Rudo Mazano: Zvinogona Kubatsira Ukama, Asi Ramba Uchingwarira
TERESA M. PELHAM
Dambudziko guru rekuona zvinonyadzisira nderokuti rinoita zvisingaiti zvisingatarisirwi. Zvakanaka, nezvimwe zvinhu.
Kudzoka apo zvinonyadzisira zvaireva kutora kopi yePlayboy kubva kuchitoro chiri nyore pasi pemugwagwa, hatina kunzwa zvakanyanya nezve vanhu vane zvinodhaka zvehupombwe kana porn-inosimudzira erectile kudzvinyirira.
(Kwechinguva, ndapota fungidzira kuti chii chinotsvakurudza pamapurisa yangu chichatarisa sezvinenge ndapedza kunyora iyi koroni.Hungu, ndaifanira kutarisa.Kubvisa? vakasiya zvakawanda kuti vazvidikanwe.)
Asi nhasi, nhamba isingaperi yemavhidhiyo anogona kuoneka pakombuta yako kana smartphone nekudzvanya bhatani. Uye kunyangwe kuwanikwa kuri kwega kunogona kutungamira kune mamwe eaya matambudziko, nyanzvi dzinoti ndezvepamusoro-pe-zvepamusoro zviitiko zvebonde zvinogona kukonzeresa mumba yekurara.
Zvepabonde therapists vanotaura kuti kana vatarisi vanozvibvumira kudya kwakasimba kwevakadzi vakanyanyisa, vakanyanya kufara, vanogona kuora mwoyo pavanenge vachikurukura nemunhu asiri wezvesa mushure.
"Pane kuwirirana pakati pevarume vanoona zvinonyadzisira uye kutadza kwavo kumutswa nevanhu muhupenyu chaihwo," anodaro Amanda Pasciucco, chiremba wepabonde anozivikanwa muWest Hartford. “Vanova nekushomeka uye mumwe wavo haakwanise kukwikwidza. Mitumbi yavanoona haisi yechokwadi. ”
Ndinoona kuti zvinonyadzisira ndezvekufungidzira uye hazvifanirwe kutaridzika sehukama hwerudo pakati pevanhu vaviri vane makore ari pakati nepakati vane bvudzi rekumashure uye zvidonha. Asi kana fungidziro iri yega inoonekwa nemunhu, zviri nyore kufungidzira dambudziko kumberi,.
Pasciucco mazano avo vakaroorana vezera rose, uye vanoti nzira yekudzokera kune hukama hwakanaka hwepabonde ndeyokuita mafungiro pamwe chete.
"Taura nezve izvo iwe zvaunogona kuita kuunza iwo mafungidziro avakaona kuhukama hwavo," anodaro. “Ita kuti pfungwa dzako dzinyanye kufarira munhu wauinaye.”
Pfungwa dzako? Ndaifunga kuti tiri kutaura nezve, umumwe dzimwe nhengo.
Asi zvidzidzo zvakaratidza kuti pane musiyano mukuru munzira iyo uropi inopindura nayo kutarisa pikicha uye kutarisa vhidhiyo. Pasciucco anoratidzira mazuva makumi mapfumbamwe ekuona zvinonyadzisira kuti "agadzirise chikamu chinofungidzira chehuropi."
Nekuda kwekuwana nyore kuona zvinonyadzisira, kutsva kutsva kunofungidzira avhareji zera iro majaya anotanga kuona porn kuva makore gumi nemaviri. (Asi kwete vana vako, uye zvirokwazvo kwete vangu.)
"Kana vanhu vari kushandisa zvinonyadzisira sedzidzo yavo yebonde, izvo zvinogona kukonzeresa dambudziko," anodaro Pasciucco.
Wendy Haggerty, chiremba anozivikanwa zvepabonde ane mahofisi muGlastonbury, Guilford uye West Hartford, anoti pane zvinonyanya kukosha pamusoro pezvinonyadzisira zvinoshandiswa nevaduku.
"Kunyanyisa kushandiswa kwakaratidzirwa kunotungamira mukuzviparadzanisa nevamwe uye maitiro ehunhu anogona kukanganisa maitiro emunhu ekuumba uye kuchengetedza hukama hwakanaka," anodaro. “Nyaya dzakanangana nekubatanidzwa kwerudo nekubatana pabonde nekunakidzwa zvinogona kupinda mukutamba. Chitarisiko chemuviri uye nyaya dzine chekuita nemimwe mibairo zvinogona kuitika. ”
Asi zvinonyadzisira hazvisi zvese zvakaipa maererano nemichato uye hukama, Haggerty anodaro.
"Ini ndinogona kufunga yakawanda mienzaniso yakanaka kwandakaona ichibatsira vanhu uye hukama. Ndakaonawo vamwe vanhu vaine zvinomanikidzwa zvinoda kugadziriswa, ”akadaro Haggerty. "Mukuenzanisa, zvinonyadzisira zvinogona kukurudzira uye kukurudzira. Kushandisa zvine hungwaru zvinhu zvinokwezva kunogona kubatsira mukuzvida uye… hukama hwepabonde. ”
Ini neMukomana takasarudza kuyedza dzidziso yake, uye takatarisa zvinyoro nyoro paShowtime. Kunze kwemazamu asingatendeke uye asingazungunuke, vataridzi havaratidzwe chero nhengo dzakavanzika uye vatambi vacho havasi kunyatsoita bonde. Takatsauswa neuta-chicka-wow-wow mimhanzi uye takazopedzisira tave mukukurukurirana kwekuti vaimbi vanogadzira mimhanzi yemafirimu ezvinonyadzisira vakambowana imwe hit.
Haggerty akapa mimwe mienzaniso yekuti zvinonyadzisira zvinogona kubatsira sei.
"Anoda kwazvo mudiwa angawana kuti kuzvifadza pamwe nerubatsiro rwekuona zvinogutsa zvinogutsa zvido zvake uye zvinotora kumanikidza kubva kune akaderera mudiwa kuti atore chikamu," akadaro Haggerty. "Pamusoro pezvo, mudiki wezvaanoda anogona kusarudza kushandisa zvinonyadzisira senzira yekukurudzira hupombwe hwake uye kuwanikwe kuti ave nehukama hwepedyo naye."
Nokudaro, kunze kwekusaziva kwakashata kwehuwandu hwezvinonyadzisira, uye zvinhu zvekudhakwa, uye zvinhu zvakaipa zvinogona kuita kune hukama, uye nenzira iyo yakagadzira chizvarwa chose chevanhu vachipedza mari yakawanda pakukanda muviri, zvinonyadzisira zvinogona Iva kuwedzerwa kwakanaka kune ukama (kwete chete kune avo vanovhiringidza nyore nyore nekuita zvakaipa, uye mumhanzi mutsva).
Teresa M. Pelham ndiye munyori wemabhuku evana "Roxy's Forever Home." Kune zvimwe: www.roxysforeverhome.com.
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