Icho chakanyanya kukurudzira zvepabonde chakasungirirwa kune zvinhu zvisiri zvemazuva ano here?
Mhuka dzakawanda dzinoita bonyora, asi hapana nehuwandu uye huwandu hwemajaya evanhu vanhurume-kunze kwekuti mukutapwa (maererano ne Leonard Shlain, MD).
Pfungwa yazvino ndeyekuti isu vanhu tinoita bonhora zvakanyanya nekuti tinogona kufungidzira. Kufungidzira kwakabatana ndekwekuti yedu yekuita bonhora yemurume yakaenderera kwenguva yakareba sekunge isu tave vanhu-kunze kwekuti kana zvichitadziswa kwechinguva nemasimba asina kusimba, zvakadai sechitendero kana zvemagariro evanhu. Kubva pazvifungidziro zviviri izvi zvinotevera chetatu: iyo fungiro ichisikigo, yakagadziriswa, kana kunyange sine qua non zve, hupenyu hwepabonde hunogutsa.
Zvechokwadi fungiro inofambisa nguva yakawanda, kana kuita zvepabonde uye zvinonyadzisira. Asi isu tinokwanisa kukwanisa kufungidzira (izvo zvinogona, kana zvinogona kunge zvisingaenzaniswi nevanhu) zvizere nhoroondo yebhora redu uye fantasy marathons?
Ini munguva pfupi yapfuura ndakamira padanho rekuchinjana cyber pakati pevamwe varume vanofunga vane ruzivo rwakawanda rwekuita bonhora nekufungidzira. Iwo iwo mapoinzi avakasimudza akanditungamira kuti ndiite zvishoma zvekuuraya nhoroondo, iyo yandichagovana pazasi pezvavanotaura.
Munhu wokutanga
Chokwadi ndechekuti, isu hatina nzira yekuziva kuti vanhu vakaita bonhora zvakadii munguva yakapfuura, kunyangwe iine chokwadi chekuti dzimwe nguva vaiita. Nyanzvi dzanhasi dzinokanganisa mamiriro azvino ano se "mamiriro echisikigo." Ivo vanoona vanhu vazhinji (kunyanya varume) vachiita bonhora zvakanyanya, uye vanotsvaga tsananguro kunze kwenzvimbo yemagariro yatakakwiridzirwa. Kuti vaongorore chimiro ichi zvakaringana, vanofanirwa kuisa parutivi zvimwe zvezvitendero zvavo pamusoro pekukosha kwekurarama. mune 24/7 porn zvakasikwa. Kufanana nehove dziri muhove yehove iyo isingambo bvunze chokwadi chekuti ivo vanoshambira mumvura, havabvunze fungidziro yavo yekuti porn "inofambira mberi," zvichingodaro. Ivo vanoongorora zvichibva mukutenda kwepfungwa mune zvakanakira bonyora risingaperi (zvakapesana neidzo zvekare zvirevo vaibata maonero ekuti zvaigara zvakashata).
Vamwe vatsvakurudzi vanga vakashamiswa nekuwana zvishoma zvidzitiro pakati pevamwe vana. Mumwe muongorori wemhuka akadaro, Gilbert Van Tassel Hamilton,
Pakati pevakomana vangu vose Jocko ave achicherechedzwa kuti anonyadzisa. Mushure memazuva mashomanana akavharirwa iye aizorora mhombwe uye adye chikamu chemuviri wake. Ndine chikonzero chekutenda kuti akararama pasi pemamiriro asina kusikirira kwemakore akawanda ndisati ndamuwana.
Cherechedza sei kuvharirwa Mamiriro ehunhu hwaJocko. Ini ndinobvuma kuti nhasi tiri kurarama pasi pezvakakomba "zvisiri zvemamiriro ezvinhu!" Vangave vari kubatsira here kune izvi zvese "fungidziro yechisikigo" pamwe nekugamuchirwa nezvana makumi mapfumbamwe muzana evagari kuti vanoita bonhora? Kana munhu wese akagutsurira musoro achibvuma kuti "vakomana vanozove vakomana" uye bonhora iri "yakasikwa" zvachose, yakaita senge apple pie, zvinoita kuti simba rekutapwa kwedu pane maitiro edu asaonekwe.
