Vamwe vanhu havatendi muhupombwe, asi ini ndaona mhedzisiro yaro ruoko rwekutanga.
By Angela Gregory August 19, 2016 (inosangana neshoko rekutanga)
Pane kuwedzera kwevarume (uye dzimwe nguva vakadzi) vanoziva kuti kushandiswa kwavo kwekambani yekushandisa zvepabonde hakusi kwekutonga, inoti NHS zvepabonde uye hukama hwepfungwa Angela Gregory
Kwemakore akapfuura 16 ndakashanda nguva yakazara seNHS zvepabonde uye hwehukama hwepfungwa, kurapa varume nevakadzi vane hutano hwakawanda hwepabonde. Zvinetso zvepabonde zvinogona kuva nedzidziso yezvechiremba kana yepfungwa kana musanganiswa wezvose.
Mumakiriniki edu tinowona vanhu vakuru kubva ku18 makore zvichienda mberi.
Erectile dysfunction inowanzobatanidzwa ne cardio vascular disease, chirwere cheshuga, chirwere cheprostate, chirwere chepaupa kukuvara uye multiple sclerosis. Zvisinei, mumakore mashanu apfuura, kuve nekuwedzera kwevarume vechidiki kutumirwa kunharaunda yedu yeNHS ne erectile dysfunction uye kunonoka / kuvharwa kuvharwa, uye ndakakurumidza kuziva kuti tsika yavo yepamusoro pamwe chete nehutano hwavo hwepabonde paIndaneti yaiva yakanyanya kuchengetedza zvepabonde ravo zvinetso.
Izvo zvakare zvine hanya kuti kune kuwedzera kwevarume (uye dzimwe nguva vakadzi) vanoziva kuti yavo yekushandisa pabonde internet "yaive kunze kwekudzora", ichikuvadza hukama hwavo uye, mukukosha, kutora hupenyu hwavo.
Makore gumi apfuura aona shanduko yedhijitari iyo yaita kuti kukurumidza kukurukurirana kuve; Tsika dzekuMadokero dziri kuumbwa zvakanyanya neinternet, nharembozha uye vezvenhau. Via neinternet kusangana pabonde uye zvinonyadzisira zvinowanikwa uye hazvizivikanwe; yakagadzira mamiriro etsika ari kudzidzisa vechidiki nezve izvo "zvakajairika". Kwakave nemazuva apo kuratidzwa kwedu kune chimwe chinhu chakajeka chaive chikamu chemukati chemukati cheambuya vako Littlewoods katarogu kana peji repakati rakapararira yemagazini makuru senge Playboy uye Penthouse.
Chii chinoitika kana huropi hwevechiri kuyaruka hukasangana nekumhanya-mhanya hard-core porn? Zvakanaka isu tinogona chete kutanga kufungidzira pamhedzisiro mhedzisiro, asi chatinoziva ndechekuti sevanhu isu tese tinogona kunzwa kunzwa kwekusakwanira, kuti pane imwe nhanho isu hatienzane kana tichienzaniswa nevamwe. Asi vechidiki vanonyanya kutambura uye vari paInternet vanogona kuona kareidoscope yemifananidzo yepabonde nemitambo yeOlymicic-kuzvienzanisa ivo pachavo, nekungobaya kamwe chete.
Zvepabonde bonde zvinoenderana nekuita, pakupinda kwechero chipenga chine hunhu hwakavimbiswa nguva dzese. Izvo zvisiri izvo ndezve rudo, kuseka, kuita zvechisimba, erooticism kana manzwiro. Meseji iri pachena kwazvo, yakaoma, nekupinda nekukurumidza zvakaenzana bonde rakakura uye chero "kukundikana" kwega kuyera kunogona kutumirwa ipapo ipapo pasocial network.
Vamwe vachaona matambudziko ekugadzirisa uye kuchinetsa matambudziko nekuda kwekuita kushungurudzika kana kubva kuchipfungwa chepfungwa uye chepanyama nekuda kwekukwirira kwepabonde. Maererano newebsite www.yourbrainonporn.org mudiki mukomana apo paanotanga kutarisa zvinonyadzisira nguva inogona kutora kuti achinje kugadzirisa mafungiro ekukurudzira zvikuru kukurudzira. Kuti uzviise pachena, ivo vachazofanira kudzidza kuwana musikana wavo kana mukomana mutsvuku kana hupenyu hwepabonde hwechokwadi, kumutsa.
