti aite hukama, kukudziridza hukama, uye kufarira mudiwa mumafaro ekurara naye. Nekusangana pabonde kwepamhepo mukomana haafanire kushanda nesimba kuti awane mukadzi anoyevedza anozomufarira. Kune nhamba isingaperi yevanofungidzira vanofambidzana uye vese vanogona kumuunza kune orgasm. Zviri nyore kupindwa muropa.

Mumwe wevatengi vangu akati, "Mushonga wangu wekusarudza ndewe zvimwe. Zvakawandisa hazvina kumbokwana.” Panyaya yekukurudzira zvepabonde pamhepo, pane zvinogara zvichiwedzera uye zvakanyanya. Sezvandakataura mubhuku randakanyora makore akati kuti apfuura tinova vakapindwa muropa ne“kutsvaka rudo munzvimbo dzose dzisina kururama.”

Kune rubatsiro kune vanhu vanonzwa kuti kurudziro yepabonde yepamhepo iri kuita dambudziko.

Wandaishanda naye, Andrew Wiler, PhD, akanyora zvakanakisa chinyorwa iyo inopa maitiro matatu ari nyore, asi anoshanda, anogona kubatsira. Anatomy uye physiology mudzidzisi Gary Wilson akanyora bhuku rakanakisa, Uropi Hwako pane Zvinonyadzisira: Zvinonyadzisira zvepaInternet uye Emerging Sayenzi yeKupindwa muropa. Pawebhusaiti yake anopawo zvinyorwa, mavhidhiyo, uye ruzivo rwekuzvisunungura kubva mukupindwa muropa neinternet. Ane vhidhiyo ichangobva kuvandudzwa, Zvinonyadzisira-induced Erectile Dysfunction, izvo zvandinokurudzira zvikuru.

- Ona zvimwe pa: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/how-online-sex-can-lead-to-in-real-life-sexual-dysfunction-wcz/#sthash.KXhm2dlh.dpuf

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