Ini ndinoverengera pakati peshamwari dzangu dzimwe nhapwa dzakagara munzvimbo dzinosiririsa, dzakadai sekushaiwa basa kwakanyanya, kushomeka kwekurapwa kwekurapwa, kurwiswa kwehunhu hwavo hwekurarama, barrage yekumanikidza kwekuparadzira kutsanangudza kusvibiswa kwezvakatipoteredza nehondo, zvichisiya vanhu vachinzwa kushaya zvekuita, rusaruraganda hurongwa hwekusarura mune zvehupfumi, kudzikisira kwevanhukadzi nekushungurudzwa kwevana pabonde… Ndinoda kuenderera mberi here? Ndosaka munhu wese akapindwa muropa nechimwe chinhu!
Isu tese mune dzimwe nzira takafanana neaya "mapapiro emajere," uye izvo zviri kutobvisa vanhu mamirioni maviri nemazana maviri vari nhapwa muhusungwa hukuru hweAmerica. Aya "mamiriro echisikigo" anoramba asina mubvunzo zvachose. Asi izvi nezvimwe zvinhu zvinofanirwa kutariswa zvakanyanya zvine chekuita nekukurukurirana kwevanhu vanobvuma kuti zvinorema kushandisa zvinonyadzisira idambudziko kwavari.
Murume wechipiri
Kukuvadza kukuru kumuchato wangu kwakaitika chaizvo apo yangu 'bonyora yekufungidzira yekudzidzira' yaive yakanyanya kunyanyisa. Ini ndakakanganisa kugona kwangu kuita pamwe nekubvumirana chaiko (kusanganisira wangu mukadzi asina kupfeka pamberi pangu). Panguva yepabonde, ndaigona kumuona achiita chaizvo zvinhu zvandaida. Chinhu chega chekufungidzira chakachidzivirira kubva mukusanyatsobatana neicho chaicho chaive muviri wake. Mukupokana kwakazara nemaonero ekuti fungidziro yepabonde inowedzera bonde, chete pandakabvisa fungidziro kubva pabonde ndipo pandingadai kuda mukadzi wangu sezvaari. Mumazuva ekare akaipa eupenzi hwangu hunoshamisa, sezvo ini ndaimushandisa kuita bonyora, aigara achindibvunza, "Uri kufungei nezvazvo?" Uye ndainyepa, "Haa, hapana chaicho."
Mumakore maviri apfuura, ini ndichigara ndichibvisa mafungiro angu epabonde, pakave nekuchinja kukuru. Ndinosimuka zvakanyanya nekubata. Mudzimai wangu achiri kundibvunza zvandinofunga nezvazvo pabonde, asi ikozvino pandinopindura kuti handisi kufunga, ndinongotaura chokwadi chete. Sezvo ini ndichivandudza kugona kwangu kuchengetedza fungidziro kunze kwekuziva kwangu, roorano yangu iri kuramba ichiwedzera kubudirira. Kana chiitiko chiri mupfungwa chakapihwa huchokwadi, saka hazvigoneke kuti mamiriro epanyama anoenderana nemufananidzo wepfungwa. Mhedzisiro yacho kusagutsikana kwakakosha nemamiriro emunhu.
Kusvika pedu patinoita tsika dzebonde, chinzvimbo chekuti hunhu hwemazuva ano hwehunhu ndiyo chete hunhu hwehunhu hwehunhu hwakakanganisa zvinotyisa. Vanenge vese vedu vanogara mukutapwa, kazhinji nekuzvidira, asi mukutapwa zvakadaro. Tinozvivharira mukati husiku. Tinogona kunge tisina kuvharirwa mukati mukati mezuva, asi madhoo haatombodi kukiya nekuti isu takanyatsogadziriswa kuti tigare takapfigirwa pabasa kusvika tazoburitswa mutrall.