Read more: Edza kurega zvinonyadzisira - zvakachinja hupenyu hwangu
Mundima ye sexology / mushonga wepabonde pane gakava rakawanda pamusoro pekuvapo uye kushandiswa kweshoko rekuti "kupindwa muropa kwepabonde". Makore mazhinji apfuura paive nemushumo wepepanhau nezve Hollywood A-runyorwa mutambi aitsvaga rubatsiro rwe "kupindwa muropa kwepabonde", uye ini ndinorangarira ndichifunga kuti zvaiita sechikonzero chekusatendeka kwake. Nekudaro, pamusoro pemakore mashoma apfuura ini ndakapupura kutanga-ruoko kukanganisika kwega kwega kwekuita zvepabonde online / porn inogona kuve nevechidiki uye nekugona kwavo kuumba nekuchengetedza hukama hwepedyo uye hune rudo hwepabonde. Uye usakanganise, vanhu vakura zvakaenzana vari panjodzi yemifananidzo yakajeka uye bonde repamhepo.
Pasi pane muenzaniso wemurume wemakore ane 19 uyo anonzwa hupenyu hwake hune hutano huripo hwekutarisa zvinonyadzisira uye zvekutengesa zvepabonde:
- Anonzwa kuti zvinetso zvake zvakatanga apo pazera remakore 13 iye akatanga kujekesa mifananidzo paIndaneti neshamwari yake yechikoro.
- Achishandisa foni yake iye zvino iye anoita bonhora kanomwe pazuva, muimba yake yekurara, kubasa uye dzimwe nguva munzvimbo dzevanhu.
- Akave nehukama hwepabonde rimwe chete asi izvi zvakaguma paakaona kuti aivewo nehuwandu hwepabonde hwekusangana pamwe nevamwe vaaifambidzana navo vainge vasangana paIndaneti.
- Akatotanga kuona maascorts.
- Haawanzoshamwaridzana neshamwari uye anonzwa akasurukirwa kubva ku "zvakajairika" hupenyu.
- Akapwanya nhare mbiri mukuedza kwake kumira asi izvi hazvina kushanda.
- Anonzwa hupenyu hwake husina kukodzera kurarama uye haazive zvekuita.
Read more: Apo rinouya kumuromo wepabonde, kuva mukadzi anoyamwa
Zvinosuruvarisa kune vanhu vazhinji vari mumamiriro ezvinhu aya pane zvishoma zvishoma zveNHS rubatsiro runowanika vakawanda vanozoshandura maforamu eIndaneti kubatsira www.yourbrainonporncom uye www.nofap.com. Varapi vega vanogona kuwanikwa kuburikidza neCollege yeBonde & Ukama Therapists (COSRT) nemasangano akadai seR Relate. Zvakare zvinobatsira Kunzwisisa uye Kubata Zvepabonde Kupindwa muropa naPaula Hall.
Kuvabereki, kudzivirira zvivara zvekuona zvinonyadzisira ndezvokusarudza asi zvinosuruvarisa kuona zvinonyadzisira paIndaneti ndezvomusoro wechando. Twitter, Snapchat, nemakamuri ehurukuro vanofumurawo vechidiki kuzvidhori zvepabonde, kukurukurirana kukurukurirana uye mavhidhiyo. Kunyanya kunetseka ndechokuti vana nevechidiki vanozvipira kuisa mifananidzo isina kunaka yega paIndaneti.
Muna 2012 iyo Yekushandisa Kwevacheche & Online Kudzivirirwa Center (CEOP) akawana izvozvo huwandu hwakawanda hwekuita zvepabonde zvidhori zvisina kunaka zvevana zvakasirwa paIndaneti nevana nevechidiki ivo pachavo pasina kushorwa kwekunze.
Nzvimbo dzekudyidzana pasocial network uye kufurirwa nevezera rako zvombo zvine simba uye zvinonyengetedza uye kashoma kuti vapikiswe nemudzidzisi anonyara anoona nezvedzidzo yavo yebonde. Sevanhu vakuru, nhanho yekutanga yekurwira kupokana nesimba reinternet uye vezvenhau kuziva kuti chii chinowanikwa pamhepo nekugadzira nhaurirano yakavhurika uye yakajeka kune mumwe nemumwe.
Angela Gregory ndiye Mutungamiri wePyychosexual Therapy paChandos Clinic, basa rekuita zvepabonde revarume nevakadzi vanobva kuNottingham University Hospital Trust. Iye zvino ari munyori weBritish Society of Sexual Medicine.
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