Mushure mebasa, tinogona kuita zvakawanda kana zvishoma sekuda kwedu (nguva yekurara-nguva), asi rondedzero yezviitiko zvinogamuchirwa zvinomanikidza vanhu vazhinji: terevhizheni, kudya, kushambidzika, kudyidzana kwemhuri, kupukunyuka kusiri kwemagetsi (hunyanzvi, mabara, kurovedza-gonzo-vhiri, kuyedza kubatanidza), kupukunyuka kwemagetsi, uye bonde. Zvakare, isu tine chete ~ maawa masere ekutsvaga 'rusununguko.' Isu tinozvipa isu pachedu, kutaura kune mumwe nemumwe, kuzvifadza pachedu, uyezve inguva yekudzokorora yekurara-basa-kutamba kutenderera.
Pane dzimwe nguva nhanhatu mukati memakore mashoma apfuura, ndave nehumboo hwekugara kunze kweiyi kutenderera kwe ~ mavhiki maviri panguva. Sekugona kwangu kutaura, rudzi urwu rwechiitiko rwunowirirana nema prehistoric mapatani: masisitimu ekuzvisarudzira, dzimba dzepedyo dzekugara nemhuri uye vaunoziva, zvishoma zvakavanzika. Paive nebasa rakawandisa rakaoma raibatanidzwawo, izvo zvandinofungidzira kuti zvingangofungidzira zviitiko zvekurarama. Maitiro angu ehupombwe anowanzo nyangarika. Panzvimbo pe 2 orgasms pavhiki, ndaive ne4 kusvika ku0 orgasms mumavhiki maviri, uye handina kushandisa porn.
Zviripachena kuti 'zvimwe zvidzidzo zvinoda kuitwa' uye yangu 'sampuro saizi yakanyanya kudhara kuti uwane mhedziso chaidzo,' asi zvakadaro, ini ndiri kutsvaga zano rekuwedzera rusununguko rwangu panzvimbo pehunhu hwangu.
Murume wechitatu
Kufungidzira kwechokwadi ndechimwe chinhu chinoshamisa, asi semhando dzose, inogona kushandiswa zvakanaka kana yakaipa. Kubwinya kunobva pakuona zvinonyadzisira kwakaipa kumweya, mupfungwa uye mune hutano nekuda kwekutambudzika kunotiisa pasi penguva refu. Kuda zvinhu zvisingawanikwi zvinongova zvisina maturo, zvinonetsa uye zvisingagutsi.
Ko kufamba kwekubudirira kwakachinja tsika dzepabonde here?
Ndichida kuziva nezvetsika dzevanhu, ndakaongorora yaThomas W. Laqueur Kuita zvepabonde ega: Chiitiko Chetsika yeBonyanya. Ikoko ndakadzidza kuti vaoni vezana ramakore gumi nemasere vaireva kumanikidzwa, kusanganisira kuita bonhora kwakanyanyisa, se "zvirwere zvebudiriro." Sezviri pachena zvaive zvisina kujairika kudzamara veEurope vatama kubva kumhuri dzakakura kuenda kumaguta ane zvisirizvo zvimiro zvekuvharirwa nekuzviparadzanisa.
Kwenguva yekutanga munhoroondo, zvinokurudzira (uye zvinokurudzira), zvekare nezvitsva, zvakare zvakave zviripo zvakanyanya: fodya, chokoreti, rum, kubhejera, kushopota, kufungidzira kwezvemari, zvinonyadzisira uye zvinyorwa pamusoro penyaya yekuda. Izwi rekuti "kupindwa muropa" ikozvino rakaonekwa muChirungu. Uye kuita zvekumanikidza kuita bonhora kwakawana traction.
Zviripachena, kuti bonhora raisava zano nyowani, asi, pamberi pezana regumi nemasere century, hapana akaona chidiki chekuzvifadza senge chinogona kubuda mutsika inokanganisa, kunze kwemumwe mufundisi akaparadzaniswa pabonde. Ikozvino, zvakadaro, vanhu vanga vachibatwa pamhando dzese dzemafambiro anga asiri kuvashandira, -pfungwa-imwechete kutsvaga kweyegasm inosanganisirwa. Kumanikidzwa kwakadai kwaisazivikanwa uye kwaityisa nekuti zvaisave nyore kukunda.
Vatariri vezana remakore gumi nemasere vakaratidza kusiyana pakati pepabonde nemunhu, uye zvepabonde nemafungiro ako. Iko kutora chikamu kwemudiwa zvakasikwa kumisikidza mabhureki pabonde nenzira yekuwanika kweumwe wako, zvinodiwa nemhuri, zvipingamupinyi zvemari, kana mutoro wekuronga miedzo. Ita-iwe-pabonde, kune rimwe divi, yanga isina muganho, uye inogona kuve nyore kuva inoda tsika. Bonde rakavakirwa pa "zvakasikwa zvinodiwa" (uye kubvumirana chibvumirano) zvaifungidzirwa kuti zvinobatsira zvakanyanya kupfuura orgasm inogadzirwa neyekufungidzira kana kumwe kuzvikurudzira. (Sezvineiwo, basa renyanzvi yezvepfungwa Stuart Brody rinoratidzika kunge rinosimbisa izvozvo kurara kunonyaradza uye inobatsira pane kungoita zvepabonde chete.)
Kuita bonyanyisa kunonyadzisa kwakanga kusiri iyo chete yekuita tsika yekuita kuti kuve nematambudziko matsva ekutambudzika, asi yakanga iri nyore kuti vana vagumburwe. Hazvishamisi kuti kutya kwekunyanyisa kwepabonde kwakatanga kuparidzirwa pamusoro pevana muzvikoro zvekubhadhara. Vana ava havana mubvunzo kuti vakatotanga kufunganya nekuda kwekusungwa kwechisikigo uye kusarirwa kwekubatana nemhuri uye vezera revasikana.
Asi kuti kutsanangura sei dambudziko re kuwedzera tsika kune vana? Pakanga pasina pfungwa yehuropi sainzi yekupindwa muropa. Panzvimbo iyoyo, vana vakarairwa kuti vadzivise "kuzvisvibisa". Zvinosuruvarisa, zvizvarwa zvevana zvakarererwa kuti vaone kutsvaga kwekununurwa kubva kuzvido zvebonde kuburikidza nekuita bonhora se unhu kukundikana, pane kungofanana nechinangwa chakanaka (kunyanya kupiwa mamiriro avo anotambudza), izvo inofanirwa kutarisa kutungamirirwa.
Kubatwa kwebonyora netsika kwakaipa; nyadzi dzinoparadza. Nekudaro, zvese zviri zviviri maitiro ezvakaitika kare nekumukira kwanhasi zvinoodza moyo wakasununguka, wekubvunza nezve bonyora - iyo ichatibvumidza kuti tiwane hutano hwakanaka tisingatyi kuti tinogona kuisa panjodzi isina kunaka pabonde.
Tinoda nzira yakasiyana here?
Zvichigoverwa nhoroondo yematsika ekushaya bonhora, zvinoratidzika kuti vanhu haana kazhinji vanovimba nepamusoro pekuguma uye kugadzirisa zvepabonde kwekunetseka kwepfungwa-kudzamara vazviwana vava mumamiriro asingabvumirwe. Zvingaite here nhasi kusamira kwekutsvagira kuve kuedza kuzvirapa mukutarisana nemamiriro ekumanikidza ayo uropi hwedu husina kuchinja kuti ubate zvakanaka? Poshi Canadian addiction expert haifunge kuti tichazombobata dambudziko rekupindwa muropa kusvikira tavandudza (dzokera?) tsika inoshanda.
Neurohistorian Daniel Ishe Smail inoratidza kuti munhu anogona kuona nhoroondo yose yekubudirira senzira yekukurumidza kuendesa kushandiswa kwakanyanya kwemafungidziro (psychotropic) zvinhu nezvimwe zvinhu, kusanganisira kutenga zvinyorwa uye kugadzira makoriri asina chinhu. Kutsvaga kazhinji, rubatsiro-rubatsiro-kukurudzirwa kanagasm kune imwe chete yevakawanda-kunyange zvazvo inonyanya kumanikidzira.
Ose maitiro edu ekuzvirapa uye kushushikana kwemamiriro ezvinhu azvino uno zvinoita kunge ari kukurumidza pane kutitungamira kugutsikano. Kana zvirizvo, isu takachenjera here kutora runyararo rwepfungwa rwakamira mumhedzisiro inowanzoitika kune zvinowedzera simba? Ongororo ichangoburwa inoratidza kuti kosi iyi inogona, kutaura zvazviri, kuva isina maturo. Kunyanyisa kukurudzira kunogona kuita kuti kugutsikana kuwedzere kunetse nekuda kwesimba ravo ku kubata mhinduro yekunakidzwa kwehuropi.
Zvinogona kugutsikana zvikuru mukudzidza kutarisa neurochemical (uye naizvozvo mafungiro) musaridzwa-kunyange pasi pematambudziko emazuva ano? Chido chekuzvipa-mishonga chinoratidzika sechina kukurumidza kana tichiwana nzira dzokusangana nezvinodiwa zvinokosha zvehutano hwedu, izvo zvakashanduka kuti zvichengetedze zvakakwana apo isu vakanga vasina mukutapwa. Somuenzaniso, kutsvakurudza kunoratidza izvozvo kusimbisa muviri, ushamwari hwokubatana, kubata, pair bonds, uye zuva nezuva chirangariro zvinoshamisa kuti zvinoshanda semafungiro ehurumende uye zvinopesana nezvinetso. Uye zvakadini nezvemaitiro ekare ekare kuchenjerera kutungamira zvechido chepabonde pachako?
WERENGA PANE REDDIT - "Unoziva kuti kuita bonhora kune hukama nekutapwa?"
Isu tese takanzwa nezvekuti mhuka DZINOITANZA sei bonhora mune zvakasikwa, asi hapana papi padyo ne frequency yavanozviita kana vari mukutapwa. Zvinonzwisisika, uye ndinofunga kuti iyo 'kutapwa' mhedzisiro inoita kuti NoFap iwedzere kuomarara kupfuura zvayingaite mune zvakasikwa.
Ndakave nenguva mbiri dzakasiyana muNoFap yangu- chikoro chisati chatanga (ini ndiri mukuru wechikoro chepamusoro), uye mushure. Munguva yezhizha, ndakaenda mazuva e31 uye ndakanzwa HERE chaicho chishuwo cheku fap. Zvinotoda kuoma kutsanangura- zvinoita sekunge paingova pasina chikonzero chazvo.
Pane imwe nguva chikoro chakatanga, zvisinei, kushungurudzika uye kushungurudzika kukuru kwepabonde kwakandiunza kumabvi angu kusvikira ndazadza nguva 4 mumavhiki maviri apfuura. Ndezvechokwadi kufunga-kunetseka kuti hazvisi zvakasikwa nharaunda yechikoro chepamusoro (nzvimbo yebasa iri zvakare isiri yechisikigo) kune- kune ese marudzi evasikana vanoyevedza vakandikomberedza, asi nzanga inondiraira kuti ini handigone kuita chero chinhu icho hunhu hwangu hunondiudza ini. Muzvisikwa (senge pre-muvhimi anounganidza hunhu), ini ndaigona kutwasuka kubvunza vasikana vakasiyana kana vachida kuita bonde, uye kana akati kwete, ini ndaizoenderera mberi ndisina dambudziko uye ndikasazomuonazve. Pasina mubvunzo kutaura, chikoro chepamusoro hachishande zvakadaro. Wedzera mune zvese zvisinganzwisisike, muganho surreal kana iwe uchinyatsofunga nezve avo vepachikoro chepamusoro zviitiko (kumanikidzwa kudzidza zvinhu iwe zvausingafarire [STEM munhu, mazwi haatsanangure kuti ndadii madiro andisingade echirungu akaridza makirasi], ndichifanira kuita mapurojekiti asina basa pasina chikonzero, kugara wakadzikama uye usingabatiki padhuze nevasikana apo ZVESE zvimiro zvendangariro zvinokuudza kuti uite zvinopesana, kuva nevanhu vausingade pasina chikonzero chaicho, nezvimwewo), uye zviri nyore kuona kuti nei chimwe chinhu chakaita bonhora inogona kuve yakasimba nzira yekurwisa vanhu mune akadai anoshamisa, asiri echisikigo mamiriro ari chaiwo kutapwa kune zvese zvinangwa uye zvinangwa.
Enzanisa nharaunda yechikoro / yebasa nemararamiro andaiita zhizha rangu: Ini ndaishanda pachangu chirongwa, ndakaverenga zvandaifarira, ndakadzidza zvandaikurudzirwa kudzidza, handina kumanikidzwa kuita mapurojekiti asina basa uye mharidzo, nezvimwe. Ndakagara zvaigona kurondedzerwa se (zvisingaite cushy vhezheni ye) 'zvakasikwa' mararamiro- kwete kuvharirwa mumatafura, kuparadzwa nekushushikana pabonde, kana kubata nekusava nebasa kwechikoro cheveruzhinji. Uye fungidzira chii? Handina kunzwa shungu dzekurara neni pachezvangu kudzamara ndadzokera mune yangu zoo yekuratidzira.
Zvese izvi chaizvo, zvinondiita kuti ndibvunze fungidziro yakakurumbira yekuti bonyora ndewe 'zvakasikwa'. Izvo chaizvo, zvakasikwa chete mukati zvisizvo ezvinhu.
Kubva pane imwe thread
Ichi chiitiko chinonzwisisika zvinoshamisa, uye pamwe chakanyanya kukosha chandakaona. Zvakaitika kwandiri semudzidzi wepachikoro chesekondari zvine zvakafanana. Neniwo ndinonzwa kunge chikoro chepamusoro inzvimbo isina kujairika. Neimwe nzira, isu takagadzwa nechikoro cheveruzhinji system. Vasungwa vemujeri vanoiswa munzvimbo yakafanana, zvisinei, mhedzisiro yacho yakanyanyisa (tarisa Iyo Shawshank Rudzikunuro.) Hunyanzvi hwangu hwemagariro hwakadzivirirwa zvakanyanya mukati megore rechikoro (Ini ndinowedzera kutaura uye ndinodzokorora nekuti ndiyo nzira yandakadzidziswa kuzvibata nayo. kutenderera vezera rangu.) Ndiri kugara ndiri mune imwe nhamo kana kutya. Ini ndakanyanya kusviba uye kusagadzikana. Chikoro chinopinda mumuviri wangu muchimiro chenguva dzose yekuora mwoyo uye kusagadzikana. Vamwe vanhu vanoshanda kazhinji kazhinji mukati megore rechikoro; kwete ini. Asi pamusoro pezhizha, ndinogona kunzwa muviri wangu kuda "kuzvigadzirisa" pachawo. Ini ndinowedzera kuita seangu "chaiwo". Ndiri kuona vakasarudzwa vashoma vandinogadzikana navo / ndinofarira kushamwaridzana navo. Ndine chivimbo, ndine simba, ndakasununguka kuridza piyano, verenga chero gehena randinoda, ndononoka kurara kana ndikanzwa kuda kwaro… ndinowana zvandinofarira, zvandisingafarire, zvinangwa nezvandinokanganisa. Hunhu hwangu hwepfungwa hunopenya munguva yezhizha.
Rimwe zuva ndakawana nofap, chinotevera chinhu iwe unoziva kuti ndiri kudya zvirinani, kurovedza muviri, kuita shamwari nyowani, kusangana nevasikana, kutamba mimhanzi, kutarisa mafirimu andinofarira, kudzidza zvechokwadi (kwete iyo yekudzidzira nzombe inoitika panguva yechikoro) uye ndichingofungidzira kunakirwa hupenyu. Nenzira, ini ndiri mukuru wechikoro chepamusoro senge iwe, saka ndinofara kuona kuti isu giredhi-vekuchikoro vanogona kungonzwisisa sevakuru vatongi. (kunyangwe zvakadaro, iwe unoziva, ruzhinji rwevadzikinuri vanotivenga)
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CHERECHEDZA: YBOP hairevi kuti kuita bonhora kwakaipa kwauri. Kungongotora pfungwa yokuti vazhinji vezvinonzi mararamiro anobatsira vakati kuve nehupombwe kana kuita bonyora zviripo chaizvoizvo zvinobatanidzwa nehukama hwepedyo nemumwe munhu, kwete mararamiro / mhombwe. Kunyanya zvakananga, kutaurirana kwakabatana pakati pezviratidzo zvishomanana zvehutano zvakasarudzwa uye orgasm (kana ichokwadi) zvichida kungobatana chete kunobva kuvanhu vane utano hwakanaka izvo zvinowanzoita mune zvepabonde zvakawanda nekuita bonhora. Havasi chausal. Zvidzidzo zvinokosha:
Ihukama Hwehutano Makomborero Akasiyana Zvepabonde (2010) akawana kuti zvepabonde zvakabatana nemigumisiro yakanaka, apo kuita bonhora kwakanga kusiri. Mune zvimwe zviitiko kuita bonhora kwakange kusina hanya nehutano hwehutano-kureva kuti kunyanya kurara kunobatanidza nehutano hwevarombo. Mhedziso yekudzokororwa:
"Kubva pane nzira dzakasiyana-siyana, samples, uye zviyero, tsvakurudzo dzinotsvakurudza dzinonyatsoenderana mukuratidzira kuti kuita zvepabonde imwechete (Penile-Vaginal Sexual and the reaction response to it) inosanganiswa, uye mune dzimwe nguva, inokonzera maitiro anobatana nekunaka kwepfungwa uye kushanda. "
"Mimwe miitiro yepabonde (kusanganisira iyo Penile-Vaginal Kuita zvepabonde haibatsiri, sezvinoita makondomu kana kukanganisa kunze kwepenile-vaginal sensations) hazvina kusiyaniswa, kana mune zvimwe zviitiko (sekuita masturbation uye kurara kwepabonde) zvinopesana nekunaka kwepfungwa nemagetsi . "
"Mishonga yekuita zvepabonde, dzidzo dzepabonde, kurapa zvepabonde, uye tsvakurudzo yekuita zvepabonde zvinofanira kuparadzanisa tsanangudzo yehutano hunoenderana nePenile-Vaginal Sexual, uye inowedzerawo zvakanyanya mukuongorora kwavo uye kupindira."
Uyewo ona kuongorora kwenguva pfupi kwebonyora uye utano hwehutano: Kuita bonhora kunobatanidza nePsychopathology uye Prostate Dysfunction: Ongororo pa Quinsey (2012)
Izvo zvakaoma kuyananisa iwo maonero ekuti bonhora inovandudza mamood nezvakawanikwa mune vese vanhukadzi iyo yakakura bonyora frequency inosanganiswa nezvimwe zvinodzvinyirira zviratidzo (Cyranowski et al., 2004; Frohlich & Meston, 2002; Husted & Edwards, 1976), kushoma mufaro (Das , 2007), uye zvimwe zviratidzo zvinoverengeka zvehurombo hwepanyama uye hwepfungwa, izvo zvinosanganisira kushushikana (Costa & Brody, 2011), nzira dzekuzvidzivirira dzepfungwa dzisingakure, kuwedzerwa kweropa reactivity kushushikana, uye kusagutsikana nehutano hwepfungwa nehupenyu hwakawanda ( pakuongorora, ona Brody, 2010). Izvo zvakaenzana zvakaoma kuona kuti kuita bonhora kunosimudzira sei zvido zvepabonde, apo kuwanda kwe bonhora kunowanzo kuve kwakabatana nehusina basa pabonde muvarume (Brody & Costa, 2009; Das, Parish, & Laumann, 2009; Gerressu, Mercer, Graham, Wellings, & Johnson, 2008; Lau, Wang, Cheng, & Yang, 2005; Nutter & Condron, 1985) uye vakadzi (Brody & Costa, 2009; Das et al., 2009; Gerressu et al., 2008; Lau, Cheng, Wang, & Yang, 2006; Shaeer, Shaeer, & Shaeer, 2012; Weiss & Brody, 2009). Kukuru kuita bonhora kazhinji kunoenderana nekusagutsikana kuzhinji nehukama uye kuderera kwerudo kune vamwe (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009). Mukupesana, PVI inowirirana kwazvo zvine hukama noutano huri nani (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Costa & Brody, 2011, 2012), zvirinani zvepabonde basa (Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Nutter & Condron, 1983, 1985; Weiss & Brody, 2009), uye hukama hwepedyo hwehukama (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011).
Uyezve, kunyange zvazvo ngozi shoma yekenza yeprotate yakabatanidzwa nehuwandu hwe ejaculations (pasina tsanangudzo yehupombwe) (Giles et al., 2003) [Cherekedza humbowo hunopesana, zvisinei: "Chirwere cheprostate chinogona kuenzaniswa nemakondomu evanhukadzi: Varume vanoita zvepabonde mune zve 20s uye 30s vanogona kuisa njodzi yakanyanya yekenza yeprotate, tsvakurudzo inoratidza. "], iri PVI frequency iyo inosanganisirwa pamwe nekuderedzwa kwenjodzi, nepo kuita bonhora kazhinji kunowanzoenderana nekuwedzera njodzi (kuti uongorore pamusoro penyaya iyi, ona Brody, 2010). Panyaya iyi, zvinonakidza kucherechedza kuti kuita bonhora kunoenderanawo nemamwe matambudziko eprostate (yepamusoro prostate yakatarwa antigen mazinga uye kuzvimba kana nyoro prostate) uye, zvichienzaniswa neijaculate yakawanikwa kubva kuPVI, iyo ejaculate yakawanikwa kubva pakuita bonhora ine mamaki e hurombo hweprostatic basa uye kushoma kubvisa marara zvigadzirwa (Brody, 2010). Hunhu chete hwepabonde hwakaenderana nehutano hwepfungwa uye hwepanyama ndiPVI. Mukupesana, kuita bonhora kunowanzo kuve kwakabatana nemaindices ehurombo hutano (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Costa & Brody, 2011, 2012). Kune akatiwandei anogona kuita epfungwa uye ehupenyu mafekitori, ayo angave mhedzisiro yesarudzo yechisikirwo inofarira hutano maitiro sechikonzero uye / kana mhedzisiro yekukurudzira kutsvaga, uye kugona kuwana nekunakidzwa, PVI. Mukupesana, kusarudzwa kwe psychobiological nzira dzinopa mubairo kukurudzira kuita bonhora hazvigoneke nekuda kwemutengo wakasimba wemuviri waizoitika kana ukadzora imwe kubva kuPVI nekuiita isingakoshese kugara zvakanaka (Brody, 2010). Zvakawanda zvinonzwisisika, kuita bonhora kunomiririra kumwe kutadza kwenzira dzebonde kutyaira uye hukama hwepedyo, zvisinei hazvo zvingave zvakadaro, uye kunyangwe zvisingawanzoitika zvinosangana pamwe nekuwana PVI. Panyaya iyi, zvinechekucherechedzwa kuti yakakura bonyora frequency inosanganiswa nekusagutsikana neakawanda mamiriro ehupenyu pasina PVI frequency (Brody & Costa, 2009) uye inoita kunge inoderedza zvimwe zvakanaka zvePVI (Brody, 2010).
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“Saka, vanofara sei vanopindura vanoita bonhora munguva pfupi yapfuura kana vachienzaniswa nevaya vasina? Mufananidzo 5 unoratidza kuti pakati pevaya vakapindura avo vakataura sevasina "mufaro" nehupenyu hwavo mazuva ano, 68 muzana yevakadzi ne84 muzana yevarume vakati vakaita bonhora mukati mesvondo rapfuura. Kushamwaridzana zvine mwero nekusafara kunoratidzika kunge kwakaenzana pakati pevarume, asi kwete vakadzi. Pfungwa yedu haisi yekureva kuti kuita bonhora kunoita kuti vanhu vasafare. Zvinogona, asi muchinjiko-chikamu chikamu che data hachibvumidze isu kuongorora izvi. Zvisinei, ndezvechokwadi kutaura kuti varume vanozviti vanofara havana mukana zvakanyanya wekumhan'ara bonhora munguva pfupi yadarika pane varume vasina mufaro. ”
“Bonhora rinechekuitawo nekutaura manzwiro ekusagona kana kutya muhukama uye nematambudziko mukufambisa hukama hwevanhu zvinobudirira. Yepashure-zuva uye yapfuura-svondo vanoita bonhora vanoratidzira zvakanyanya hukama hwehukama huwandu hwehuwandu kupfuura vanoita vakapindura vasina kuzivisa bonyora muzuva rapfuura kana muvhiki rapfuura. Mazuva apfuura nevhiki rapfuura vanoita bonhora vanoratidzira huwandu hwakanyanya hwehukama hwehukama kupfuura zvinoita vakapindura vasina kuzivisa bonyora muzuva rapfuura kana muvhiki rapfuura. ”
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